What's wrong having an affair?
By doctorul
@doctorul (1058)
Romania
49 responses
@wsue1023 (1395)
• United States
4 Oct 06
If it's a man's nature to wonder, he shouldn't be in a committed relationship. Isn't that true? I mean when a man decides to marry, he's giving up that life. If he can't give up that life, he should remain single, otherwise what is his marriage about?
@blondetruly (826)
• United States
4 Oct 06
well if you feel like you have something missing...why did you ever get married to start with?
@PatriciaL (2080)
• United States
4 Oct 06
I have a question to ask you. How would you feel about your wife/girlfriend cheating on you?
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@blondetruly (826)
• United States
4 Oct 06
Whats wrong with having an affair you ask.....hmmmm... well its wrong. And when you are with someone you should love them and if you truly love them you would not want to have an affair. And it will break up your family. Why would you want to?
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• United States
5 Oct 06
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@tandmunlimited (1252)
• United States
6 Oct 06
Thank you, I didn't realize I didn't answer you question, I can't get on here for long when I do now, infact like I wrote I am leaving here, but the answer in my opinion is, I think when two people are joined together, they become one, as in if you was to hurt, they would, so if you had an affair, in my opinion, it should hurt the person knowing that they would be hurting their mate.. If it just fell in their lap, and they did it, I still think it is wrong.. If someone feels that they need to cheat, I think they should not have gotton married, and if they realized this to late, they should talk to their mate, work something out, of an open relationship, the mate should always know Before it happens.. Stuff don't Just happen.. Too MANY PEOPLE base their lives off "FEELINGS" Instead of knowledge, or what they have thought thru.. Love is Knowing you care for someone, that you would do anything for that person, my husband LOVES me for instance, he has went thru 2 years of our life misreable, and still gave 110%, he didn't base his "LOVE" off of a "F-E-E-L-I-N-G", he weighs it based off of facts, I honestly know that if some sexy woman strips in front of him, he would not touch her, b/c he wouldn't let his "F-E-E-L-I-N-G-S" "C-O-N-T-R-O-L" HIM... I hope you like my answer, and again I am sorry to not have answered that.. Have a Blessed Day.. I HOPE to BE BACK here to talk to you SOON....
@shi_2000_21 (2680)
• India
5 Oct 06
with affair do you mean extra marital affair or something else, plese be clear about your questions.
@stillseeking19 (68)
• United States
5 Oct 06
i might seem completely ignorent by asking this but what is an extra marital affair even that doesnt sound like something i would want to find out my husband is doing .....please explain
@dwhisper (12)
• United States
5 Oct 06
It really depends on a lot of things as to why it is wrong. I will give you my opinions on why it is wrong TO ME.
#1: I am a Christian and it is wrong to be "intimate" outside of marriage for Christians.
#2: If you are in a relationship and begin LYING to your mate so that you can cheat -- there is another reason it is wrong.
#3: It is hurtful to another.
#4: If you want lots of women, then just don't get involved in a serious relationship.
These are my personal reasons for why it is wrong and I know this will vary from person to person.
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@michael666 (613)
• China
5 Oct 06
You can have as many affairs as you want -- if you are prepared to accept the consequences, among which could well be the irrevocable breakdown of the marriage. Marriage almost always involves the commitment of two people to each other, forsaking ALL others. Many people have affairs because they lack the self-discipline needed for a long-term commitment and are not mature enough to cope with the inevitable upsets that are part and parcel of a long-term relationship. If short term satisfaction is all someone is after perhaps they should be honest with their partner in the beginning and say this is what they want; " I love you dear, but when I get bored with you or you upset me I will go and seek comfort with someone else to stroke my own ego." Many animals are promiscuous ( although some mate for life) if a man is quite happy being an animal then he can go out and bonk as many others as he wants -- it's really his choice. If it were really acceptable then he would be able to discuss his actions openly and freely, with affairs most people involved tend to be secretive and deceitful, this is enough of an indication to say that somethings not right about it -- isn't it?
@riia0033 (344)
• India
5 Oct 06
u r 100% true . man only man really can never leave its nature .he will wander here & there whether smone really love him . in front of his love(may b wife or girl friend or beloved) he behaves like most innocent &behind ,he cheats he flurts with others .alas! really he can never b loyal.
@bharathshah (655)
• India
5 Oct 06
I think there is nothing wrong in it if u r loyal to ur partner it is actually fun to have a secret love story
@mohit2006 (793)
• India
5 Oct 06
there is nothing wrong in having an affair only if the person is above 18 yrs or else he should not have an affair becoz he has to concentrate on his studies and rather not waste his time in wooing his girlfriend
@vipul20044 (5794)
• India
5 Oct 06
Nothing is wrong in having an affair, u may enjoy it though thing's get wrong when ur wife, gf etc gets to knw about it
@simply_coool (384)
• India
5 Oct 06
Nothing worng in an affair... if its bot done for hurting the feelings and emotions of some 1... if love is the only reason then its best realtionship a human can be in...
@rlporter (515)
• United States
5 Oct 06
It's disrespectful (to everyone involved), demoralizing, and disgusting. Man was not designed to sleep around... man was designed to be with one woman, to honor her, to respect her, to cherish and value her. Having an affair is a total contradiction to everything man was created to be. Men (or women) who cheat are insecure, selfish, and immoral. I don't even want to think about the diseases being passed around...
@fionaskye (85)
• Philippines
5 Oct 06
do you mean that if men are designed to walk around, he too would not mind the women to walk around? how would you feel if your wife engages in romantic love with a lot of other men?
