Mother in law= MONSTER in law???

When i was dating a girl some time ago - we d=both though it is somethin special and it will last forever so she decided to make a meeting to show me to her parents. After a whiel it turned out that there will be only a mother in law present. Well i was not very nervous about this since i never got any aprticular problem in making a good relationship with anyone aespecially with people older then me :) So we came in and started to chat and the more we talked the more nervous i became - i though her mother dont like me at all and after we came out of mother's house i told that to me girlfriend. She said that that could be possible but this doesnt really metter what her mother thinks about me :) But later she told me that she spoke about it with her mother and her mother said that i've just had a bad impression since she liked me very much and she thinks i'm a nice guy. Well from this point i really became nervous about visiting her cause it was so embarassing to know that she know that i though she dont like me :)

i don't want to live with my mother in law after i get married, it's not because im afraid that she'll become a monster in law, but it's just that i want some privacy with my wife. But if the conditions forced you to live with your mother in law, then during the relationship period (before get married) you'd better approaching his family, especially his mother, gives good impression to her. Just imagine if someday you have a son, what kind of girl that you'd allow your son to date with ? ... it's normal if that you and his mother have some concideration and worrying about something. That is simply because both of you and his mother are loves him and want his happiness (and also your happiness)

do you know that there is actually a movie called "Monster in law"..? Anyway, no I dont think so, and I'm sure there're lots of others who share my opinion...it just differs from person to person. But it is true that I've noticed most of the "monsters" in law are the mothers of boys. The mothers of girls are relatively better. Dunnno why this is so, maybe the mothersof boys think they have some kind of authority in their son's marriage just cuz they're the mummy's of the stronger gender...??

my boyfriends mom is so nice to me... but the only problem is that they are koreans... and I don't know how to speak their language.. its a challenge for me.. maybe I should start reading and watching korean films.. im glad they're all nice to me, but if the time comes that we get married..me too, I don't want to live with them... hehe

when i got married into a family that my father selected for me ,i was much exited and gave all the love and affection that i used to exchange with my parents but to my wonder the chemical reaction wasn't the same.Really ur naming style was really true ,my MONSTER IN LAW, till date has made my life tough for me and i have no method to save myself from the everyday mental harrasment .God help the world from the MONSTER IN LAWS.

i ave a boyfriend for 3 years and half and if i will marry him then i will have a very nice mother in law, is very nice and i think she loves me...

i live in a joint family with my mother in law and brother in laws.it takes time to get adjusted and find ur own place i the family after that everything is going smooth with little diagreements now and then.but it is an advantage to have an elderly person at home for advise and guidance some people may take it as interferance but i take it as experience without experienceing!!

No, lol. I dont think it'll be that scary. It's right that mom in law wont be the same as your own mom. I believe there's a "queen of hearts" who is fully respected in every family, and it's usually the mom. If you can win her heart, then your position will be safe. Well I dont think I'd mind to live with the in laws, because I dont want them to get impressions that I'm stealing her son by moving out right away after the wedding. I think I'm gonna stay with them for a while, let's say for 2 months before moving to our own house. Cheers!

I haven't had problems with moms before but I don't know about living with a future mother in law. That might be a bit much. It would depend on the circumstance.

there are some good in-laws an bad in-laws,i wouldnt move in unless you get along with them now without liveing with them.you need to find out how they live an what are their rules of their home.best way to get along with them is.you have to remember its her home an you will have to do what she said,an that could be tuff.

there are good and bad ones,but it is better not to move in with her to maintain your dignity.

Lol ! your post subject is very attractive... It depends on what kind of mother in law i get... Strict or cool types or confused ( worst ) .. Livin with in laws is a worst nightmare for every bachelor here in this world i suppose.. :D nJOI !

not necessarily , it depends on person to person sometimes they are really wierd but you can't always blame her. you should try to make her happy instead of criticizing her.

Hi Pearl, What happened to you is also happened to my GF. She is too scared and afraid being in the middle of my family especially my mother. I must admit that my mother is a very talkative person. However, she is a great mom indeed. I have so many times explained to my GF about my mother charactheristic. However, she never understand this (may be this is a charactherisitic of a woman that always feel she is correct and other wrong). Anyway, as time go on, I like to ask my GF to go together with my family and get along. Time after time passed, my GF never complain about my mom and I see that both of them can get together by the time. My mother cares to my GF so much, she feels her as her daugther. So, what I can tell to you is. Do not too scared or be afraid of what that is not happened yet. Just let the wind flow and try to understand each other (you and your mom inlaw to be). I believe that you will not have the same feeling as now.

It entirely depends on you how you start your relationship with any person in this world. If Life is demanding you will end up in problem with any of the relation in this world. Only exception is Mother/Mother-In-Law. Be friend to her & you will be the queen of the world.

i want to my life with my mom after my marriage because she is god who live with me.

my pal.I never would want to stay with my mother-in-law.The reason is that,im going to get married against their will.My fiance is from a different caste and I belong to a backward caste.However Im much much richer than him.None of his family habits nor my family habits will match the two of us. We want peace in our family unit and we want our love to stay beautiful forever.My future mother-in-law doesnt like me because she thinks iv changed this guy and he is obsessed with me.Tell me what else can I do.

i've heard of some in-laws,mother in law,father in law thing messing round. i am just so lucky to find one who are truly good to me. God just allowed me to meet them. and i am thankful to them also for allowing me to be a member of the family.

not at all its upto u just change the way u think as all fingers are not of equal size in urhands, same all people are not same nature

I don't think that mother in law=monster in law from my experience, my mother in law is really nice. I don't remember that she does anything bad to me,on the contrary she's really accommodating, she even takes care of my kids while my husband & i are at work. she even prepare food for us & clean the house, esp. when it's really messy. She doesn't stop me from doing things that i like, or when i go out & comes home in the wee hours... To cut my story short, i don't think there's notting wrong with her, the problem is me. Eventhough she's nice I'm not close to her. I don't even talk to her on personal matters & It irritates me that she takes care of things that i'm suppose to do (like cooking & cleaning). I don't pretend to like her & say "thank you" what she did. I know I'm really bad, I even got goosebumps when thinking of what karma will bring me in the future. Maybe there are really people that we won't get along with, even if they're nice or something. that there are people,that you saw for the first time & you get "bad blood" or something... well, for now goodluck to you.. anyway, we'll not marry their parents & we don't have the obligation to live with them...