Dating a man with a child/children..
By mjhump85
@mjhump85 (10)
United States
January 16, 2007 2:26pm CST
I have been dating this guy for a little while now and he just tells me that he has a 3yr old son. I dont have a problem with kids but i just wish he could have told me sooner. How should i go about this?
5 responses
@momathome (474)
• Canada
16 Jan 07
Well he should've been honest with you from the start. Ask him if there is anything else you should know about before you take your relationship any further. And tell him to be honest with you from than on.Men have a tendency once they start to be dishonest they stay that way. But atleast he told.
@mjhump85 (10)
• United States
16 Jan 07
Well that was a subject that the both of us never got into. When we met he was or is my bestfriends fiance's bestfriend so when i talked to her about him she was like go for it. but there is still a lot i dont know about him as well as he dont know about me.
@momathome (474)
• Canada
22 Jan 07
well if this is a new relationship i wouldn't worry to much about maybe he was just waiting for the right time to tell you.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
16 Jan 07
He should have been honest but hey.. I was with a guy for 4 years, living together and were engaged and I learned that he had kids almost 3 years into the relation. he had 2 kids in a city close by. he used to visit them only during the day (i thinugh he was at work)
That was a shocker and i think that i never got over it
@mjhump85 (10)
• United States
16 Jan 07
well we just met so theres a lot i dont know about him. theres a lot he dont know about me as well. how i see it, is if we take things slow then it might be ok. I mean he told me about the child but im not sure how to go about it. so far i really like him.
@bennysavio (75)
• India
23 Jan 07
i don't think there is a problem with your situation as long as you are comfortable...since he told you about his kid there is absolutely no mitake in your relationship even though he was late in tellin you the facts....he might have wanted the relationship to continue,since telling you about his kid on the first phase might have spoiled the relationship...i feel,he wanted to secure the relationship first and then wanted to tell you about his kids...
@awesomeone (55)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 07
Well i used to be have a relation with a man who have 4 kids, and from beginning he always say single... and then i find out his secreet from his older son... its hurt me alot really hurt... i ask him why he lie, he just said that he afraid to loose me if i know he has kids... so then i just forgive him and now we be a good friend,,,:) so i think maybe u can know more about him... and always be open minded so he will not afraid to tell u the truth...
@marief2rnurse (2704)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Well there are some people who date and probably don't think of the future so he didn't say he had a son right away. I'm sure he didn't want to freak you out. He is telling you now so you should decide. I'm a single mom of 3 and I always say that on the first meeting and look at me, still single LOL.
