Divorcing Couple's House Divided by Wall
By babystar1
@babystar1 (4233)
United States
January 20, 2007 5:51pm CST
would you want to live with your husband like this, a couple by the name of Chana and Simon Taub are separated by a wall — one that was built straight down the middle of their home to keep the bickering spouses apart.
Neither one wanted to move out of their beloved Brooklyn house The wall separates the living room from the staircase on the bottom floor of there three-story brown-brick home whose market value has been put at $923,000 by the city. One of the couple's children is staying with Dad; three others are staying with Mom.
The couples therapist in Philadelphia, says when spouses go so far as to refuse to leave a house while divorcing, it often means neither is ready to move on.Would you ever do something like this?
13 people like this
47 responses
@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
20 Jan 07
If I wanted a divorce really bad and wasn't remaining friends with my ex then I for sure would not want to live like that. I mean, if I wanted the house and so did he then I would make it part of the divorce that the house got sold and we split the profits.
this to me is just silly behavior and certainly is not setting a good example for the children. Come on, act like adults for pete's sake. Maybe they should do some more therapy before actually getting the divorce like the therapist says, maybe they aren't really wanting to to divorce.
I don't really know but I think they are both being childish and I would not do that.
@babystar1 (4233)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I would never act like that myself.If it would go that far as a divorce for me I would also sell the house and split the profits.I would never put up a wall and live like that.
@shywolf (4514)
• United States
20 Jan 07
LOL! You know, I kind of like this idea. Not that I ever wish to get a divorce, once I hopefully do get married. But for the time being, they don't have to actually live together in the same way as usual, and the kids don't have to really be seperated from either parent because both parents are still very nearby. I realize that you said that one child is living with the father and one with the mother, but it would be just like having the other parent next door.. only it would truly be a bit closer than that. This seems like a neat arrangement, if they can stand to still live so near to each other! *laugh*
@babystar1 (4233)
• United States
21 Jan 07
Thanks for comment I thought it was pretty funny myself.
1 person likes this
@rosey3223 (1566)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I want you to know that this actually made me laugh!!!
But if I was getting a divorce (just like I have in the past) I would leave. I loved the home that me and my ex had, but not enough to keep on suffering like my child and I were. There is a good point made in that if my home was worth about a million dollars, then I would really have to consider ALL of the options and that I MAY not want to leave. But to divide it like that and still have to suffer having to know that they were right there behind a wall, still in my house...I think I would go mad!!!
1 person likes this
@babystar1 (4233)
• United States
21 Jan 07
When I first read about this ,it also made me laugh.But I could never live like that.
2 people like this
@citygirl (1080)
• Canada
21 Jan 07
Hi , I live in toronto Canada and I read that in the paper today as well. I think it was the judge who ordered the wall untill the divorce division and settlement where decided. It is kind of riduculs , I think the therapist is right don't you. I don't think they really want to seperate, I think they just want to fight. lol.
2 people like this
@babystar1 (4233)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I agree with you,they both dont want to seperate and they both want the house. And all they do is fight,
@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
21 Jan 07
Divorcing Couples Home Divided by a wall is a bizarre story indeed. I can see why the therapist claims that it usually means that neither of the two are ready to move on.. My huntch however would be that they decide to resort to a wall because neither of them plan on leaving. I bet that in the end, when the money is all worked out, whoever doesn't get the house will take their share of the money and move. Maybe they will have to sell the house. To your question though, Would I ever do something like this? Probably not. I'd have to be more in love with the house than I was with the spouse in order to do something quite this bizarre.
@babystar1 (4233)
• United States
21 Jan 07
both the wife and husband are in love with the house.that is why they both wantthe house. thanks for yourreply
@babystar1 (4233)
• United States
21 Jan 07
Both husband and wife are in love with the house that is why they both want the house.Thanks for your reply
@OOHCUTE2340 (761)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I don't think it is a good idea, if they were having that many problems to divorce they should do just that "separate from each other". I also think it sends a very mixed message to the children about what is happening. To me they sound to be a very selfish, self-centered and spoil man and women with no forethought or foresight for thier children or themselves. :)
@babystar1 (4233)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I do agree with eveything you said. Thanks for your comment
@wiessied (646)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I would never do something like that ,that is just stupid why not just go in seperate rooms there are walls between them.If there that much bickering where you cant stand each other just get it over with sell the house,split the money ,and move on.
1 person likes this
@neon2000 (2756)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
It depends on what the couples agreed upon. If they remain friends after the divorce and they both want to have the house then it would be fine to put walls between them. In other partners who divorced, they separated with bitterness that's why they can't stand to be in under in one roof separated by wall. They want it to be sold and divide the profit with them.
1 person likes this
@magdollars23 (1685)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I would never do this.. if i was getting divorced we couldnt live together. And if neither one of us wanted to leave the house then I would say we sell the house and split the money or something. I have heard of couples who continue to live together though after they have decided to divorce and who see other people but then come home to each other. Its weird.
1 person likes this
@patgalca (18181)
• Orangeville, Ontario
21 Jan 07
After my boyfriend broke up with me, I took up with his friend (or he took up with me LOL!) and I became pregnant. I did not know who the father was so the three of us decided to share a house together until we knew who the father was. I was still crazy about boyfriend number one and couldn't stand living in the same house with him and not being able to be with him. When he slept in late I always wondered whether he had a woman in his bedroom with him.
No, I am so glad my ex-husband left the province never to return again... and that boyfriend who broke up with me is now my husband. Tee-hee.
@BittyBiddy (2903)
• Ireland
21 Jan 07
It sounds totally crazy. I feel sorry for the kids, but I feel sorry for the kids in any relationship that breaks down like that. Is that not a fairly high market value? Would it not have been possible to buy two separate houses? I suppose neither of them want to leave the family home. Surely building a wall down the middle will destroy the value of the house though. I don't know. Whatever works for them I guess.
1 person likes this
@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
21 Jan 07
Wow. Strange. I'm not sure I could do it. What happens if either wish to entertain a new romantic partner? So, is the kitchen shared? You could be sitting in the kitchen and the old spouce walk in? Would take some real getting used to. When I went through my divorce, we were just not that friendly!
1 person likes this
@babystar1 (4233)
• United States
21 Jan 07
She gets the top floor, where the bedrooms are situated, along with the kitchen on the second floor. He gets the living room on the first floor and the dining room on the second floor. So that they don't run into each other on the second floor, the door between the dining room and the kitchen is barricaded on both sides.
@anoyzz (32)
• Portugal
21 Jan 07
oh dear god... how can they live like that? if they're really into separation, they'd just go to separated houses! That’s just show-off, they want to be news on the newspapers nothing more. How can they live in a house divided by a wall? i mean, is everything divided? like the bathroom? that's just not possible..
1 person likes this
@cuddilybeans (27)
• Canada
21 Jan 07
I am in the middle of a divorce after being seperated for almost 4 years but yeah I know that I could not have that kind of thing going on...... they are usually an ex for a reason..... it is unhealthy for the kids to think that is ok to live like that........ I cant imagine what is going on in their heads but I do find it funny to some degree.......
1 person likes this
@caribe (2465)
• United States
21 Jan 07
It is hard to say unless I was actually put into that situation. I don't think I would. I think it would be very difficult to do something like that but I guess it does have its advantages where the children are concerned since they can still see both parents everyday. I would just have to be in the situation. I can't judge their decision. If it works for them, Great.
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
21 Jan 07
no way, i would not care how much my house was worth, i would move. there is no way i could live in the same house as my ex even if a brick wall was built. that is too close for comfort. my ex lives 10 minutes from me and i think that is still too close to me.
1 person likes this
@sonam14 (141)
• India
21 Jan 07
first of all i dont understand why people want to get separated from the one whom they loved madly some time back,,i dont believe in divorce.
and also if i would ever fall in this situation i would prefer to die instead of living without my beloved
1 person likes this
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
21 Jan 07
If they can make it work for them, and can truly be happy. I would think if they are arround each other that the squabbing may continue just to a lesser degree.I dont think I would ever agree to that but its different stokes for different folks.
@JellyBeans (639)
• Canada
21 Jan 07
No, I would never do such a thing because these people are just plain crazy!
THey have kids, they should think about the kids. Instead of divorcing!. Atleast the kids can get to see each other very easly..
1 person likes this
