Do you hold grudges?

Hi mom2boys thats cute. I hold grudges too I just cant help it. I think its only natural. I just dont know how to let things go I guess. I dont see anything wrong with holding a grudge. And I certainly wouldnt worry about it.

I can hold a grudge forever . I can act like nothing is wrong but I never forget . Eventually though , it usually blows up in my face because when I decide I have had enough I blow up and let the person hear everything that has been bothering me for however long .

I use to hold grudges. It just weighed in too much on my energy. So I learned to talk about things bothering me. Or I just don't sweat the small stuff. It's better and healthier I think.

girl you know i hold grudges! i am probably one of the most unforgiving people ever! but im seriously trying to work on it and become a better person instead of one with hate in my heart towards those who have wronged me. they are only human as am i, and we are not perfect. i need to learn to forgive when someone apologizes instead of telling them to stick their apology where the sun dont shine! haha

I do remember if someone said or did really bad to me. but, they just have to say soory and i can burry the hatchet.

hey !u wanna just keep urself from holding grudges with others ? it's easy buddy... grudges mostly develope because when u just think of their injustice towads u... but u would have received many goody stuffs from that person...so just get those things which that person has done to u into ur head

To forgive and forget is easier said then done! However, it is not worth every minute of your life holding grudges against those who have hurt you. You need to move on with your life. Worst is, those people who have hurt you may be sipping champagne and not aware that you're upset.

I will hold a grudge but not be actively mad at you...if that makes sense. When I am really mad it's like I have a hot fiery coal in my chest. As long as I don't have it I can be cordial to you but still hold my grudge. I'll hold them forever unless that person does or says something big to make me change my mind.

I usually tend to forget watever,good or bad that has happened to me....So u can decide for urself if i am a "grudge-holder" or not!!!I mean i forget them as in "trying to put them away".I'll surely remember the good and bad that someone did to me,only to do him more good someday....but then i'll make him pay for his bad deed if he'd done,or do a double for the good guys!!!!Nevertheless,i'll do just good!!! :)

like you i cant forget easily.. someitmes it takes me months to forgive soemone i really hate.. i dont want to force mydelf in forgiving someone if i really dont mean cause that would just cause a bigger problem..

GRUDGES!!!!!!no wayyyyyyyyyyy A person shhud be forgiving.u know u cant hold these bad feelings for others.for how many people u will keep this grudges for,a the end u find that u bursted out everything.u r in the no man`s land.yaaaaaa i know its bit difficult but at the same time u must understand that holding this things make ur life worst. the remedy for this can be done in many ways.like talk to the persons with whom u have this feelings in a productive manner,or,dont keep in the heart...spill out then and there...be on the spot be frank be clear at ur heart.yaaaaaa i know it may hurt people at that time but at the later stages wen they realise it,they will feel guiltyand will feel sorry.this has an other advantage to u,which is that u will not have to store anything bad for the others.u have spoken out everything and now u r clear at ur point of view. let the other person feel sorry abt it rather u suffering from that.

I never seem to hold grudges over anyone, maybe because i had short term memory, i never rembmer what i am mad or anything the next day, i wont talk to the person thought till they talk to me. so sometime it took up to alot time for things to solve

It depends on what the person did to you. As for me, I don't really hold grudges that easily. I can easily forgive a person if his/her apologies are sincere enough. And besides, holding grudges won't result to anything good. =)

I also hold grudges...I think sometimes you cant forgive someone for something they did when its something no respectful person, or even better yet, a best friend would normally do! although sometimes, its best to let it go and just vent somehow..some cant talk it over but you dont act yourself when a grudge has bottled up enough and you start to affect your work, school, and relationships with friends and family. So something someone else did, hurts you in the long run. Kind of hard to say, its like one of those 'its easier said when ur outside the box'

I used to be a big grudge holder, too. I would remember things from 10 years ago and hold it against a person! Im trying to change that though and learning to give people a second chance when I think they deserve it! You have to try and not dwell on the past. It cant be changed, you just have to deal with it and move past it!

While I would like to be able to forgive and forget more often to people who upset me, I have to admit that I rarely ever do -- it SEEMS easy, to talk about, but I find it hard to trust someone who's hurt me in the past, so most of the time, I keep a grudge as a way of protecting myself.

i am holding the biggest grudge against my babys dad. whom has never payed child support and never was really a great father or boyfriend in the past, i cant ever speak to him no matter what - he left me all by myself when i was pregnant with his baby, then when i had her a year later we had a domestic dispute in which i ran away from the apt into the parking lot, and an off duty police started questioning my actions and he lied to them saying i was to blame. - truly if i was to blame i wouldnt have been running away. he still thinx its ok to talk to me and call me on our daughters birthday even though he hasnt seen her since - but someone else - will usually tell him my number is private - i dont think he realizes how much those events had impacted my life - i dont think he ever will. - so yes i hold grudges, but i think they are effective to keep you mentally and emotionally safe from others attempts at reaching you - when something should be over! you cant just let them go - even your inner psyche most likely has a reason for these grudges.

I'm not the type of person who holds grudges but I've experience also holding grudges although it wasn't that long. Holding grudges is tough. It bothers me that's why its better to just forgive and just forget. By doing that, you'll attain a peace of mind and its more relaxing.

i have the same problem too. im easy to be with. but i get mad quickly too. with the person who wronged me... i felt i don't wnt to talk with them nor forgive them if they even ask for forgiveness. i tried forgiving once, however, when the same person wronged me again, the past grudge and argument came back.. i mean the issue before... anyway.. let's say good luck to us who will try to release those grudges. :D

you need to let go of your grudges... coz it will get you really really upset when you are not doing something and then suddenly you will think of the bad things that happened to you. it is good to have a peacefull mind.