parent-children relationship, is going good or bad???

@makaira (1158)
Philippines
January 26, 2007 8:41am CST
how is your relationship with your parents??? and to parents how is your relationship with your kids? do they change in time? doe it get better or is it getting worst? for me, my relationship with my parents are doing well.. as i get older they become more open to me about things that i do not know of when i was still a kid... and there relationship with my friends also became good. they are more open and to them now as compared to when i was in high school. i think age has a big factor on parent-children relationship. dont you think so???
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@FrancyDafne (2047)
• Italy
27 Jan 07
Uhm.... very interesting this discussion, and pregnant with meaning too. My relationship with my parents was neither good nor bad, because I have ever had no relationship with them. It's very hard to admit, to me, but this is the truth, but now, instead, I have a son and I could start a very good relationship with him, and as he loves his grandparents (my parents), I'm recovering (I mean: re-starting a relationship with them, escuse me, but my English is bad, I hope you understand) my "no-relationship" with them. Children are magic human beings, they can do very very difficult things.
@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
gald to hear that... cheers! :)
@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
sad to hear that. i hope you could get along with your parents and have good relationship with them. as for you and your son, the best of luck. hope you will have a very good relationship with him. cheers!
• Italy
29 Jan 07
Thank you for the "good luck" for my future relationship with my son. Things are never the same, time flyes and things change, so my relationship with my parents is changing now.... and is getting better.... thanks to my young son....
@dmanuel (411)
27 Jan 07
well we my mom and i have gone through stages. when i was little it was really, im the mom your the kid, but as we grow older we become more comfortable with each other and we treat each other as bestfriends. she's really cool and very understanding.
• Romania
27 Jan 07
This means that you have a good mom.
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
that's good to hear! cheers to that! :)
@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
i agree to that...
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
27 Jan 07
I dont have a relationship with my parents but I do have children and the relationship I have with them is fantastic...We are the best of friends yet at the same time I am the boss LOL ("you arent the boss of me!"..."like hell I'm not go to your damn room" LOL)...We have a very open and honest relationship, my kids know they can come to me with anything and they do..I treat them with respect and have nothing but unconditional love for them and they with me...I treat them as individuals and equals rather than an extention of me that should be seen and not heard (I cant stand when parents do that)....I have always included them in family decisions, I have always acknowledged and acted on the fact that no matter their age they have opinions and a voice of their own and I want to hear it....and I realize that even though they are brother and sister, they are two very different ppl and I raise them accordingly to their personalities......
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• Jamaica
27 Jan 07
I like the way you and your children are friends and still your the boss because alot of parents once they have too much of a friendly relationship with their kids fail to discipline them well enough.
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
wow!!! i so like your style as a parent! i bet your one cool parent! how i wish all parents are like you. i think you did a very well... cheers!
• Pakistan
27 Jan 07
Thanks for respöndin but dear all i believe is that this relationship depends solely on the training of the children! The better they are trained the better is the result!
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
dont you think that the training of the parents some has something to do with the training of the kids?
@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
26 Jan 07
I have a really good relationship with my mother. SHe's like my best. WE have developpe this friendship when my parent got divorce. As for my father, it's not pretty. We didn't talk to each other for maybe 4-5 years. Everytime we were talking he was talking against my mom. I decide not to call him and wait for him to call me. In 4-5 years he never called me. Also I feel like he stole my little sister from us. She doesn't want to talk to me or my mom or the rest of the family. She's saying that we never loved her. he kinda brainwash her by buying her everything she wanted. Maybe in some year it,s gonna be different. Of course I will call him if I would get pregnant or married.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
26 Jan 07
just like you, my mom is my bestfriend in the world. my dad and mom do not live together anymore. but still, i love my dad since he's been nice to us. i am sorry to hear about your story about your sister and your relationship to your dad. i hope in due time, everything will be better for you.
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
that's so sad :( hope you could fix your relationship with your dad... may in the years to come when everything is already healed...
• India
27 Jan 07
well..for me the parent-daughter relationship had always been more of a duty..well i dont mean to say that we dont love each other,but on the contrary they've been more bound by rules..they do a lot for me and regarding the age factor,the only difference i seem to see here is that they started to worry more..lol.In short my parents are just parents and not 'friends' that i want them to be!..this has always been like this..and will always be!
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
sad to hear this but i still believe that everything is well with you and your parents.
@gberlin (3836)
27 Jan 07
As a parent, I have always had a good relationship with my kids. Now that they are 22 and 27 and adults, our relationship has changed. They are able to make their own decisions now and I am more like an advisor than a guardian. They ask me for advice instead of me telling them what to do. I have enjoyed each stage in my kids lives and will continue to enjoy them.
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
congratulations to you! i hope that will continue in the years to come. your one great parent! cheers!
• United States
27 Jan 07
I don't talk to my dad and my mom acts like a child a lot, so I tend to only talk to her about once a week. She also talks a lot, so sometimes I can't stand to hear her for too long. I just hope my kids don't think that about me when they get older.
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
that's sad. hope you will have a good relationship with your parents soon. hopefully if there is a problem, you could fix it with them. best of luck!
@ritak3 (52)
• India
27 Jan 07
hey friends its the same with me. well it depends upon your parents how they bring us up. my parents have been more closer to me as i grew up. they tell me everything that i could face on this earth. they know my friends let them be my boyfriends, they got to know my choice too. i remember when i was in school few of my friends parents were so strick that they dint let them do anything. but i have been lucky that i got my parents like this. they understand me the best than anyone else. they are my everything. my relation with my parents have been great and awesome.
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
cheers to that! i really like parents who understands their kids. your parents dont just understand you, they also trust you. im happy to hear your story.
@addy4all (638)
• India
27 Jan 07
welll my relationship with my parents are good...no matter how angry we get but in the end we love our parents a lot......
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
yeah, no matters how angry we are with each other we tend be in harmony again just after a few minutes. cheers!
@chel621 (98)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
I'm a mother of 2 kids and I'm so happy that we have such a nice relationship.. Were not just treating each other as parent and child relationship, but we're bestfriends...
@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
congratulations! you did it very well! cheers to that!
• Indonesia
27 Jan 07
My relationship with my parents are mutely. We barely talk even my mom and dad are at home almost every day. I don't know, i'm just the type of guy who tend to say nothing if not asked or something. Me with my mom is like me with someone i don't know. My mom never hear to what i said. If i said something, she don't care, she just don't want to hear my opinion and always do whatever she like but at the end, tend to causing problem for someone else. Sometimes my dad get mad if my mom do that.
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
that is so sad. im so sorry to hear that. maybe in time your relation ship with parents will improve. maybe you should talk things out with your parents.
• Nigeria
27 Jan 07
You are very much correct. There are things my parents communicate to me now that I never got from them as a kid. I think why they did this is because, I was not much in control of my emotions then. There is something they said about me now and I know that if they had said it early than now, I would just take it as a sign of hatred and lack of trust in me. At different stages in our lifes we expect a different level of openness from our parents. Our discussions with them also vary enormously.
@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
i agree. as we go through our life, our parents also adjusts with just in the same manner that we adjust to them. being a parent is indeed difficult. same way being a child.
• India
27 Jan 07
well..for me the parent-daughter erlationship had always been abstract..more like a duty. I dont mean to say thet we dont love each other,but it sometimes seem that we're more bound by rlues than love.Ofcourse they do so much for me and i too do things they want me to do mostly. But the basic attachment is missing of maybe we can say..they're not my friends..And yes,,its always been that way here! As for the age factor,the only change that i can see regarding my relation with parents is that they seem more worried..lol..
@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
more worried with what? just currious. i mean, i think, parents worry more with their kids not going to the right path and all as compared to a grown up... :)
@anne_143god (5387)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
I think it depends on the parents on how their children will treat them now adays. Parents should really discipline their children to have good relationship. I think it also depend on the environment now it has a big factor on childrens behavior.
@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
i also agree with you. the environment does play a major factor in our relationship with our parents. and i thikn disciplining children is one of the biggest challenge for parents.
• India
27 Jan 07
Parent children relationship goes smoothly and rarely in some family it happens a trouble but not more
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
yeah. i hope yours is going smoothly. cheers to that!
• Nigeria
27 Jan 07
The parent child relationship has been hurt because both parents need to work to meet the monetary demands of the household. We also have many single parent relationships going on and not just single women. There are alot of single men now with children. The stress of the workplace is often reflected in the home, thus young kids are experiencing alot more tension and stress. TV is also harming the parent child relationship by picturing adults as real idiots and showing thier children as far superior at decison making. These are the negatives. On the other hand, alot of my friends waited until they were older to have their kids. These people seem to have more honest and loving interactions with their kids. I feel the gender based has somewhat dimished by mom is still portrayed as the ultimate caregiver. I am not making a conclusion that this is right or wrong, this is just still the image that seems to be projected by society.
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
i agree with the television thing. it does give some negative effects with your relationship with kids. it can even steal your time with them. instead of having fun together, the kisd just sit in the sala and watch tv.
@ktmpok (611)
• Nepal
27 Jan 07
Relationship with mine parents is going quite well.Not too bad and not so good also.But i don't chat with mine father too much as i do with mine mom.I think that also as children grows they just want to live their own life as they want and they just loose a healthy relationship with their parents.
@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
well i think we should maintain a healthy relationship with our parents though we have our own life.
@rein2410 (809)
• Australia
27 Jan 07
Its good and its always been good and its constant. Yes, I agree with you that age has a big factor, esspecially when you actually got married, your relationship with parents will be going bad because you have to spend time more with your spouse rather than with your parents. Problems these days are that people do not actually care for their parents after they are married .that is bad. Dont you know that parents are actually the one that makes you what it is.
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
that is really bad. i really dont understand people who tries to forget their parents when they are already married. maybe they will undrstand that when they become parents themselves.
@cicci8331 (178)
• Pakistan
27 Jan 07
I love my parents so much,and our relationship getting better than before.
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
cheers to that!