Are you happy with your life?

United States
January 26, 2007 8:37pm CST
I realized today that I am not depressed. I am really unhappy in my marriage. Let me explain... We had a baby over a year ago (almost 13 months ago). Ever since then, my husband does not like to take us out (to the grocery store, out to eat, etc). He'd rather have my son and I stay home while he goes... I don't get to go out very much...and it's getting to me. So I am trying to make the time to go out on walks with my son. :) Especially on the nice days... There have been some nice sunny days, and I went out on a walk with him yesterday. So I ask you... Are you happy with your life? :) Please share! I need some inspiration!
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@GardenGerty (111113)
• United States
27 Jan 07
I have an almost one year old granddaughter, and my daughter and her little family live a long way away.It is winter, and I hear some similar longing and wistfulness and pure isolation from her. I also remember those phases of my own life, twenty five years ago. Have you and your husband talked about this? Is he not able to take care of the son and let you get out once in awhile? My son-in-law does some. How is your sleep routine, do you get enough sleep? Do you take vitamins? You are doing good for yourself to go out in the fesh air and sunshine with your son. I realize, this is not the topic of the discussion, at least not completely. Yes, and no, I am happy with my life, but I am not. I have a job I love, that is not year round, but the bills are. There have been some employment issues for my husband, and we have bills we cannot pay. I have just taken a second job. I would rather be home doing myLot, or something else. My husband does not do as much at home as I think he should. However, Will Rogers once said,"Most people are generally as happy as they make up their mind to be." So I keep making up my mind to go ahead and be happy.
• India
27 Jan 07
You know what i am not a very lucky person and neither a quick learner... i have lot of difficulties to face and faced.... i still am happy cause you know why... i have my love and i want to make her happy as much as i can and i really want o give her everything and for that am ready to face everything... i need not bother when my friends leave me alone or my family leaves me alone but i am always sure in my mind that i have someone who loves me and thats all what i need... you need to be happy that atleast you have a kid who needs you so much... you must be happy for him and always try to give him the happier side of life... that should be your aim.. atleast for now you are a mother.
@anvil_86 (154)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
i agree with that your nice person with a great heart.
@manmaxman (850)
• India
4 Feb 07
no not happy but i try to make my life happy by my way
• India
4 Feb 07
ya sure i am happy with the way my life is going.why you dont?whats ur problem ? this is so negligible.why you think such a bad thing.life has it own varieties.every moment of its couldnt make you happy.dont think about the thing which couldnt be change.try to solve in other way.love this new time pass with ur baby.who could say that he/she would not be ur inspiration to live.lets rock buddy and have fun with ur problm.then you could explore this was not a problem.happy journey and dont be dpressed.thank you.anything assistance knock me.i will gladly be there.frist make ur friend.good luck.
• Philippines
4 Feb 07
if i will rate my happiness from 1 to 10. i rate my life's happiness to 8.
@jahrakal (38)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 07
I'm happy with my life. May be it sounds strange to you, but it's true, since I have Jesus in my life I live in a happy life. We (me and my wife) don't have much money for our daily need but it is just enough because we beliave that God provides for us. Always trust in Him and your life will be blessed. It's not always about financial or condition that you're in right now, but it's more about trusting God.
@tomkerrj (165)
• United States
4 Feb 07
i am in the same boat with you but i dont have any kids but if i did i wouldnet be spending much time on the internet i would spend time with the kids and more time with the wife i love the time with any kids so if i had my own guiess what its camping time and other stuff with sports and more walking as it would be my weight loss program , darn i gave my secret away...lol. family is the most precious thing you have in life as you need to spend more time showing them off if you really love them. i know i would. my wife dosent like to go out in public at all other than work
@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
yeah , , i really am happy with my life , , :-) maybe you shouldn't be sad just because your hubby would not want to take you out , , at least you have your son , , right , , there is no reason for us to be sad , , we should take things positively , , right? , ,
@cicci8331 (178)
• Pakistan
27 Jan 07
Maybe your hasband given more press by have children,youd better going to have ask your hasband,why he doesnt want take you and baby out,I am happy with my life cause no matter happy or sad,the life is going,so youd better happy ur life,I have a topic that identify 100 things make you happy,u may come to that share others happy.
• Pakistan
27 Jan 07
Happiness in life is possible when you are source of happiness for some other person . When u spend life with a specific aim in your activities then your every instant is pleasing. if your life life partner does not gives you much time then try to understand his limitations.
27 Jan 07
no am not happy with my life infact i hate myself , dont know why but i do am lonly am MR. lonly always alone, ihate being with people or doing any social activity.i just sit in my house wondering why i was born
• India
27 Jan 07
yes im hapy with that how my life is going on but i think we shuold also not forget about the end of the world and do things whivh god please
@Aexcomp (121)
• Romania
27 Jan 07
Sometimes yes and sometimes no. I'm happy when i successfully finish a job that i was planning to finish for a very long time. I'm sad when something bad happens (wo isn't?) :(. I think of poor people that don't eat for weeks and i get sad just like that, but right 3 or 4 seconds later i remember that there are people who care of them and help them. Happyness and saddness are two unbeatable rivals.
@avs189 (1030)
• India
27 Jan 07
See evrybody has ups and downs with is life ,life is series of ups and downs ,some days joy is part of ur life while some days its not part of ur life...so treat evry day on its merit,take life as it comes.........and wish for the best....
@marytoad (54)
• United States
27 Jan 07
Hi, First, let me say that I can sympathize with you! I have 5 smaller children & all we have right now is a mini station wagon that will safely & comfortably fit 5 people. We CANNOT go together as a family, but, besides that, my husband just likes to "up & go" by himself rather than go through the trouble of waiting for everyone to get dressed & go (Not to mention the fuss when all the kids are in the car together!) So...I deal with it...he wants me to go out by myself, "get some time out", but I don't enjoy going out by myself. We have no family, but if you have family, maybe someone there could watch your baby while you all get some time together. I would also encourage you to talk this over (in a non-chalant (sp?) way, at first) w/your husband. Perhaps, too, it would help if he took the baby & just got used to the baby going...then he couldn't say anything about you just going along...? It is definitely an adjustment starting a family, but if you allow this to proceed, you can look forward to years of staying home while he goes. I'd do my best to work it out to a happy compromise now while you just have one. It'd be awfully easy, also to say you're not happy w/your marriage, but the problem is right now, probably just an adjustment issue.
@shana123 (2096)
• India
27 Jan 07
nope... im little depressed because my friend did not contact me today, im really depressed about that, i messaged him many times but he dint turn up!!! he has got many friends around him but i treat him as my best friend but i never show him open about my true freindship and freindly love i have for him!!! but other than that am ok!!!! GOD is there to look after me and i trust Him:-) dont get moved much ,your husband will come and accompany you!!!,i will pray for you!!! GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY!!!!
@NucknFutz (180)
• United States
27 Jan 07
i would not know about marriage or having a child, but i do know about being unhappy in a relationship. You shouldnt let this feeling last. Instead, you should confront your husband with the issue. Talk to him about going out sometimes, and doing things as a family. You obviously cherish your child, and your husband needs to be a part of that. Nothing will change if you dont take initiative.
• United States
27 Jan 07
im unhappy but for reasons different from yours my reasons that i did not make my dreams true
@XxAngelxX (2831)
• Canada
27 Jan 07
I'm sorry to hear you are not happy in your marriage :( . I think you need to have a chat with your husband and find out why he doesn't want to take you and the baby out. It will do both of you good to get out and about some. Perhaps he is still nervous about taking the baby out, irregardless he will need to get over this. You need to get out too, we can't just stay home all day, we get shack happy then. Tell your husband you are not happy with the current situation and I'm sure between the two of you, you can come up with a solution that will make things better.
• United States
27 Jan 07
girls it can be difficult when a newborn comes in the picture, i have a 7 mth old baby, and things have changed a lot, i would watch out to see why he doesnt want to go out with you guys anymore; not to get you hyped up or anything but it sounds a little suspicious, have you asked him what's going on?, and as far as the walks you are taking, that's good it gives you time with your baby and it also helps you in excercise, also try to take you mind of it for a bit and try to enjoy yourself, we mothers need to realize that we are also human beings and that marriage and children doesn't mean that we have to forget about ourselves, they should be important to us, but we also should care for ourselves, hope it works out.