Parenting: Some things you said you would never do, but do now?

United States
January 28, 2007 5:03pm CST
So, now that I am a parent, boy have things changed. I can think of a few things I said I would never do (regarding parenting) before having kids, but now do them. I thought I would never lick my finger to get something off my kids face, but I was wrong. I have done that quite a few times. It is just so easy to do that. I also thought I would never ever let the baby sleep in bed with me. There have been a few nights where we did that because otherwise none of us would have gotten any sleep at all. What about you? What are some things you thought you would never do?
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• United States
28 Jan 07
Yep, I have had to wipe a few faces the old fashioned way too!lol Another thing that I said I wouldn't do is nag and I have caught myself doing this on occasion.
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@simplysue (631)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I was never going to have cable tv. This worked for my firstborn until I remarried and now we have it. I was never going to let my kids have tv in their rooms. They both do. I was never going to let my child fly alone. He is almost 17 now and is going to fly down to take a vacation with his father. When I was a teenager,I'de say that my children would have more freedom than I did. LOL That's not the way things turned out.My children actually have less freedom than I did just because of the way things are today. There is a lot more out there to be afraid of than there was when I was a kid. I now know that my parents were only looking out for me but back then I thought they wanted to control me. I hope when my children are thirty something with children of their own they will look back and feel the same way about me. :)
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@aidonia (4209)
• Greece
29 Jan 07
I haven't cable TV or TV in my son's room either.I remember when i was young and i thinking that there is no way give to my son so freedom as i had,and this not because i don't trust him but the life today include many dangerous thinks for the young persons.
• United States
29 Jan 07
well i said i would never have my son cry it out. well i now let him do that since its better for him. i also told myself that i wouldnt start him on solids till he was 6 months old, that too went out the window, i started him on solids when he was (he is now)4 months. i said i wouldnt let anyone feed him our food like mashed potatoes or ice cream or anything like that, yet my mom has and i do too!
@deebomb (15315)
• United States
28 Jan 07
When I was 12 It seemed to me that my aunts kids were often disobedient. So I was going to ask my kids to do some thing once, then tell them once, then spank. When I had my first son this went out the window.
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@steerforth (1798)
• Italy
28 Jan 07
A lot of time we say that we will never do some things, but we can decide before to find us in the situation. I haven't kids, but I think that we must decide in each situation:)
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• Philippines
29 Jan 07
Eversince, I hate barneys! I just dont like the mascot itself. A violet dinosaur.. but when my i became a mom, i have all the reason to love barneys.. because my son is a total fan! I even have to sing with him the barney song -- " i love you, you love me .. blah,blah". Parenting can really turn your world upside down.
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• United States
29 Jan 07
that's funny. Luckily my son isn't into Barney yet.
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Thats funny i could not stand blues clues and yet after we had our first that seemed to be all that was on.Now 6 yrs later we have a big box full of nothing but blues clues tapes.
• Canada
29 Jan 07
I said that I would never let the kids sleep in the bed with me.. but that was out the window pretty quickly. I also said that no matter what, I would never slap or hit my kids, but I've slapped my oldest son's hand before for trying to stick something in a electrical outlet.. I was just so scared and frightened that I didn't think before I slapped his hand. I also said that I would never let my kids have tonnes of junk food, but there's been days that I've said 'the hell with it' and gave into the lure of sugar.. but it was only on special occasions.. like Christmas and Easter.
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@pd_davies (149)
• India
29 Jan 07
well yes you change a lot after having kids, i remember when i used to see other peoples kids not obeying their parents i used to tell myself that i won't let this happen to my kids but now sometimes you have to shout at them to make them obey you and i also give in to their demands.
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• India
29 Jan 07
most of the things you do that you thought you would never do are probably just instinctive, dont worry you're probably a great parent.
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• India
29 Jan 07
When I was a kid I felt that bringing up kids is the most difficult task and that i would never ever do that but now that i have grown up and hace actually seen people around me loving and caring for thier kids, i too feel that even i am responsible enough that i can think of doing this now.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
29 Jan 07
oh there are many things.i would say i would never let my children to be with bad noses but now my little ones often have cold.
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@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I know what you mean about the noses. It's about impossible to keap up with those little noses, especially if you have more than one with a cold with a time.
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@xXmeganxX (4421)
29 Jan 07
hi there, i always said that i would never shout at my child and that was a big lie.. hehe.. i said that i wouldn't change a nappy first thing of a morning because it makes me sick but these things we have to do! :O)
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• Philippines
1 Feb 07
ooohh!! I can't believe myself becoming a poopy butt wiper expert in just as short as one week...ugh...hehehe. But yes, we gotta do what we gotta do.
@brihanna (381)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I have babies and teens, so, there have been many of those "When I am a parent I will never...." I think the biggest one now, with my teens is "judge/pick my kid's friends" I remember my Mom telling my how she doesn't like this kid, or that kid is a trouble maker-I was SO MAD. And now, I see me doing the same thing. I guess our parents weren't so stupid after all.
• United States
29 Jan 07
I never thought I would yell at my kids, I have. Things change when you have kids, you change. I thought I would never give my kids soda and that I would feed them so healthy and for the most part I do but I find myself reching for the ramen when I am in a hurry or giving them a drink of my soda now and again. I said that everything would be home made and wholesome, yeh right, three kids later reality hit. I to have liked my finger and wiped something off thier face, they hate it.
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• India
29 Jan 07
my condition is a bit different, since my son is 7+. but when i was a child, i was denied a lot of simple pleasures of life, like calling over my friends for party, watching unlimited TV, going off with friends to the local mall, not letting my mom enter my room etc etc. i vowed that when i become a mom, i would give my child his/her own freedom. but do i now? yes, i had given my son unlimited access to TV but that has only lowered his concentration level on studies, i allowed his friends to come over and that became almost a regular affair as if my house was the neighbourhood pub, i allowed him to the local mall and he almost made me bankrupt! so now???
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• India
29 Jan 07
what do u come to ask i dont understand, but i have changed so many things for my baby which i neglected in my young age . so many things so icannot say all of that.
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@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Sometimes we have to give in to those things we always said we would never do. I have also washed my kids faces that way, or smoothed down their hair in a similar way. They have been yelled at when I had to, and spanked more than once. They have slept in my bed, and many other things that we all say we will never do, before becoming a parent. It doesn't make you a bad parent. It only makes you human.
• Singapore
29 Jan 07
I thought I would never yell at them .. but cannot keep up.. I thought I would never beat her/scold her,but wanted to discipline her without those things,but sometimes things move out of control..
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• Philippines
1 Feb 07
i said to myself i will never let my kids stay on a corner as a punishment (i grew up with such a punishment). but i did. :(
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@msqtech (15075)
• United States
6 Feb 07
you learned parenting from your parents and it works for you as well. You are teaching your kids to parent as well.
@rracers89 (3246)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Congratulations on becoming a mom. My top picks are using my sleeve to wipe dirt off there face and putting in a movies just so i can get something done and the whole 5 second rule if it falls on the floor. Oh ya and giving my 3 year old gum.
• United States
29 Jan 07
yeah, I have started following the 5 second rule as well. hee hee