Can you Go to Sleep if You've Had a Disagreement ?

I am one who cannot go to sleep, I cannot stand that myspouse is upset with me. I end up not getting any sleep at all. He is opposite he will go right to sleep and not think anything about it, the next morning he will discuss it with me. I have learned how to handle this by keeping a notebook at hand, if we have a disagreement I will right down the things I am feeling and why and what I think I or he could have done differently etc. It works for me.

i do just go to bed and let it be i hate fighting about it so i go to sleep and try to get over it,my husband will stay awake half the night and think but never says anything.

I can not even think about going to bed if my husband and I have had an argument and it has not been settled. We have a rule in my house and that is, we don't fight or argue in the bedroom which means for us to be able to go to sleep at night we must have everything discussed before hand. The bedroom is not the place for disagreements and if you are going to have a healthy relationship then you should have a room where this is not done. This is why we don't go to bed if we have unresolved issues.

I cant sleep if i had any disagreement with my husband, and my head starts aching and mostly have a very bad night. But we normally sort out our disagreements within an hour or two and not later than that.

NO! i cannot go to sleep if my husband and i have argued and havent sorted it out. It drive me crazy! im up all night, constantly racking my brain for ways to make him wake up so we can talk and clear it up but at the same time trying not to make it look like i am ready to just give in. He usually walks off or takes long drivs comes home sleeps on and and then ready to discuss it in the morning. i cant do that i need to resolve before it is time for bed! i dont know how can do so..

For me, I find that if I just roll over, close my eyes and fall asleep I usually end up forgiving my spouse for whatever we were arguing about. It becomes another unimportant disagreemnet. Unless it's something life-altering, then I can't sleep to save my life until it's resolved. I cannot speak for my spouse, because she never says anything either way. We usually end up happy in the morning reguardless of how the night went.

I used to be the one to try and make my point before sleeping, I do so still but my hubby is opposite. He says he loves to decide in the morning and he sleeps over the issue and next day is always a new day for him and frankly sometimes I do ake him see my point in the morning when he is least interested in starting any argument. So his attitude ends up working in my favor most of the time so I have now started doing that, I start pointing out what I would like to do or what I think in the morning and he is quick to say yes or agrees with me readily. Hence now I Its something like erly bird catches the worm. he he he

im not yet married but still i can relate on that. whenever we have a disagreement with boyfriend or family or friends. i cant hardly sleep unless the problem, misunderstanding or disagreement is not solved on that day. its like a burden to me and it makes me feel heavy in heart and mind.

From my own experience i better resolved problems when I sleep over it and have a much fresher mind when I wake up. I noticed from my wife that she is so intense in making her point that you could not inject your own ideas to her. If I allow her to sleep over the problem and when things are much more calmer then that's the point I usually come in and most of the problems are resolved without any other complication. If I usually am reactive to many disagreement most probably the problems much more prolonged and sometimes pride kicks in ourselves therefore problems becomes more harder to resolve and more prolonged.

My husband and I don't usually disagree about a lot of things. But when we do we usually straighten it out before we go to sleep. I am like you I can't sleep if there is something unresolved. I have to talk it out and get it resolved.