Should men have a say in choosing abortion/adoption?

I think that both the mother and father have a right to make the decision as a couple. Even if they are not a "couple" per se. It takes two to create a child, it should take two to make a decision about that child. The decision effects both the mother and father's futures for 19 years legally and for their entire life emotionally. It also effects the unborn child as well because maybe one parent feels very strongly about one option and the other parent feels very strongly about a second option. There are no right and wrong answers set in stone. I have my personal opinions, but they are not that of my best friend, my sisters-in-law or my neighbors. Each of them has their own opinions. I just feel that both parents have a right to voice their opinion, explain their opinion and make an informed, educated choice.

Of course , it's a serious mather that need both opinions ! If a girl that caryes my baby would want to kill ( cause that what abortion means ) him , i think that it would be bet to ask for my opinion first !

I think that if the man wants to keep the baby he should have a say in it, but if the woman wants to keep the child & the man says she needs to abort it-- I don't agree with that. I think it should be a joint decision on the adoption, as long as both feel it is the best for the child-- then I think it's a good idea--but, I know a situation where the man wanted the baby & he could take care of it-- but, the girl said that if she didn't have the baby and keep it she didn't want him to raise it so she gave the baby up for adoption & I just find that very sad. Because, we all know that if she would have kept the child herself, she would have been depending on him for support as well for the child & he would have had to help then, but when he wanted a say in it before-- she wouldn't listen.

I definately think that the father has the right to know that he is going to be a father. I do not think it is fair of a mother contemplating the decision of abortion to not even consider the baby's dad in the decision. I do not believe in abortion.

I think that a woman could say to her man that she is pregnant, but she is not forced. The body is her and only she can decide what to do with her future fetus. I think that a man has the right to say what he thinks about the decision of her woman, they could start an honest discussion and to talk about a lot of things, but hte latest person who can say the last word is the woman. That's Nature: the woman is pregnant, not man, the woman lives 9 months with her fetus growing more and more, not man, and it's the woman that can decide for her own body.

of course men should have a say in choosing abortion or adoption.....afterall the condition has arised due to a man. well jokes apart its a serious matter and it is concerned to both the man and the woman goin to have a child so....

Of course a man should have a say about choosing to abort or not. First of, abortion is a sin. You should be responsible enough wether you decide that you want to have a baby or not. You cannot be pregnant if you want to decide to abort the baby after, that's not right, at all. If you are pregenant is because you want to be and you want the baby, responsible enough towards what you decided.

i think both should decide

Yes, it is as much his as it is hers therefor if she dont want to raise the baby, let him. and i also think she should pay.

Obviously, this depends on your feelings toward abortion. I believe that abortion is murder. That will impact my opinion on whether the Father should be informed. I believe that the Father should be informed. The woman did not create the fetus by herself. Therefore, she should not be allowed to destroy it by herself. As fas as adoption goes, this should also be obvious. It is their child, collectively. Therefore it needs to be a joint decission. It is difficult for me to imagine situations that happen every day to other people, specifically that they are parenting a child outside of a monogamous relationship. When in that relationship, it, again, is obvious that the two people need to make the decission together in their normal decission making process. If they are not, then that makes it more difficult. I guess that difficulty should be reason enough to not put yourself in that situation in the first place. Anyway, to make a long answer short, the mother has an obligation to inform and discuss her discissions regarding her child with the Father. If the Father disowns the child in some way, then it is up to the mother to make the best decission she can without the Father.