Need advice desperately....... Greatly appreciated thanks!

I know since he's over 18 years old he's not jail bait any more and you both are free to decide who to love. Hey, people do it, but is it really right?! I personally would have a difficulty having such a young boyfriend, especially the age of my children as well. So I believe those feelings are completely valid that you have. To be completely straightforward with you...If I was his mother, I know I'd be dissapointed that he's with such an older woman and not giving himself a chance at finding a woman closer to his age within 5 years either way. As his mother, I'd feel he's robbing himself from the joys of having children with a youthful mother that can enjoy his children with him and enjoy their grandchildren together. Let's face it...in 20 to 30 years...will you be able to enjoy grandchildren with him? I doubt it. My other concern for my son in this situation would be why? Is he afraid of being turned down by girls his age or Does he just feel safer being with you because you provide a safe motherly image to him? At 22-years old, he may seem and feel like he's mature enough to handle the older experienced woman and that image to him alone may sound glorious...for awhile...then it will get old (so to speak). He may be extremely mature from what it sounds like, but having the hesitations you do should really be a RED light to you to stop and allow him to find love with a younger woman. I'm sure that's why you're having difficulties with it, because you wouldn't want to see your own son with such an age gap between him and his girlfriend. He's just a Young Man....with so much of life to still experience. Good luck to you...it always feels good to be flattered, cherished and treated good, but is it really fair to that young man?

Obviously you are happy being with him!And since he is sincere,just be yourself and love him back!But dont forget that anytime,in LOVE we can be hurt unexpectedly!Just always prepare!Life is too short,forget the age!The important is the LOVE you have for each other!Enjoy what you have now and prepare to stand no matter what will happen next!God Bless and Goodluck!Have faith!

Age shouldn't matter and you should just enjoy the time you have with him Even if in the end someone gets hurt it was still worth all the great times you had togehter. Even if he was the same age as you there would still be the possiblility of it not working out. That just isn't something that you should worry about. I know it is hard and maybe you subconsciouly think that you don't deserve to be happy but it is not true. Everyone deserves the chance to be happy and all you have to do is enjoy it. Think of him in terms of how he treats you and how much he loves you and how mature he is andnot in term of his age. His age is not who he is, it is just a number. It sounds like he really does love you and you are lucky to have him. Smile, take it all in, laugh, and love. Enjoy it.

I think you are just being so conscious of the age gap. Age is just a number. What's important is the feelings you two have. I had a friend who was 49 and his girlfriend is 20. They are very much in love with each other that everytime they are together, it seems like the years wither away. =) I think if you really feel the same about him, you won't worry about your age compared to him. Maybe you are thinking of what other people might say, but hey, it is your life and not theirs. =) There are lots of people who had the same situation before. They followed their hearts and look at them now. Happily together despite the age gap. =) Love isn't bound by 'age groups'. Good luck and be true to your own feelings. =) Hope that helps!

Hello polishprincess! Good day to you! You are so blessed to have someone who loves you that much! Why need to worry when your man assures you that he really loves you. That's very nice. Don't question your age because there is no age limit when it comes to love. God give us a heart to love. Love as long as you live. Give your love and expect nothing in return. I have this cousin of mine who has a same situation with you. She is 42 years old single and was never married. She met this 22 year old guy in one of our churh gatherings. The guy fall in loved with her. They dated and became lovers. After some months the guy proposed her that they will get married. She was so shock and never expected the event. She keeps on laughing that why now when she is already old. My answer is God gives you someone anytime of your days. And we should be thankful. I hope you happiness with your man. Please be happy and make him feel that you loved him too. Good luck and god bless your relationship.

There is a reason for your path and his path to have crossed. Enjoy your time together with him. Best of luck.

Age shouldn't matter but I think you are more worried about what other's think and say about it. Does your or even his family / children have a problem with it? How long have you been dating him for?

i got a brother that was 24 when he meet this lady an she was 46 they dated because she wanted a younger man.an he didnt care about the age diffrent,well she came up pregant an they got married an she had kids his age all ready. they have been together now for 10 years an doing great."but there are times now that my brother thinks about the age diffrent"she is 56 now an hes 34.but they are happy,"so give it a try if you want to be with him. if you are happy you only live once.go for it!

I know you're conscious of the age gap but this relationship sounds so beautiful that it can over come the diversity. If he loves you let him. Trust that he knows what he is in for. Don't make him wrong for loving you.

Oh my GOD , thats very strange attraction, he needs to be consultation from a psychiatrist. If its a attraction then it s ok , but wanna live with you is not at all acceptable one, ofcourse he have to find a younger partner at any cost, you start avoiding him, and you have to hurt him, unless you will be feeling very bad.

I am not an expert in relationships but if I were in your shoes, I'd be bothered by the age difference. If it were the guy who is 52 and the lady is 22, the 30 years gap would not be as big a deal but since it is the opposite, it would seem like it. But then again, it is a personal choice. Weigh everything. At the end of the day, your happiness is what's important, not what other people say.

Congratulations....you've found something , that makes you happy. Think about how many people pretend to be happy , really aren't , but they " go through the Motions " , because as a culture....America has all of these Societal conditions imposed on it. The train only goes this way once. Enjoy the ride! Be yourself ...Welcome to the revoultion of " Free thinking ".

I have always felt that there are no 'rules' when it comes to age gaps in relationships and it very much depends on the two people at hand. In truth I think he is right...he does sound like he adores you so I think getting past the age factor would be a good idea or you could end up losing him because you can't move past the difference more so than him finding someone younger. Of course there will always be opinions about age gaps and I think it doesn't matter if the difference is ten or twenty or thirty years, people still have a tendancy to judge, but at the end of the day you must do what makes you happy. Are you happy with him? Does he make you happy? Do you love him? He obviously loves you and you make him happy so if the answer is yes to all the other questions I think you need to start focusing on those great aspects of what you have rather than the one possible flaw. You are not alone in the field of relationships with age gaps, take a look at some of the differences that lie between some of our well known stars... Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher 15yr gap Nicolas Cage (41) and Alice Kim (20) 21yr gap Catherine Zeta Jones and Micheal Douglas 25yr gap Rod Stewart (60) and Penny Lancaster (34) 26yr gap Woody Allen and Soon-Yi Previn 35yr gap Billy Joel (55) and Kate Lee (23) 32yr gap Ralph Fiennes (41) and Francesca Annis (60) 19yr gap Paul McCartney (63) and Heather Mills (37) 26yr gap Joan Collins (71) and Percy Gibson (39) 32yr gap Peter Stringfellow (65) and Bella Right (22) 43 year gap Now obviously you could tell me well yea they are famous and rich and they can do what they like and all that but at the end of the day they are human too, jus like us. Love is something which doesn't come around everyday, you can't choose who you love and if you are lucky enough to find love (even if it is for the second time round) don't let it slip thru your fingers over your age difference. I don't know if I have been of any help to you, but good luck. I hope it all works out for you :)

Hi! Yes i believe that age doesnt matter? But the sincerity? It matters? Have you considered material things? Are you not a kind of person who we can call sugar mommy? No offense ment but you should think about this because later on if that is the case you will just hurt yourself and the people who loves you by turning your back on them in favor of this guy. Make sure that all the love shown by him is not backed with ulterior motives like maybe he's watching out for your wealth or something.. I'm just trying the play the devil's advocate here. Still, love conquers all. ryt?

the age difference should not bother you! love knows no age!! i'm 59 and am involved with a young man of 34. if you think about the age all the time instead of the person himself then of course its going to be a problem. you should concentrate on the feelings you have for each other and the happiness you give each other or you may very well miss out on one of the greatest loves you could ever find. age is only a number, its whats in your heart that matters!!!

I think you should give yourself a chance and give it a shot. If age is the only thing that's keeping you away from your happiness, remember that it's only a number. Cliche as it may sound, but age doesnt matter,as long as you are both mature enough and responsible for all the actions and decisions that you make,i guess it would be no problem. You need to establish first within yourself if you really love this guy or not or are you just simply infatuated because someone is treating you in a special way especially after your failed marriage. If you really love this guy, then you must need to trust him that his intentions are true and give him a chance to prove that age will not be a hindrance to your relationship. Have confidence in yourself and him and erase all thoughts and doubts that you have and give yourself a chance to feel how it is to be really loved by someone. Come on, you deserve it..

Love knows no boundries, if it is meant to be that just go with it. He may be your one true love, you have to at least give him that chance.

Oh dear I'm about the same age as you and when I was 40 had a similiar situation (he was 25) we were a bit closer in age than you two but when it came right down to it we had nothing in common. The attention was wonderful but other than that what is there to talk about. I put it this way, I have 4 kids I don't really want anymore. I would suggest you take a deep breath, thank him sweetly, and end it before he finds a cute young blonde and dumps you - you will hurt much more that way.

I really don't know what your children think about this relationship, but 30 years difference is a lot. What would happen in 15 years from now. He would be 37 and you, 77 years old! wow! This is something to think about. I am a year older than my husband and we don't have a problem with that. If you really talk to your lover and be honest to each other. If there's true love, then enjoy the moment!

I have to respond to this, I'm 48 and my wife is 60 and theres been a few times when out shopping that people refer to her as my mother and thats gets pretty embarresing. I think theres more to worry about than what others think. When he's in his thirties or forties is he going to have to take care of you. Personally I would think theres too much of an age gap to overcome, I mean how much can you have in common when you grew up in the sixties and he grew up in the ninties. just my 2 cents