How well do you know your significant other?

@minerc (1373)
United States
February 4, 2007 12:48am CST
I have been married now for 3 years, we dated for 2 and we are really close. We talk all the time and have shared our past with each other. I have been learning some new things about him, not bad things just things that are suprising to me. Things that I thought I would have known about him. Sometimes he tell's me that he has even told me it in the past. Maybe I am just forgetting it. Has anyone else felt this way or gone threw this with there spouse or significant other? Do you really know your spouse or significant other?
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@superchook (1786)
• Australia
6 Feb 07
I have been married to my husband for 13 years now but every now and then something will come out about something I didn't know about him. It took us 18 months to find out that we both liked vinegar on our chips. It is just little things like that, but I wonder after so many years that I would know everything about him.
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@minerc (1373)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Thank You! This is the type of stuff I am talking about. Glad to see that maybe it is just a normal thing.
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@vbcoder (196)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
i know my wife very well. i can tell when she is sad, happy or even mad at me. i am married for almost 7 years now. we have shared alot of good and bad things that have tested our relationship, but we are still together strong as ever. we even have arguments only once in a blue moon. so i guess we really know each other very well.
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@minerc (1373)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Thank you!
@GardenGerty (157645)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Yes, I have. Human beings are so complex that there will always be something new coming up. This is my second hubby, I was widowed after twenty three years marriage and two years of dating the first one. I sometimes compare the closeness of this new marriage to the old one, but that just is not fair. We only have a nearly ten year relationship. No way to compare that with twenty five years in the first relationship.
@minerc (1373)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I agree, that is so wonderful though. Sorry about your first but it is great that you have found someone else that is very close. Thank You!
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
At first, my impression on my bf was totally different from the confessions and the stories that he told me along the way. There were times when I couldn't accept parts of his past because some of them are really worth thinking about for the sake of our relationship. In the end, I can't help but sigh and just accept his facts. He's an honest person and he tells me everything from good to the worst so even if there are bad things that happened with him.
@minerc (1373)
• United States
5 Feb 07
That is good to have, the good and the bad. Thank You!
• United States
5 Feb 07
I have known mine 19.5 years and even still, there are times when I learn even more about him- I dont think we totally know anyone or understand their life before us, and find about more of them as we go thru our new lives with them. Sometimes they may be scared to share certain things. I understand what your going thru...marriage is a constant learning process! hang in there,hun!
@minerc (1373)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Thank You!
@robinemz (211)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
ive lived with my sweetie for more than two years before we got married. so i would say i probably know about 80% of him. i didn't go for a hundred percent coz i still believe that everyone has their own little secrets to keep.
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@minerc (1373)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Thank You!
@prasanta (1948)
• India
5 Feb 07
Any human being cannot be known fully. If somebody tells I know the person very well, either he does not know what he is talking or just lying. There is a saying by the mystic Osho, you can never step into the same river again. The river keeps changing. Even people keep growing and changing.
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@minerc (1373)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Thank You!
@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
4 Feb 07
We've been married for almost 11 years now. When I first met him, All the things I'd learned about him was almost all negative, but inspite of that I still did love him. Knowing all those negative things about him also help when we got together, because I'd learned that there are positive traits he has. Surprisingly, he isn't the way I thought he was. Sometimes he tells me little things I still dont know about him but its no longer surprising.
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@minerc (1373)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Thank You!
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
4 Feb 07
I lived with my husband for a year before we got married. We have been married now for twenty years and we lived together for one. That is a grand total of 21 years together. I know him pretty well and he knows me. We don't really fight that much. I can't say we don't fight at all because I have a 16 year old daughter who likes to play us off some times. We have not had any fights about money at all. We both like about the same things and we do not stop the other from doing what he or she likes when we don't like what they are doing. That did not sound right. My husband likes to stay home and watch football. I like to go out a shoot pool. So I go and he stays and we get along just fine. I believe that you should look very deep before you get married. You should be able to talk to your partner about anything and you should have no secrets. Young couples should talk about how to raise kids and about when to have kids. This would cut down on problems. I always said good comunication stops a lot of fights.
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@minerc (1373)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Thank You!
• United States
4 Feb 07
It takes many many years to really know everything about someone. I know how you feel because I have known my husband for over five years and we've been married for one year, but I am still learning new things about him. Try to view your whole life together as a voyage of discovery and love.
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@minerc (1373)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Thank You!
@yanjiaren (9031)
4 Feb 07
i feel i know his character..but information is dished out slowly..men are very delicate creatures really..and their ego gets very bruied if they stuffed up..don;'t be surprised..it'sgood you are getting a dose of himin small lots..it;'s very normal..i amlearning about a new girl he hancied every other nmonth of the year lol..ofcourse they were all before me lol..
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@minerc (1373)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Thank You
4 Feb 07
I have been married for 10 years, known my hubby for 13. We are able to talk about almost anything together - each year it becomes easier to talk. We know that if we had not found each other in our fifties we would very probably be ill now - we rescued each other! We are soul mates and to know there is someone who loves you totally - makes life so precious
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@minerc (1373)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Thank You!
• Canada
5 Feb 07
Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and lived together for the same amount of time. I know alot about Jeff, we know everything about eachother, we finish eachothers sentences, we are truly are soul mates. I will marry him in the near future, I just can't see myself with anyone else. It just wouldn't make sence.
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@minerc (1373)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Thank you!
• United States
5 Feb 07
i've known my boyfriend for quite awhile and i thought i knew him very well until recently. i've learned some new stuff about him, bad? no. surprising? yes. i think it's a good thing you don't know everything about your spouse, they are still their own person.
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@minerc (1373)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Thank you!
@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
4 Feb 07
I lived with my husband for 9 years before we married. We have been married for almost 3 years. I can honestly say I know my husband very well. Sometimes we have misunderstandings. But we rarely ever fight. I do belive my husband and I are a great match for each other. I am sure there are things that have happen in the past that he hasn't told me. As the same with me. But if it was before me...than that is okay. I am not the jealous person and neither is he. Maybe that is why we get along so well.
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@minerc (1373)
• United States
4 Feb 07
I am the same with his past, I am not a jeoulous person at all and he is the same way. We get along great as well. It's little things like a dislike of food or something like that. Sound's like you have a great relationship. Thanks for the response.
@krysy1982 (1041)
• United States
5 Feb 07
We just recently got married but we have been together 8 yrs and known each other for 12 yrs.
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@manmaxman (850)
• India
5 Feb 07
if u r happy than your life is good but if you are not happy than the life goes in the bad path it creat big problem
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