Understanding and communication in your relationship

I feel that for the most part I can go to my husband about anything. There are some things that we tease each other about or don't quite understand, but I feel I can pretty much bring anything to him. I am not afraid to speak my mind tohim, and he certainly is not afraid to tell me what is on his.

with my last 2 partners, i felt like i couldnt communicate with them in the way that i wanted. they never wanted to know about my feelings, and they never seemed to understand when i needed to talk to them about something important. needless to say, that's why i broke up with them. i cant be with someone who doesnt even want to listen to what i say and makes absolutely no effort to understand me or communicate with me on a deeper level. i dont want just a superficial relationship. with the love of my life, i told him everything. we always could communicate well, and i was never scared to tell him anything because i knew he would listen and understand. that's one of the things i loved so much about him. unfortunately, after 7 months of feeling this way, i eventually told him something that he could not understand at all...and he broke up with me because of it. it killed me because i had known him to be so understanding, and i thought i could tell him anything because i'd always been so honest with him about absolutely everything.

i am lucky that i have a boyfriend who accepts everything about me. i can be silly and funny and lazy sometimes but he still loves me! from the very beginning, our relationship was based on trust and honesty even when we were still friends back then. he just not hear me but he listens. i can easily open up to him about my problems and he celebrates my success as well. and vice versa... he can open up to me as well and i am always ready to lend me my ears to him. we do argue sometimes. but it rarely happens. if so, we talk about it and solve the problem the same day. we talk things through together. that's what two people inlove are expected to do to keep the relationship happy. he never left me alone. he's always been there for me even if i don't ask him to be there. sometimes, i don't need to say so much, and yet, he understands what's bugging me. he knows me too well already. he loves me for who i am and i love the person i am when i am with him.

Yes I can and do tell my husband whatever I want and he does the same with me. We are strong believers in communication and both know that is one of the keys to the length of our marriage. We wouldn't be together after 36 years of marriage if we did not talk openly and honestly with each other. A marriage is no place for secrets because if the other person finds out they haven't been told something, then it can lead to a loss of trust. It is true that I am very confident in our relationship and never feel afraid to say what I think or feel or that I am walking on eggshells. We listen to what the other has to say, and then if appropriate comment and make a suggestion if necessary. That is what communication is all about, talking and responding and hopefully reaching some sort of agreement. Yes, our communication is definately a two-way street, just as I think it should be in fact. No 2 persons can agree on everything all the time, not in a lengthy marriage or relationship anyway. If they do, then one is "under the thumb" and/or totally lacking in original thought. LOL However, if the couple have a good communication channel, then the differences can be overcome. Sometimes when the matter is explained again, there is acceptance of the situation but other times it is about compromise in that each gives a little and then both are happy.

Oh Yes definately, I can tell my partner anything and they tell me eveything. we are best friends above being partners. We have been together so long now we don't even need a lot of words to know what is going on the other one. It is wonderful when the relationship last and the Loved stays strong and the communications continues.

Yes I believe thatopen communication between a couple is very important and if they truely love each other that they should not have to feel like they are walking on egg shells.if you have something on your mind you might as well let you partner know because keeping it bottled up side you is wrong and it will eat at you and than if the couple should have an arguement someone good say the wrong thing and everything that you had bottled up in you can come out in a manner that might split up the couple.There should be no secrets between a husband and wife of b/f or g/f

I try quite hard to communicate with my partner but we're more of an "eggshells" relationship. There are things I can say and I won't be afraid of him thinking I'm silly or anything, I can be myself up to a point. But he doesn't really understand things. I can tell him anything but that doesn't mean he'll listen. He's not supportive at all. I think he expects that I will be supportive of him when he decides he wants to confide in me(which he rarely does anyway) but he won't, or can't, do the same. It should work both ways with both people making an effort but it is very very hard, especially when the person not making the effort doesn't realise that anything is wrong, or at least won't admit that they are in the wrong. I can tell a few stories of times when I have had a problem and my other half won't want to know in case I it's his fault. The silliest thing is that if he would talk to me in the first place, there wouldn't be so much he could be blamed for!

I am married over 30 years. We are very happy with eachother, and I feel blessed to have such a wonderful partner. We talk about anything, and everything. Even things that are difficult to discuss. We never say anything that we would have to be sorry for saying, as we treat eachother with respect always. We are comfortable with one another and are very best friends as well as lovers. Blessings, M&M

by me there are days and situations when i was afraid to confirm to something bad i had done. i thoght he woldnt understand me, and would never trust me again. but when he stutter out of me my secrets and didnt react on them aggresively i realized i can fully trust him and tell everything. as for funny actions or being myself this i felt i cold be always. i didnt feel being limited in anyway since i met him.

In my relationship with my husband I can tell him anything in the world and he is always there to listen, he does not judge, he does not get angry, and when I am done talking he tells me how he feels about what I have said. I am the same way for him to. We both know that communication in every relationship is very important if you want it to work. I have never had to feal like I am walking on eggshells with him either. I think that if you start out your relationship with open conversations then you will always be able to do it.

Well it should be like that although it isn't always. I'm in a new relationship and I do like that I can be myself with him. That's very important. We are starting to get to know each other so there are certain things I don't know about him and vice versa. I think there are some things about him that he's afraid of telling me (I don't know why) but he says he doesn't want to scare me away. Hmm...I wonder why he says that.? I am not afraid to tell him things about my past but I do think there will be a time and place for it. I believe that an open and honest relationship is very important. And yet I also believe that there are some things you need to keep to yourself. So, that's my input.

We suck at communication. I'm afraid of being judged and criticized and he's afraid of upsetting me. We do well if we email eachother, but that never lasts long. Yep...communication is important and should be nailed before marriage.

I was one of the lucky few who found someone who I can share my life with and not be afraid to tell anything and everything to. We totally trust eachother to be honest and forward. On the same note, to be understanding and compassionate. We don't keep secrets. We believe that secrets only cause problems.

In my case it depends on the subject. When it comes to most subjects that concern our children I can pretty say anything. However on issues of personal values and beliefs I do not necessarily communicate every thing. In addition when my partner doubts my ability on certain things then I quetly go about my business until success and show her after succeeding. For example my partner was nervous about internet bussiness and would have discourged me from doing anything- even those that eventually proved successful. What with the thousands of scams who would blame her?

I have no trouble speaking openly with anyone really least of all my husband....and he may not always "understand" but he is very supportive regardless and if its something he doesnt understand (particularly major things) he does his best to learn more like when my healing process (from abuse) started up again, he was totally unfamiliar with that sort of thing so he read up on it and asked questions etc....The only time we walk on eggshells with each other is when one of us is cranky/having a bad day but other than that its all good..

Although we do communicate, I find myself lacking sometimes in proper understanding of her feelings. We are very open about things and there are no eggshells sort to speak in this relationship. If something bothers us its voiced and sometimes a bit loudly lol. She's never attempted to make me feel small or silly about anything I've spoken to her about and I don't do that to her either. I think the only real problem I have sometimes is the unspoken communication. Understanding moods and feelings is something I think I'm gonna have to work to better myself on.

Being open to each other is the key to a peaceful a productive relationship. It would feel awkward to be sweet and loving to your partner while hiding a part of your life. My hubby is my listener to all of my grudges to life and I'm very glad that he is someone that can relate to me in any way.

I think in a realationship it is essential that you can communicate and tell each other everything. I'm not saying its easy as I had difficulty talking to my ex-partner and we split up.

In terms of ideal reality I think there exists only a "o" or a "1" that is you either say or you don't.But as far as my relationship is concerned,I truly have been floatng in virtual world of mine jumbled up with "1"s and "0"s all around me.I some times feel should or should I not say everything that is happening around me.Well I wouldn't lie I've tried once but she took the wheels in a different path and then it was a issue we ended up fighting upon.The greatest controversy of all "Women think men don't understand them" and on the contrary "Men think women don't understand them",what you call "Men are from Mars and women are from venus".I don't know whether she'll ever understand me truly but I woulnd't want somebody who understand me even less.Theory of relativy by Mr Einstien has even been proved hany in our day to day life!

It is a two way street. I feel that communication is VERY important to ALL relationships. I communicate easier than my boyfriend does. I think it comes natural to women to open up their emotions whereas men tend to keep everything all bottled up. I dont understand why but I wish they'd just COMMUNICATE with us. It makes things so much easier!