Help i don't understand my baby girl!!!

@andak2007 (3229)
Philippines
February 7, 2007 10:42pm CST
I have a 16month old baby girl and she is starting to talk simple words like mama and papa and she talks mostly in gebberish. Lately she like to catch my attention whenever i am home and cries a lot and sometimes i don't understand what she wants and she use crying as a form of communication and it irritates my ears and it confuses me a lot. She had been acting like this for a week now and i want her to stop doing it or else my mother will scold her or shout at her everytime she cries and i don't want that to happen to her because i love her so much. Can someone suggest me what should i do with her?or any idea what is going on with her?
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@SachseMom (449)
• United States
8 Feb 07
My daughter was the same way. I would talk to her in a very calm voice and tell her "use your words please". After me saying this a couple of times she would stop and look at me like I was crazy! Then I had her attention and I would very calmly tell her, "Mommy doesn't understand you whe you don't use your words. Now tell Mommy, using your words what you need". And it worked great. If she would point and whine at something that she wanted I would gently remind her "Use your words please" and then she would point at her cup and talk in gebberish but at least she was trying and not crying or screaming. I hope this helps.
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
i wonder if this will work with my baby...i will try your technique when i get home.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
well my son is doing the same thing. he is 4 months old, and we have started what is called "baby sign launage". look on the internet or the best place babycenter. he is starting to understand a little. i work on him all the time! we do simple words like: more, eat, drink, mommy, daddy it only takes like 2 weeks before they get it, but you have to really work with her. dont skip a day or give up, cause it takes time. but in the end it helps mother and father and grandparents. you have to teach your mom the signs also, or else she wont know how to help her. its also real good for brain devlopment.
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@mom2boys (334)
• United States
8 Feb 07
This is just how it will be until she can talk better I have a 17 month old son and well if they can't tell you *because they can't talk quite well yet* what they need they are going to cry! Key is patience and wait until she can talk better! You can't expect her to know every word of everything she wants, but trying to teach her to calmly tell you what she needs may help somewhat, but what if she can't tell you what she wants?! They are just now building their vocabulary. So be patient and around 2 I am sure she will talk much better.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
You just need to patient with her and try to spend as much time with her as possible. My little one is also the same, I can barely understand what she says so I talk to her and try to ask her or guess it. Talk to your baby alot, make sure everyone is talking to her a lot. Don't get frustrated real easy. You are dealing with a little person and they are really sensitive. If I pretend to spank my little one from doing something I don't like, she cries and has real tears. If you get frustrated, tickle and play with your baby instead. This is what I do, I try to turn the negative energy into positive actions. I hope this helps. You are her mom, you should be the person who understands her the most even if she's not making sense talking. Seriously.
• Denmark
8 Feb 07
Hi, First of all you probably noticed yourslef that babies go through some phases. They do one thing for a certain time, then stop doing it, and then start it again. Some of those things don't have an explanation, like when you change them and they cry, although the week before they did not do it and nothing changed in your way of doing it. It could be just a phase. Another thing to look at, did anything change in your home, you lifestyle, your work. Are you stressed? Babies can feel so much, your mood really affects them directly although you keep talking nice to them, and nothing changed in your way to handle them, they will feel that you are worried and thus have a possible reaction to it. You should definitely not get angry at her. At this age, she cannot possibly understand what she would get such a response from her so loved mummy. I know it is hard, but try to think about it like that, she doesn't mean to annoy you, she is trying to communicate with you in her own way. It could just be that she is frustrated at the moment, starting to talk but not always getting through to you. Try to find some images of things you think she could ask you about, like a bottle, a glass, a teddy bear, bread... may be this way she will feel a bit more relieved until she can ask herself for things. The best of luck to you. Remember that it is know that you are "building" her, and creating the great foundations of your relation to her, so try not to get angry, just keep thinking how wonderful she is and will always be.
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• India
8 Feb 07
This is quite normal with the kids at that stage. I have a 2 year old. He was also acting similar way only difference is,to grab the attention he throws whatever he gets in his hands. So this is the time to spend with the kids because they love if somebody talks to them and they very much expect it from their parents. Because they will start to communicate and try to speak whatever they can. So first sit with her and play lego games or some painting activities , you also join with her and while doing so talk to her slowly and encourage her for her every good actions. This you have to do everyday to overcome her crying strategy. Sure it will be alright within a month. You talk to her and explain whatever you do to her, she will understand. If you want to do something important, tell your hubby to spend time with her play ball games which they like very much even balloons. you should sing or talk while playing . It is really a fun time for both of you and enjoy.
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• India
8 Feb 07
It is really difficult to understand the language of a baby. But One thing I want to tell you that there is a natural contact with mother and child. When mother hold her baby close to her heart then baby stop crying and get sleep soon. The same way when a baby want to tell something then they search for the most familiar person. that is non other than a mother. Just try to talk to your baby. Ask them what they want. But remmember one thing do not use sign language use your mouth and speak. It may take some time but believe me it rally works and baby learn soon.
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@xavier_sh (222)
• Nepal
8 Feb 07
i think she is not well. take her to doctor soon. if this is not your problem thwn i think she wants you near to her and she donot like being shouted at by her grand ma.
• Nepal
8 Feb 07
try to give her more attention. try to catch up what she wants. teach her new words and keep mher busy repeating those words. encourage her to dance on different music she'll surely enjoy it and forget her cries
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@avs189 (1030)
• India
8 Feb 07
When i was kid myself ...for me it worked accordingly as follows.....my mom jsut used to bring i nfront of eyes ...more reliance on visual signs and images rather than the talking ..i would jsut point what i needed and it kicked off between her and me...
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• United States
8 Feb 07
It sounds to me like your daughter is trying to tell you something and at this point she does not know any other way then to cry. I would try spending more time alone with her and when she does act like this just hold her close and talk to her calmly. She will calm down and you may be able to find out what is wrong with her. I would tell your mother that this is your child and it does not help any when she scolds her for doing what she knows. It is not right to scold them when they are upset over something, you will never find out why if she continues to do this to your daughter and this may actually be one of the reasons that she is acting out like this. I think that your daughter needs some extra mommy time, alone not mommy and grandma.
@debbrion (22)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Kids go through this at some point in there life. I have 2 boys and they both did it. I try my best to understand them, but sometimes I just can't. the one thing that has seemed to work for me is to ask them to show me. They will take me to whatever they are talking about.
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@220870 (249)
• India
8 Feb 07
Spend more time with her,maybe of late you have not spend enough time with her, so she is carving for your attention. Stick pictures of family members and things kept in the house, vehicles etc. in a book. Let you baby see these pictures and try repeating it with you. Blowing a candles also helps to speak clearly. Even if it is half an hour spend quality time with her.
@Melusine (25)
• Israel
8 Feb 07
Dear Andak, When my daughter was that age, I found it usefull to keep a constant stream of talk, describing to her what I was doing.That way, eventhough my actions were not directliy linked to her, she could feel that she was receiving attention. Whenever possible, I would associate her to my activities, wether by giving her a toy broom while cleaning or toys pots and pans while cooking. Best of luck with your daughter and, please, don't let your mother take over your own motherhood.
• United States
8 Feb 07
It's okay if you don't understand her - just be sure you speak to her calmly so she calms down as well. Tell her you don't understand, and ask her to show you want she wants or to point to it. It may take some time to get it out of her, but it's worth it. When you finally figure out what it is she wants, be sure to tell her something like "it's kitty, not kiki" and then ask her to say it a couple times so she gets the hang of it. I had to work with my son a TON because he gets his TH sounds mixed with his F sounds, and I have to work with him all day long on it (I homeschool), but he's getting the hang of it. Most important thing is to not get upset or riled up - just talk in a calm and soothing voice. Good luck!
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@varun121 (104)
• India
8 Feb 07
Little girls are like that we have to talk with them gently ,we should not rudely scold.
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@XxAngelxX (2831)
• Canada
8 Feb 07
It's completely normal for you to not understand what she wants all the time. I agree with the methods SachseMom suggested. It takes time for babies to learn to communicate and she is learning more every day. You just have to have patience with her. It is not right of your mom to shout at her every time she cries. Perhaps you could try having a talk with your mother and tell her how it makes you feel when she is yelling at your baby. Soon enough, your baby will develop more language skills and you will have a much easier time knowing what it is she is trying to tell you or ask you.
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• United Arab Emirates
8 Feb 07
Its just a phase as the baby can hear what she is saying. She is probably bored so just sound out words to her or get her a playmate, she sounds like a playful baby so get used to those sounds. :)
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8 Feb 07
It sounds like your daughter is frustrated too as she is trying to communicate but isn't managing it properly yet. Why don't you try to teach her some sign language. Children pick this up much easier than speech and just a few simple signs so she can tell you she is hungry, thirsty and tired will help you a lot. I did this with my daughter as she was late with her speech and it really helped us all as it stopped her crying so much.
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@lafavorito (2964)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Your daughter must be teething molars or the big teeth at the back of the mouth, check her gums if that's the case you can make her drink cold water to relieve the pain of give her teething toys just not the water filled ones. When she starts to cry, she definitely wants your attention so try your best to give her what she wants. Stop what you're doing to give her a hug and whisper into her ears that you will be able to understand her is she points and tells you what she wants. I have a 26 month old son and there are times that I don't understand what he wants because he doesn't speak clearly. If we're in a public place I pick him up and carry him to a much quieter place where we can talk. Most of the times he's just frustrated, tired, sleepy or hungry and he will do an action with his hand to tell me what he wants. Tell your mom not to shout at your daughter when she cries because it teaches the child that the best thing to do when frustrated is to shout. Now that is not a very good example from an adult.
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@alfa62603 (192)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Spend longer time with her and you will know why at times, she cries....i actually did not experience this with my 17mo old baby girl, in fact she seldom cries...toddlers wants to get busy, playing with anything and everything, my routine with my toddler includes..reading books, playing with her toys (blocks, dolls, talking bears, drums, toys that lights up, toys that talk and toys that move around), dvd movies like baby einstein, backyardigans, blues clues, barney etc, always be ready with cookies (my baby loves to munch on cookies everytime), and lastly, my baby has also this habit of just lying down in bed with me, just cuddling and kissing...oh yes, they already understand thatlanguage.
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