Advice- (creative) way to detach daughter from her blankie?

United States
February 9, 2007 7:52pm CST
My daughter is 4 1/2, and is going to be starting kindergarten this fall. My husband and I have been on her already to stop sucking her thumb (asking her to stop when we see her doing it), but we also are trying to figure out how rid her of this blankie she's had for some time now. I don't want to just rip it out of her arms and throw it in the trash, though. She's very sensitive- heck, today she was screaming bloody murder because she dropped a Polly Pocket shoe into a crevice of her doll house. LOL Do you know of (or have you heard of) any neat ways to maybe use a part of a baby blankie, where she could still have a piece of it, but not be able to carry it around and look like a "baby"? I'd like to give her some choices, so she can be a part of what happens to it. Like making a pillow out of it or something. Any good suggestions?
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@hmbw_24 (407)
• United States
10 Feb 07
hi, dr phil, who i really like was talking about this not long ago and he had a really creative solution, but i cannot for the life of me think of what he said to do. i think it was a gradual thing. like taking it away for a little at a time and the end result being it framed in a shadow box and displayed in the bedroom. sorry i could not have been of more help.
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• United States
10 Feb 07
a shadow box is neat :D
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• United States
10 Feb 07
I saw something on Super Nanny once where a little girl wouldn't give up her binkies. So, Super Nanny told her to collect all of her binkies and put them in a bag. They hung them on a tree outside. The "Binky Fairy" came overnight to take them away and left the girl a new doll, which she was very happy with. You should try something like that.
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• United States
10 Feb 07
That's a cute idea. :) A Blankie Fairy..
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• United States
10 Feb 07
Matthew is 10 and still uses his blanket at night when he sleeps. I've never thought too much about it until the other night when he was sick and he had it in the car with us. That thing stank to high heaven even though it had just been washed. We made a deal that by his 11th b-day in July the blankie would be retired. I told him we'd pack it away which seemed to make him feel better about it.
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• United States
10 Feb 07
LOL I need to wash hers too. Her blanket has lots of holes in it, from where she hooks her pinkie into it. It's pretty funny looking.
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@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
My oldest grandchild had a blankie. Which his daycare wouldn't allow! O outside blankets so germs didn't spread! They were always calling my daughter about him throwing tantrums when it was nap time, so in frustration, my daughter finaly just tore it in half and left half at daycare and half at home. Of course, since she didn't finish the torn edge, it got smaller and smaller in the wash, Finally, shecut it in to pieces, and just stuck a piece about 4 square inches in his pocket every day, and he had his blankie with him whenever he needed it. Often its just the comfort of the rubbing the child wants
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• United States
10 Feb 07
I think you're right about that. I asked her what it was she liked so much about it, and she said it was that it was soft and cuddly.
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• United States
10 Feb 07
My daughters never had the blankie problem. My 4 year old will carry stuffed toys and beanies with her. She will keep them in the car if needed...no blankie problem yet though. Sorry I couldn't be of help! Let me know what you find out!
• United States
10 Feb 07
My daughter loves to take stuff with her, too. We have to limit her to "just one thing", or else she'd take a basket full!
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@wdiong (1817)
• Singapore
10 Feb 07
How about making it into a small hankie,a scarf or a small little pouch.... just a few suggestions :)
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• United States
10 Feb 07
Thank you.. I was thinking of something similar, myself. :)
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@SageMother (2277)
• United States
10 Feb 07
You have a biger problem than her blankie. She is spoiled. The time to wean her off the blanket was long before now. The screaming because of the incident with the show shows that she is ill prepared to function where she cannot have immediate gratification. I suggest you not do anything withthe blankie until someone at the school mentions it, then they can be part of the solution. It doesn't sound likeShe is going to be cooperative enough to last allday without it at school without some of the weaning taking place there as well as at home.
• United States
10 Feb 07
When we go places, she leaves the blankie in the car. She doesn't carry it around with her. She knows there are limits. She already knows she will not be taking it with her to school, so that isn't an issue. She likes to have it with her when she is in the car, relaxing on the couch and watching tv, or is taking a nap or sleeping at night. It's not something she drags around with her all day long.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
10 Feb 07
If these are the only times she's using it, I don't see the problem. I still like to cuddle up with a blanket whenever I can. I know kids seem to be doing things earlier and earlier these days but 4 1/2 is still a little girl. What is the point in not allowing her to snuggle an old blanket at naptime? Is it really hurting anyone?
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@nicky35 (748)
10 Feb 07
grrrrr sagemother how the hell do you know she is spoilt.sdo you have kids?i bet you were well impatient with yours.
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10 Feb 07
If She Carries A Small Teddy Around With Her, Maybe You Could Make The Blankie Into A Jumper For The Teddy.
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• United States
10 Feb 07
That's a cute idea, too. thanks!
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I was also thinking something similar. You could cut the blanket into smaller squares to be blankies for her dolls or stuffed animals. It would be like she was sharing with all her special little friends. The added bonus is that she could tuck the mini blanket in her own pocket for comfort.
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• United States
11 Feb 07
I did mention that idea to her, and she thought it was a neat one.
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@VKXY62 (1606)
• Australia
10 Feb 07
Hi, making a pillow out of it sounds good. My sister had a squeakie, it was a satin pillow cover that she squeaked between two fingers while she sucked her thumb. Maybe if you just send her off on her way with her bits and pieces, she will rapidly evolve due to a bit peer group pressure from the other kids. My sister had her squeaky for years. Her own daughter even had one. Genetic squeakies, wow.
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@nicky35 (748)
10 Feb 07
thats funny,and lovely
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• United States
11 Feb 07
Never heard of a squeaky before. kinda cute! LOL :)
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• India
10 Feb 07
I had the same expereince with my child whis is now 5 years old. In India, there is a method to prevent children from sucking the thumb.It is found that when the child is asleep it continues to suck the thumb. So when the child is asleep we apply neem oil to the thumb. It is bitter and harmless. The bitter taste makes the child averse to sucking the thumb. Also it may be applied during day time without the child knowing it. It was very effective.
• United States
10 Feb 07
Yeah, I could sneak the stuff on her at night. I don't think she'd willingly let me put it on her LOL
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• Japan
20 May 07
My mom tried that one me - applying bitter stuff to my thumb. Never worked. Sure I didn't suck, but after they thought I've finished with it, I went back to sucking again. I gave it up only when I turned 14. I was always fearful as a kid. For example if my mom and I were shopping and I had to go get something and if she's not in the exact spot when I get back, I start to panic. I stopped thumb sucking when I was less afraid of being out of my comfort zone.
@tammyr (5954)
• Etowah, Tennessee
10 Feb 07
I made a pillow for my son when his blankie got too ratty. You might could make her a backpack or purse to carry her toys, etc in. Then she could take that with her when she goes places. How about making a teddy? I am sure you could get a pattern on-line or at the library.I made some for my daughter when she was a baby. I also like the idea of clothes for her fav. teddy or doll.
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• United States
11 Feb 07
Although this is a tightly knit blanket, it's still a knit blanket. otherwise, I'd make a teddy out of it in a heart beat. I hand sew teddy bears for people, and so I did think that would be cute. i'd have to figure out how to cut the blankie in a way that wouldn't ruin it. But I like the purse idea.. that's a good one!
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• United States
10 Feb 07
well if it will hold up why not make a pillow case out of it for her that wasy she can take it to scholl for nap time , if the holes are a problem you can go to the fabric store and pick out some material to patch them with that way she can always have her blankie on her bed ;) and if she does keep it along time its wont be a blankie it will be a pillow case LOL hope this helps ! ~M~
• United States
10 Feb 07
That's a cute idea. A patchwork pillow case. :D
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• United States
11 Feb 07
I think making a pillow out of it is a good idea, although she might want to still carry the pillow around then. For my son I made a "treasure box" and put his baby things into them. This way he can have his baby stuff and favorite stuff as a momento when he gets older. We decorated the box together, and we occasionally add stuff to it, or just go back and look at. I also let him pick a new comforter set for his big boy bed, and that helped to ease the favorite blankey fit.
• United States
11 Feb 07
That's sweet. :) I have a box full of special baby stuff for both of my kiddos, too. :) Every now and then, I take it out and let my daughter look at it. She gets a big kick out of it! And she loves seeing her first blankie she had as a baby.
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• United States
11 Feb 07
Forget about it. My daughter, now 22, married and pregnant with my first grandchild, still has her "Afghi." It was hand-knitted by a close friend when she was born. She still uses it and cherishes it. Not even think about trying to separate your loved one from his or her blessed blankie.
• United States
11 Feb 07
That is so sweet! congrats to the both of you- on this wonderful new life!
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@deebomb (15319)
• United States
11 Feb 07
My younger son like a satin blanket. He would rub it on his face as he sucked his two middle fingers when he was tired or it was nap time. The blanket jut kept getting smaller and smaller until it was gone. But since she dosen't need to take it every where why not jusy let her go with it. We all need something to give us comfort from time to time.
• United States
15 Feb 07
He sounds adorable. :)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Turning it into a pillow is a good idea. You could also perhaps frame it in her room. I know a friend of mine who has his blankie framed in his room. He is 17 now and often I wish I still had my blankie from when I was a child.
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• United States
11 Feb 07
We still have her original "blankie" in a storage container. Somebody made it for her before she was born, so even though the yarn was unraveling, I wanted to keep it. I thought/think she might appreciate when she's older.
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@Mamaof2 (574)
• Canada
11 Feb 07
I dont see a porb with the blanket at all. Every child has something that they like and hers just happens to be a blanket. I would explain to her that the blanket is to maybe stay in the room. Tell her that she is more than welcome to have it but it is for when she is in bed. We did the same thing for my sona nd his "Sucky". He loves it and I didn't want to take it away from him..so our rule is he is allowed to have it in his bed and it is not allowed to leave his room. He will wake up in the morning and the first thing he does is put his sucky on his pillow and gets out of bed. My daughter had a blanket (8 years later still does) but when it was time we did the same thing. We told her that the blanket now had a special place and it was to stay there. She then started putting it under her pillow and leaving it there. It was there for her when it was time for her to nap or go to bed. Hope this helps. I wouldn't worrie about taking iitay totally. It sounds like you have limits with it now (not taking it out of the car ect) so just add some new limits for her. That way she wont seem like such a baby, but can still enjoy what she likes!
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• United States
11 Feb 07
My daughter is 9 now,but when she was real small she had a blankie...I ended up cutting it in half,mainly soI could wash one half! I then cut it in half angain and slowly cut them into tiny squares. By the time she went to school they were about the size of a napkin and I let her put it in her pocket. That way she could still have the security. She still has them and uses them as Barbie blankets!
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• United States
10 Feb 07
My suggestion would have been to make clothes for a bear or for a doll. Or even make it a blankie for her doll. My son was attached to a blanket and when my husband went to Iraq, he thought that daddy needed it more. So we cut the blankie and sent it to my husband. My son just set the blanket on his bed and sort of forgot about it. He's 6 1/2 now and doesn't mention the blanket at all. We didn't try to take the blankie til he was 4 almost 5. He didn't want to take it to school because all the sudden he was all grown up...lol
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@nicky35 (748)
10 Feb 07
why? i never had a comforter as a kid but all three of mine do.beth who is 9 has blankie which was a cot sheet but is now a tiny notted rag,reece who is 5 has bobi,a little yellow dog i got free on the front of a baby magazine before i had him and luke who is 2 and a half has a big ty dog called ralphie.once they get to nursery i make mine leave their comforters in the house for bed time.i dont think theres any reason to get rid.my kids really love their special friends and i cant see a problem with that,i even gave bobi a new eye the other week because his old one had dissapeared and reece asked me "please could you get bobi a new eye".why not.
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