how i do i control myself from spanking my child?

Philippines
February 11, 2007 6:37am CST
could someone help me how to get in control spanking my child.When he does something wrong i get immediately angry and tend to spank him a lot which makes me feel very bad after the incident.I feel very guilty.Help me please...
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@jenbatres (800)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Go to your doctor and get on some sort of depression or anger management pills or therapy. If this doesn't stop you could end up killing your child, I won't even ask how old your child is because it will just make me even more angry. You should not hit your child. You could also look for someone 4 times your size and everytime you slap your child around, have this person slap you around. Also call child services they will make sure you don't hit your child. Get help because people like you make me sick.
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11 Feb 07
if you feel guilty then dont do it, i used to have EQ, temper, problems, and now i have improved in a great deal. my mum like friend, Hilary thanks for her i am not calmer than ever! she told me that nothing is worth getting angry with and the best way to calm yourself is to count to ten when something hits you, in your case its when your son's naughty, tell him to stop first, and then count to ten slowly. while you count to ten just think why is he doing this, and is there anything you could do to help from from it. then you talk to him. only use force when he does something really wrong and bad, then he will remember that clearly in his mind, now he thinks getting spanked isnt that bad if he could do anything he wants...hope that helps
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• Philippines
12 Feb 07
Thanks for your advice maybe theres really something wrong with me so i really need advice and not persecutions.I only spank my child i dont kill him.And after i did that i tell him why did i spank him its because he does something wrong and i only spank him when he does something wrong i dont spank him all the time.
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@mikncas (73)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I agree it sounds as if you need medication for depression as well as some theropy. Before I got on my depression pills I was a constant rag I had no patients for my family I was always yelling and angry, since getting help I have done a complete 360 and I am so thnkfull I got help so is my family also the little things don't bother me so much.
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@charms88 (7540)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
Being a parent is not easy and sadly, we all get stressed out all the time. If you think that you're spanking your kid for almost all things you think he did wrong, that certainly is not right. What I did is to step out of my house to unwind and cool down. Sometimes, it may be because you're not only feeling the stress due to your kid's mistakes or tantrums, it may also be about another issues that's affecting or worrying you. Then you simply channeled your anger toward your kid. Like what all the myLot members advises, you may need to seek professional help. I wish you all the best.
• United States
12 Feb 07
aww sweety..I have been there..when Sky turned 3 I started to spank him often.(not a beating..but a good swap).and at times it was just reflex..I had a short fuse..he was being so bbad and testing me..that things he did shocked me so bad to the point i didnt think twice,..,then one day he was playing to rough..and he kncoked down my picture,,he ran and hid form me..THATS WHEN I KNEW,,.THE MADNESS STOPPED NOW!!! AA i NEVER WANT MY CHILD TO BE AFRAID OF ME.. I wanted to disapline..and i was doing it all wrong..I HAD BECOME MY PARENTS!! OMG!! sooo...I called my doc and I asked for some anxiety pills..and when he was bad..I immediatley told hinm to sit on teh couch..for time out..and iw ent in my room to calm myself..and when i was..I came out..and explained what he did wrong..and i take a fav toy away for a time being..Now I am happy to say..things are wonderful..and i have broke the cycle of my parents in me..So think about meds if u need them..or just go cool down in another room while he sits..i wihs u the best of luck my dear:)