Long Distance Relationships.......Do u believe?
By rahuldmhatre
@rahuldmhatre (736)
India
February 11, 2007 4:16pm CST
So i was wondering, what do you guys think of long-distance relationships. Would you get involved in one? Have you had one, was it a success?
These are my answers:
1. Would you get involved? No..never..waste of time and money
2. Have you had one? Yes..a few..hey, I'm old
3. Was it a success? Yes/No...ultimately NO
The arrangement does work for some people, but mostly not. If you started the relationship in the same town, and say, one of the parties went away for a short period of time...like to college, and had a plan to reunite, I'd say that might work out as a long distance relationship (the dreaded LDR).
Otherwise, the reality of your daily lives is really a secret, isn't it? Say, in an online romance, you may (I said MAY) originally fall in love with a fantasy of what you think the person might be. You pour your heart and soul out in emails and share your dreams, etc. Real life usually turns out to be much different.
I know that's overly simplistic, and there are always exceptions. What does everyone else think?
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@gendomingo (115)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
it depends on both parties but it takes a lot of trust & understanding for the relationship to work. if you both truly love each other, nothing is imposible to make it work.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
12 Feb 07
true. when it comes to love, nothing is impossible. everything can happen. trust and understanding is so much needed in any relationship. it will truly work if both are willing to work together in keeping the relationship strong.
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@appleapple (35)
• China
12 Feb 07
Love can solve all problems?
If long-distance relationship don't last long,both parties will be happy,but how about 5 yrs,even 10 years' long-distance relation? the love can be strong as before.Don't you think that too tired for both parties?
@menhoum (39)
• Germany
12 Feb 07
well it is working, if u love each other very much.
i know cuz i'm in a long distance relationship and we both know that we will get married we really love each other. but yes as u say its pretty expensive but when u safe ur money and if u have internet then it is working very well.
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@blanksolid (1631)
• Spain
12 Feb 07
From my point of view the long distance relationships are not impossible for everyone but depends a lot of the persons who are loved, if they are similars maybe they would accept the long distance in their relationship, have a nice day on mylot and happy earnings also.
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@sweets9900 (726)
• United States
11 Feb 07
1. Would you get involved? In a new one, no way.
2. Have you had one? I am in one now, it's hard but were trying to make it work.
3. Was it successful? Yes it is. A lot of things that I went through when we were together, I no longer have to worry about. I love my space at times.
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@peddhie (110)
• Australia
12 Feb 07
I started long distance relationship six years ago and I got married after two years of long distance relationship four years ago.Two years we maintained the relationship and we managed and we are a happy family now. Depends on your commitment and loyalty. i do believe long distance relationship works.
@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
12 Feb 07
i believe that long distance relationships can happen and continue to be happy. i met my husband online back in Jan 2005 in a yahoo chat room we started out just being friends then the best of friends. in May we got "together" as an online couple(i guess you could say) and we continued to talk til Jan of 2006 when we finally met. we moved in together in May of 06 and married that June. my life could not be more happier then it is right now. i will say this tho and thats that the internet isnt really all that safe. you really have to watch who you are talking to and dont jump into anything without talking to them awhile first and getting to know them. just jumping into a relationship online could be very dangerous.
@chetlog (526)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
I believe it can work and it depends on the persons involved. Take my mom and her husband for instance. They met thru the internet and had a long distance relationship for about 2 years. Then her boyfriend then husband now came to meet her here in the Philippines. He took care of all her papers and after six months she was able to join him in the States where they are currently living right now. It can work, really.
@grzdingz (187)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
yes i agree........trust is the most important thing not mostly but all persons who are involve have to bear in their minds its importnace to build up a very strong relationship.and of course openiness.......show how you love the person and appreciate what he or she is doing.....
@monkeywriter (2004)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Um. I havent had one. But what I have heard from others it doesnt always work. I wouldnt mind trying one. Yet face to face contact is probably the most important so who knows. It probably depends on each person.
@jhajha (2)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
long distance relationship???.. well base from my experience,, i can say that its really hard having that kind of relationship you cant express how you feel towards your partner, you cant even hug him/her when you miss each one another, tell him/her how much you love him/her while looking to his/her eyes if he/she feel the same way,, like those simple things.. and boys are boys,what if they found someone new, and they starting to go out somewhere else to know each other and something might happen!!! i dont know!!??! if the question is "would i get involved?"...the answer is,, a BIG NO!!! if we really meant for each other then time will tell if those two hearts will cross the same bridge again..
@hannah08 (26)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
i agree with you jhajha though you can have ways of expressing your feelings towards him but i dont think that would be enough. unless there is some kind of commitment that will assure you both that everything will be alright. But there are some couples who were lucky enough to survive this kind of relationship and i totally am proud of them. But as for me, i would prefer to have a relationship with a person whom i can be with always, whom i can show how much i love him, whom i can feel that i am very much loved and lastly someone who can expressively fight for me.
@Mitzi72 (20)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I agree that falling in love with someone over the internet, even with phone calls and visits is more like falling in love with the idea of a relationship or the idea of love. You have no basis for reality with this. 1. I have before and would never again. 2. I had a couple ( i'm old too) 3. No, they did not last the first was good that it became a long distance because it made me aware of feelings that would not have come up unless there was a time of seperation. the second one was just frustrating and did nothing but cause worry, insecurities and anger. I would never say it is a good thing unless it is a purely sexaul friend with no strings.
@mak_hunk (30)
• India
4 Mar 07
Of course I believe in long term relationships, those makes you perfect in your life, Gives responsibility on your shoulder about relationship, teaches you how to deal with relationship. Ya I have been in two long term relationship, One with my closest friend & Second with my girl-friend.
@palpalsky (899)
• United States
9 Mar 07
well i do believe in long distance relationship . well honestly was in one and i got married with the same guy .if you nuture and handle carefully the distance relationship .it surely work . its just have to be careful what you say ,what you write and lastly but not least be honest
@chimex4real2k2 (1853)
• Nigeria
12 Feb 07
well it depends on the two people involved in the relationship and how it works out. If it involves two people who know each other personally then it can work out but if they do not know each other and just chat throu im's then it will not work out..
@lauczi (962)
• Poland
12 Feb 07
im in one right now. and it will be a success when it changed to no distance relationship. i didnt choose long diststance relationship as such. it wasnt my fault that my lover lives so far away from me. that's just a bad luck. about wasting money.. oh yes! i lost so much money in one year that otherwise i would be rich. but loss of money is nothing comparing to happiness i got thanks to him. however i wish for myself to star with him a normal relationship in 2 years when i finish my school
@anandjee (282)
• India
12 Feb 07
yes it can be possible i have a friend in usa but we never see each other and talk on phone only on email from last 2 years,
@wolfpackfan (77)
• United States
12 Feb 07
i believe they can work out more often that you think. i know that there must be some kind of physical meeting every once in a while though, you cant have a true relationship over the internet or phone. i'm trying a long distance relationship right now, but we arent technically "together". we like eachother, but we want to wait until we've spent enough time together to know if we want to sacrifice what is needed to be in a long distance relationship.
@muye82 (26)
• Nigeria
12 Feb 07
yes i beleive in long distance relationship.its all in the heart cos if you both love each other and have trust with under standing then i dont thnk there is any thing wrong in it
@jx34me (60)
• United States
12 Feb 07
I would probably not ge involved in another long distance relationship. It is difficult to achieve and maintain the level of intimacy needed for a successful relationship while being apart from each other. Even if you beign together and one party moves away it's hard to maintain your relationship ... Also I believe that relationships thrive on shared experiences and it is difficult to grow together when you are not actually together. Eventually the relationship consisits of visits where serious issues/problems are not addressed because you do not see each other often and dont want to ruin the visit.
