Women: Would you donate your eggs?

@quispy (572)
United States
February 12, 2007 4:49pm CST
I know in NY there is advertising that fertility groups will harvest your eggs and pay you for them. When I was still in the age group to be considered a donor, I was seriously considering it. My major obstacle to it was: Whoever received my egg, if a child came from it, the child would be related to me. What if sometime down the road one of my children fell in love with this other child? We would not know that this child was related to us, they no longer do blood tests when you marry, and it would just complicate things in regard to them having children. So ultimately, while I agreed that this was a wonderful thing to do for someone, I couldn't do it. Would you do it? Have you done it?
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5 responses
12 Feb 07
I wouldn't donate my eggs to a stranger for money. I don't plan on having children of my own so the reasons you gave are not a consideration for me. I'm concerned about the health risks involved. Egg donation involves taking heavy doses of hormones so that enough eggs are produced. There is a risk of ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome, and the harvesting procedure itself can cause pain and discomfort. I also read an article the other week about a woman who donated eggs in her twenties and later developed cancer, which she blames on the hormone treatment involved. It's not a minor procedure and unless you're doing it because you're desperate to have your own children, it doesn't seem worth the danger. I would make an exception if my sister or another close relative wanted me to help out, though that might be productive of all other sorts of weirdness further down the line... Sperm donors have it SO much easier. If I were a man, I'd have no issues at all.
• United States
13 Feb 07
I've also heard that it's very painful.
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I'm just curious how much they pay? I don't think I would do it, though. Mainly for the same reasons you said. I wouldn't want my son to end up falling in love with his sister or something. Plus if there is some kind of genetic screening I probably wouldn't qualify because my family carries too many diseases. I wouldn't feel right giving someone my eggs, though, and knowing there was a chance that if the person got pregnant, they might end up treating the baby badly on down the road. That baby would still be part mine after all. It is a very nice thing for people to do for people that can't have children of their own, but I think that if I was in that situation, I would just opt to adopt. I keep telling my husband that maybe we should just adopt anyway instead of having more babies of our own. After all, those kids are already born and need homes.
@rlshaw (872)
• United States
15 Feb 07
THis is funny... My husband and I had talked about this a few weeks ago... I have thought about it but I have the same concerns you do... Plus i would just wonder all the time how many children out there are related to me... I think I might stress about it too much... BUt they do pay really well
@Bizziebod (3526)
13 Feb 07
Hi quispy, I don't think I could donate eggs as in theory it is similar to giving up one of your children! I know couples are desperate for children of their own out there but I just don't think I could because you don't know whether a child came of it and if they did whether they are being treated well!
• United States
13 Feb 07
I have to admit that I thought about it when I was in college and needed money. But, one of the requirements was that I had to have had a sucessful pregnancy before I could do it. I didn't have children and still don't. Now, I'm too old anyway.