A writing-associated dilemma

Writer - I am a writer and I do it for love not money at this stage, But I hope to make some money!
@Bunny2 (2102)
Australia
February 13, 2007 3:02am CST
A have several published author friends. One of them, I have been critiquing her work for ages - since before she sold. Today she came with an offer - as I always critique her work, and she rarely does mine (mostly because she and I write differently - not because she doesn't offer) she's offered to pay me for my work. I am flattered, elated, honoured, excited and maybe just a little speechless[not so you can tell the latter:)]So to my writing friends out there and my non-writing friends - what would you do? She is talking about a nice amount of money per book and it's not like I am rolling in money (I WISH!) But she is my friend and I do critique for other friends too. I am in a dilemma! At the moment I critique for several people and I do it for love and it's a learning curve for me too. She wants to show me that she appreciates my work. HELP!
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@ossie16d (11826)
• Australia
13 Feb 07
This certainly is a dilemna for you Bunny, but she does know that you do a good job and obviously values your input. In fact your input has probably been very encouraging for her, and possibly enhanced her writing to the point where she is now selling her stories. Go for it, but lay down some ground rules so that the friendship stays intact. It will be a wonderful opportunity for you, as you will learn and at the same time earn. Despite the friendship, she wouldn't have offered to pay you if she felt you didn't do a good job and it is her way of showing appreciation for all the assistance you give to her.
@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
14 Feb 07
Oh yes, she always says I am the main reason she is published and I was lucky enough to have her first book dedicated to me. It makes sense to make rules and that the friendship must never suffer. Thanks so much for your imput.
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@ossie16d (11826)
• Australia
3 Jun 07
Thanks very much for giving me best response for this discussion Bunny. :)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I think it's great that your friend wants to pay you for what you do obviously well. Maybe you do not have any friends who always want stuff from you for free, but they do exist. I would say to make sure the two of you have a legal binding arrangement; and that you promise each other that no matter what happens regarding the writing your friendship will remain intact. Good luck to your and your friend. It would be nice if you told us what your friend's first published work was:)
@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
23 Feb 07
My friend has already had several books published. She writes romance. As she doesn't want me to publicize out arrangement, I can't tell you her name or her book titles on here. I will send it to you in a private message.
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
13 Feb 07
I would go for it and accept the money. But i'd make sure that business won't accept your friendship. When money is involved, friendships are at risk if not handled carefully. So i'd have a talk with her about this and if you both agree then why not making some money?
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@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
14 Feb 07
Yes, they were my main concers - to let money come between a friendship. Thanks for your input :)
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@tigrashadow (1086)
• Australia
26 Mar 07
congrats, i think that we as friends often love to help our friends and dont realize the value that our time or expertise actually is to the friend. as long as there are ground rules for business to keep it separate to the friendship - as others have said, i do agree that it would be a wonderful thing to be doing.. great going hon!
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@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
29 Mar 07
Thanks, Tigra. I htink I have made the right decision. So far it is working out well. Thanks for your reply.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
23 Feb 07
First question, do your friends acknowledge your input in their published works? I have just finished a novel, and two colleagues have helped me with editing and critiquing. I resoprocate by editing and writing critiques for them. However if it were a one way street, I would expect to pay for their service in some way. Do you plan to make a career out of this type of work? Good luck and I'm sure you won't damage your friendship by accepting some payment for your effort.
@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
24 Feb 07
Yes, all my critique partners have acknowledged me in at least one of the dedications in their books. I have some who critique for me, but the writer in question writes differently to me - she's very much a *by the book* writer and plots, uses Scene and Sequel, and Goal, Motivation, Conflict. While all those things are addressed in my writing, they're not planned. I can't plan my books because the one that I did is still on the second chapter because i have so meticulously planned it that I feel that I've already written it. Thanks for your input and everyone else's, and I have decided to accept my friend's offer.
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@freesoul (3023)
• Egypt
14 Feb 07
I have two friends that volunteer to critique my work and I do the same for them.. since non of us is doing any serious money out of it yet, there's no money arrangements between us.. I wouldn't hastate to pay or accept money from a friend for such work, if one is making money it's nice to help their friends and appreciate their help and time wasted.. I wouldn't negotiate their offer in any way either i think it's fair or not and if i was paying i would offer highest possible sum for their help.. I would say go for it and best of luck :)
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@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
15 Feb 07
Thanks for this, Freesoul. I'm grateful for a writers point of view. I have always given freely of my time because other people have done so for me. But this particular writer is churning out three books per year - maybe four - so it's quite a lot of work. Thanks so much for your perspective.
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@34momma (13891)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Bunny2 that is awsome what is the dilemma. go for it!! if she is a friend and she thinks what you to is a value to her and wants to pay you, i say why not!! i would be honored that a friend though enough of my opionin would do that for me! go for it enjoy and spend wisely LOL
@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
14 Feb 07
Thanks, 34momma. You make a valid point too. I am flattered and honoured - I'm just used to doing it for nothing. LOL.
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• Australia
13 Feb 07
Bunny2 go for it, you obviously have a knack at knowing what writting is all about, and if you all ready write what do you have to loose. I'd be interested in reading something you've written. Good luck with it xx
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@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
14 Feb 07
Although I write romance novels, I have a background in science. So my logical mind can often pick up things in other people's writing. It's different when it's your own of course. Hopefully one day soon my book will be on the shelves and I'll tel everyone all abot it :) Thanks for your reply
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
14 Apr 07
Glad that you decided to accept the offer of payment ... that was what I was going to say you should do. It takes away a few issues that might otherwise come up .... you are giving her your time and valuable input and so she will gain from that. She has offered to pay .... and you didn't approach her about this. A bit different to your situation ... but my partner is an excellent seamstress and for years helped everyone out when and where she could. Then she was asked to make a wedding dress for the daughter of a friend .... but the woman said it was only on the condition that my partner accepted payment. My partner wanted to make the dress ... so had no alternative to say "yes she would take some money" for it. The woman paid a lot of money ... my partner thought it was too much but then did a few extra things for the bride. Since that time ... the woman has spread the word about my partner and now she is paid for what she does. Sometimes not much but other times quite a lot and everyone is happy with the end result.
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@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
13 May 07
How wonderful that the woman did this - it's nice to be appreciated and I can fully understand about falling into doing things to help people. And good seamstresses are hard to find!
@mjgarcia (725)
• United States
25 Mar 07
If she really wants to show her appreciation monitarily, I'd say accept it. It would bless her as well as you. If you feel it is too much, maybe you could compromise and tell her you would take half. Or maybe you can tell her she can pay you one out of three books or something. She recognizes that it takes time to give a good critique and she appreciates the good job that you do.
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@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
26 Mar 07
Thanks for your reply. I did give it a great deal of thought and decided to take my friend up on her offer. It's nice to be paid for something I love doing :)