Is being "single" such a bad thing?

United States
February 14, 2007 1:48pm CST
Is there something wrong with being single and enjoying it? It seems that there is alot of emphasis on being a "couple" all the time. Especially on Valentine's Day. Are single people just bitter people who have given up on finding love with one person? I know some people who would probably be happier if they weren't in a relationship that they feel "stuck" in. Is it insecurity that makes people settle for these kind of relationships?
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@tarlsgirl (102)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Being single is not bad at all, you dont have to worry about trying to make someone happy all the time, you cant get in trouble by going out and partying, the only thing bad about being single is there is no one there to cuddle with, but if you truly want a cuddling partner, there is someone out there just for you.
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• United States
14 Feb 07
I agree. I also think that the longer you are single the harder it is to adapt to having a partner. When you're used to doing things your way and not having to answer to anybody about the things you do and why...
• India
15 Feb 07
No..nope,,never being single is one'd personal choice..there is no harm or wrong in this !!!
@Jshean20 (14349)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
It's hard to say what makes some people stay in relationships where they're not happy, could be insecurity or that they just dread being alone. Certain people are fine with being single and I'm amazed by that, as it's something that I had a tough time dealing with when I was alone. I'll admit that things are a bit tougher when you're in a relationship and yet I wouldn't trade it for being single ever again.
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• Philippines
15 Feb 07
hi there.. i really think that its ok to be single. because you have lesser responsibilities to look after with somebody, hahahh^_^ and i guess its still a blessing, as the bibile says, its ok to be single.. single blessedness you are.. and i think when your ready to face responsibilities, perhaps you might consider having one, or might even settle someday, but isnt it great that being single and have no attachments at all somehow means freedom..
• United States
15 Feb 07
Yeah, being single is ok :-)
@subha12 (18441)
• India
15 Feb 07
Not at all. being single is not at all a bad thing. I really enjoy my life being single. I don't know why people emphasize on being couple and be rather unhappy. Beings single has also pros and cons.You don't have to take other responsibilities. You are free from some burdens.
@exargyll (11)
14 Feb 07
i have spent the greatest part of my life married to the army not that we are divorced due to my age i find it very hard finding myself single. i was just a boy when i enisted now i am middle agad with no one to tell me what to do i find this very hard
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• United States
14 Feb 07
I understand what you mean, that transition can be very difficult.
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I wouldnt worry about valentines day I think thats too commercial anyway.As far as giving up dont ever do that. I sometimes wish I was single when Im mad at my hubby.LOL
@onesiobhan (1327)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Lots of people love the independence of being single.
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@brian01 (20)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
The way I see it if you are happy alone then why take the chance , when you find the man you want then it will be all good . Have a happy
• United States
15 Feb 07
I don't think being single is a bad thing at all! I love my boyfriend, but there were definitely some things that were easier when I was single, like finding apartments, scheduling classes, financial matters, etc. I was a happy single woman before I met him. Don't get me wrong; I'm in a good relationship and I wouldn't trade it for anything. But if I were single, there wouldn't be anything wrong with that.
@heynow123 (147)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
Being sinsle is not a bad thing. But being with someone can be a whole lot better. Yeah their are downsides to it. And yeah it does cost alittle bit of money but hey, it is always better to have someone than be that lonely one.
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@mywords18 (645)
• United States
15 Feb 07
no its not bad its courageous as human being a social animal cant be alone so if someone practicing soo than hatts off to him or her, and valentines are not just for couples it can be for u mom or dad or siblings , i wish each and every person in my life who beholds a special place on this lovely day.its not about being bitter it cud be waitin for good times or someone nice and more suitable to arrive,,,,,,,,,wat ever it make be i like the line which goes like this..."single but ready to mingle" :))
• Canada
15 Feb 07
you know what? only single people can only tell if it is. couples have different views about singleness. some couples are happy of their situation, but some couples wish they were still single. i am happily married but there are fun stuff i can't do that only single people can. even if my wife let me hang out with friends, i can't stay later than my single friends because at the back of my mind. i have a wife and kid to think of and sometimes that spoils the fun.
• Canada
15 Feb 07
I personaly dont think there is anything rong with being single!! I mean, I now have been with my husband for 8 years, and for the past 2 years we have been in a rough sponsorship, and that of course has delayed our relationship, but since he had been in his own home Country, I have been without him for the past 2 years. And beleve me, im enjoying every minute of this temporary seperation! I think if you not happy in a relationship, then get out and make the best of your life! Rent a date if you have to for those special occasions.
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@ssh123 (31073)
• India
15 Feb 07
You need not become double just because people are greeting couples during valentine's day. If you need a companion for biological need, physical need, psychological need, financial and social needs, then you opt for a partner. If you feel you donot require one, no one can for ce you to have partner, marry that person etc. It is purely your will and wish because it is your life.
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@profclark (512)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Not a thing wrong with it. I learned this week that two sets of my couples friends are getting divorced. Me, I had a very nice valentines dinner for myself in celebration of myself, and I was quite happy.
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@stateroad (730)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I hope it is not a bad thing because I am still single. I do not think it is such a bad thing. If you have not found the right person to marry then what can you do. You cannot give up hope and you have to just hope for the best. I hope one day that I will get married.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Being single is not a bad thing at all. I have a few friends who just haven't found that special someone, and are happy and content with their lives right now - I envy them because they get to travel all over the world, and see the places I have always longed to see. On Valentines day they get together with other friends and celebrate their lifelong friendships.
• India
15 Feb 07
I think that being in a loving healthy relationship is better than being single, but obviously it's better to be single than stuck in a horrid relationship.
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@aweins (4199)
• India
15 Feb 07
no, i dont think so.when i was single i use to enjoy a lot , a lot means a LOT. i dont think that it is insecurity that people settle for these kind of relationships. but may be possible also as the world is so big that one cant think that what he or she is thinking is only correct. every person has a different feeling and a different opinion.
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