Bad Parents VS Good Parents

@rlshaw (872)
United States
February 16, 2007 12:54pm CST
Do you think it makes a difference what kind of parents your parents were to you? If you had bad parents will you grow up to be a bad parent also ??? IF you had great parents will you be a great parent?
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@cap_leo18 (357)
• India
16 Feb 07
i don't think so there good and bad parents in this world , only one parents that have a lot of meaning than this bad and good ,only think is the bad child or good child his vision to his parents make him think so , they are the greatest relationship in this world
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@ebsharer (5516)
• United States
16 Feb 07
My parents tried really hard and I was still a brat and thats an understaitment! At the time I did not think they were good parents, but now I realize that they were. I am now a parent and although I do some things different I do a lot of what my parents did with me. I feel like I am a great parent and I know my husband is a great parent. I also know that we will both make mistakes, but in the end I think we are good parents because of what our parents did and did not do.
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@brihanna (381)
• United States
16 Feb 07
No, I think that if you are intelligent, then you can make your own choices to be the type of parent you want to be. I do not think blaming your past is a way to live your future.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
17 Nov 11
As parents we are always in a dilemma, if we grow good kids. When children make mistakes, we wonder where have we failed in the educational process. The world and in life there are parents and parents, children and babies. We can not grow all the same as children, and at the same time, we have the same results even if you just educate. Each individual has a personality and acts as such. And in short, to be proud that we are parents, we are proud of our children that we love unconditionally and be with them for better or worse.
@acquaria (719)
• Italy
19 Feb 07
I don't know if I will be a good parents,but of sure I can say that my parents are the best!!!The have renounced to their plans,have left their mother contry and their jobs for to give me a better future!!!
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I lost my dad when i was 12 years old so that left my mom and my stepfather eventually to care for me. I was raised in a very strict home and had no life outside of it at all. I have a 15 year old daughter and I let her get out and do things that I never got to do but I give her rules when she does those things. If she messes up then privileges are taken away. I want her to do all the things I never got to do.
@quispy (572)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I would have to say that if you were a good role model, then your child SHOULD follow suit. However, my father, who was a great father, still is, was horribly abused as a child. He was taken away from his parents in the 1940's when that was unheard of. He suffered horrible abuse. He NEVER hit us. He decided that he wasn't going to do that, and never did. So he broke the pattern and showed us what wonderful parents could do for children. He is absolutely the greatest. I admire him for rising above the abuse and breaking the cycle.
@XxAngelxX (2831)
• Canada
17 Feb 07
I think the type of parenting we grew up with plays a very important factor in how we raise our children, however I don't think that growing up with bad parents will necessarily make us bad parents and the same for good. I think it is how we deal with the situation. We may be smart enough to realize that if our parents were bad, then we certainly don't want to do this to our own children. I think people who grew up with good parents are more likely to have good parenting skills though.
@Mamaof4 (222)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
I think it's all a matter of personal choice, no matter what kind of parents you have/had. If YOU want to be a good parent, then YOU tell yourself that you WILL be. Read up on books, if you had a bad parent, and see how you can change the pattern.
@bethmt (419)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I don't think it necessarily makes a difference, it just depends a lot on a person's personality traits, how they view their life, what's important to them, etc. There is some evidence that children who've been abused are more likely to be abusive parents because of learned behavior and unresolved anger, but even that isn't always the case and it kind of bothers me how some "experts" make the assumption that people can't change or improve their lives. I grew up in a terribly tumultuous home and my parents had some major problems. But what stuck with me was how I didn't want to raise my kids based on my own experiences. So in that way, my negative childhood turned into a plus for my kids. I'm not saying I'm a perfect parent, but my experiences helped me to learn what is really important in life.
• United States
16 Feb 07
I don't think there's any sure fire way to tell what sort of parent a person will turn out to be based solely on what type of parents they had. Both of my parents had relatively bad parents and they both turned out to be EXCELLENT parents. But vice versa could have been true. I think it depends on a lot of different factors but most of all, what sort of person they are to begin with.
@yanjiaren (9050)
16 Feb 07
sometimes yes sometimes no..it could make a child go either way..it all depends on how the kid is psychologically affected..