Taking hubby's last name

no it's not important, it's just part of a patriachal society. It means nothing, except tradaion. I will NOTchange my last name when I marry because my name is my identity. I think it's wrong for one partner in the marriage to have to give up their identity but the other doesnt have to...its freaken outdated. I will hyphenate my children's last name because they are a product of BOTH parents and I want that reflected in their name.

I have never been married, and I don't think that I ever will, which is a totally different subject & I won't bore you with my feelings on that. I have two children by 1 father, who have hyphenated last names. My eldest became a father himself in October, and I was so thrilled when he announced that his child will carry his hyphenated last name I feel like a whole new tribe of people have stemmed from me :) OK- I am a bit of a dork sometimes, but there are 3 people in the world with their last name now & that tickles me. My current partner, who I intend to spend the rest of my life with, has a last name that is very similar to my last name- one letter different, so I agreed that our son would have only his last name- he bears his whole name & is the third. We are now expecting a second child together and debating which way to go this time. I think when we choose the first name, it will be easier to decide which last name. I feel like hyphenating is such a great expression of what a family really is, I didn't join his family nor did he join mine- we combined and created a new one, and a hyphenated name represents that.

I personally dont think to take your husbands last name when you get married. But i come from a conservative and a very traditional family and it is very important for us to take our husbands last name when we get married. For me, what you are is more important and one should always be recognised by their first names than their last names.

When I was married, I kept my last name. I did not change it. I just didn't want to give up my last name. My mother hyphenated her name when she got married. I am planning to remarry in a few years and I think I may just take his last name.

I took my first hubby's name. Then when I got divorced I changed it back. When I married my current hubby I didn't take his last name. My kids have their fathers name

I think it any of those options are fine. I chose to take my husband's last name and my kids have that last name as well. I did toy around with keeping my last name because so much of my family lives in my area and we have somewhat of a unusual last name. I find people would often recognize my last name because they knew someone else in my family and it has been helpful in many ways. I love being associated with my family, they are really amazing people. Ultimately though, I decided I wanted to take my husband's name. It is so much shorter and easier to spell!

My husband and I invented a new name that we'll both take. It takes a little longer legally, but it works for us. Hyphenating was out of the question, because he already has a hyphenated last name, and who ever heard of a double-hyphenated name? I like the new name, though... it feels like 'us'.

I haven't taken my husband's name, and hyphenating seems out of the question because he already has a hyphenated last name. Who ever heard of a double hyphenated last name?? So, what we plan to do is shorten his last name, which is pretty darn long, to make a nice, simple four letter name.. and then we'll BOTH change our names to the new one. So, we're technically inventing a name we'll both take... I am pretty feminist-y, and so is he, so this works for us. nothing against women who do change their last name, we just didn't like the idea that I was 'expected' to because I'm a woman. I'm not attached to my maiden name, and in fact I'm looking foreward to having a new identity!

When I see a woman who hyphenates her last name, it looks pretentious to me. What is she trying to prove. The only reason I could see for keeping your maiden name would be if you had established a professional business under that name and felt it would be confusing to your clients if you changed it. I have always felt that part of becoming one with my husband was leaving my parents, along with their name, and taking on my husband's name and life.

I have no qualms taking my hubby's last name. After all, I did commit myself to him when we married. But, for correspondence, work-related stuff, I use my hyphenated maidenname-married name so people can esily trace me. I have many contacts from work/school when i was single and they recognize my last name easily. So I opt to use the hyphenated name. But to make things easy for me, I use only my married name for my official document like IDs, bank accounts, cards, licenses, etc.

No I don't think so but in this way you respect his family but in return he has to respect your family. I have changed my surname and my child's name is on my father's name.

I was excited to change my last name, I personally like my married name better. I did have to think about it a little though because I have no Brothers and that means that my family name would not be passed on from my fathers side. Another thing is that my husband and I will not likely have children so its not like it really would matter for kids sake if I hadn't changed it.

I ttok my husbands last name by choice. I feel like if should be yours chioce. I have a freind that kept her last name. Like she said she should be able to choose what she is going to be called the rest of her life.

I think it's very important if you plan to have children. I personally never thought about keeping my maiden name. I feel like a lot of tradition has been lost in our society, and I think it's important to try to keep some alive.

Personally I felt that I should take my husbands last name. When a man and a women get married they become one. You really aren't one with two last names. I would much rather have my maiden name than my husbands last name, especially for my children.

I changed my last name when I was married almost 8 years ago and I haven't looked back. I guess it makes us feel more like a family, if that makes sense. I also have trouble with addressing cards and things like that when the couple is hyphenated. There was a friend of mine who had a distinctive last name. She chose to make it a second middle name when she changed her last name. That worked out well for her. I've also heard of people using their maiden names as their children's middle names. I guess that would be a good way to have both families represented in the child's name, if that is something that some one is longing for.