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It is best to wait until past the first trimester so that in the event of an abortion, you don't have to back track. If someone knew you were pregnant but didn't hear you lost it, then they ask you how the baby is it would be quite uncomfortable and embarrassing. In my case I was newly divorced and in my late 20's. I waited until after the first trimester to tell my parents. I tried to keep it from friends but people you are around all the time are just too nosy, or they know the signs. The second time I tried to keep it quiet but my husband told his mother. I gave him a lickin' for that and, guess what? I miscarried. And I waited the three months again with my third pregnancy. But the cat got out of the bag on that. Not with my family but with DH's. It was Christmas and I was getting "Why aren't you smoking? Why aren't you drinking?" They asked me if I was pregnant and I denied it but they didn't believe me.

I never told anybody till after my first trimester only because after my miscarriage the first time it was hard having everybody tell me how sorry they were. Not that it wasn't appreciated. But it was hard to handle. After the 3rd month the chances of miscarriage is almost none and just feels safer. Plus that is when reality really hits that you are pregnant because you start to feel the baby.

its because there is a raised risk of miscarraige for the first three months and it would be very upsetting to tell the world your pregnant and then have to tell everyone you lost it.

I believe the reason for not really formally announcing a pregnancy until after the third month is because some believe it is bad luck. Within the first trimester is a very delicate period. There's a huge risk of miscarriage. Personally, I have had 4 kids and have never NOT waited to tell of the blessings that were to come. I don't know how anyone could keep it a secret anyway.

My sister is not telling everyone right away because she had a miscarriage. So she is keeping it a secret but everyone seems to know already. I think I can respect that. It's their right anyway.

I don't think it should be a secret at all about being prego... It's such a beautiful time in a womans life.I think she should share it with the world!!!

It has always been advised to not tell everyone that you are pregnant, at last until you are 3 months as this is within a period when you can miscarry. Some women don't want to tempt fate or have the displeasure of telling everyone they have lost their baby is the worse does happen. However, I told everyone as soon as I knew, when I was only 6 weeks pregnant and luckily both my kids were fine, but I can understand why some women want to wait.

I think and also know from experience that if things go wrong they don't want to get pepoles hopes up or their own especially if they have lost more than two in a row me i waited untill the third month as i only ever miscarried at upto 12 weeks

Most people, as a general rule, don't make their pregnancies "public knowledge" until they're more than 14 weeks along. Reasons for this vary, but usually it is because: 1. The incidence of miscarriage decreases dramatically after 14 weeks gestation, so if the mother waits to tell then she doesn't have to deal with everyone assuming she's still pregnant if she happens to lose the baby...and having to tell everyone all over again that she is not pregnant anymore. 2. Pregnancy lasts for actually 10 months, some women push 11 if they are late or their due dates are miscalculated. Telling people that you don't really know too early can make it seem to them, and you, that you are pregnant FOREVER! Women don't normally start to "show" until the 14 week (3-4 mos) mark, either, and it's easier to tell people and have them "see" that you're a bit thicker around the middle! As you can see, it's not about keeping a secret -- it's more about convenience and the hassle of people asking about your pregnancy when it's not really their business. That being said, I started telling people I was pregnant when I was only about a month and a half along! I knew I wouldn't be able to keep it inside as I was SO excited, and if I were going to miscarry then I wouldn't be able to keep that inside either...so it was same/same for me! Now I'm due any day -- and it does seem like I have been pregnant FOREVER!!!!!!

When I got pregnant the second child (I have a healthy little girl), I was so happy, it was planned and I couldn't wait to tell the world!! Nearly everyone at my work and my family knew early on, but then I lost the baby at 6 weeks, I was crushed and the hardest was telling people that I had miscarried, or when people would congratulate me and then having to tell them that it didn't work out, it was very hard. We will be trying again in a few months and I don't know how long I'll wait this time to tell people, I will be very happy when I get pregnant, but the worry of going through that again still sits in my mind.