Since you been in a relationship do you still have girls/guys nights/days out?

I think that if I was a hot foxy momma he would take me places just to show me off like he did when we were first married. But now..no such luck, I look more like a cow then a fox nowdays..We rarely spend tiime even at home and we don't have the same taste in televison or movies and so when he is watching t.v. I am usually on the computer. If I am watching something he doesn't like or want to watch he switches without even asking so that is why I don't get to much into the tube unless it is afer he is in bed at night. And right now he is only working part time because of the heat.

I have no friends really outside of family really and we don't do things together very often at all. Me and my hubby never do anything together outside the home. Not even go to town together we haven't been to town together in over 12 years...we have nothing in common really that lets us do things together..shame I know. I married young 16-1/2 and lost most of my school friends after marriage. And not having a vechicle doesn't help because I can't go anywhere unless my mom takes or another family memeber takes me, which he never goes. Live in Peace.. I wish..I wish we all could live in peace together in this world.

Hubby and I are the same. We rarely go out together b/c he is housebound due to a disability. I don't drive and he can't anymore, so like you, when I go shopping it is usually with my Mom. Hubby and I do spend alot of time together at home though. We have our office set up so our desks face each other so we can look and talk to each other all the time and we both enjoy the same kinds of movies so we spend our evenings watching movies and me stitching. I don't mind doing all the shopping as I always pick him up little surprises while I'm out. LIVE IN PEACE

That is great. I am thinking I am so ready for a girls night out even if it is a game of Bingo..lol

I'm sorry to hear that. Some relationships can be so tough to be in. I know a little where your coming from. That is considered controlling,and my man has/is trying that on me a few times but his statements are why not just stay with the person your leaving with.. I have called his bluff before and stayed away three days just to get hollered at when i got home because I ddin't comoe home. Told him he can't have it both ways. He yells DIVORCE all the time at me I got to the point where I say so what Go do it..That he has me at a certain point now and that I am tired of hearing it either do it or shut up about it. I am sorry you are having to go through this alone. But maybe you should take your daughter when you go out and tell him go or stay his choice just to see if he is bluffing and huffing off at the mouth to restrain you from going places and enjoying yourself. You need to get out and enjoy life even if for a few moments a month. I truly hope that you can get things settled I now the thought of being alone terrifies you but you need these moments if he loved you he would give them toyou without ultimatiums..Hubby and me doing a little better since school has started back up and we aren't as stressed by kids. Good luck(hugs)

best way to settle that is get the babysitter and pay her and hten he'd have to or atleast i'd hope so. Men sometimes doesn't realize how special these moments are to us especially when they are few and far between . especially if you have children involved..Best thing is have a system set up with family( or a baby sitter)you either exchange favors or pay them and you should get a night together atleast 2-3 times a month..If your lucky and money allows it.

Thank you for the advice, we live with my mom who is willing to do it but he thinks since she has a bad back we shouldn't leave our daughter with him. My mom is good with her and can handle her. We have money to pay her for babysitting also for a date. I want to go minature golfing or bowling. Pray it happens. please.

Love bowling even if i do get alot of gutter balls! lol I think it should be up to your mom if she thinks she can handle it then it would be some quality time spent with granny maybe they can bake cookies or even just watch a movie or something. I have a bad back also and i'm 32 but i don't try to let that stop me from doing the things i like doing since i doen't have kids i love spending time with my little sister she is 5 and my nieces and newphews..But have your mother tell your hubby thats she's all right just leave the number where you'll be or have your cell and that way if anything happens or comes up or her back gives out you can be there in a jiffy...So i do pray you get to get out and enjoy a date with your man..lol Go get him girl and if need be drag him out we are queen of the jungle hear us roar LOL just kidding.... lol well i hope things go well..

yep, thanks for the reply.

Thank you for your response it is very much appreciated. I agree. Have a nice night.

We drive about 40 minutes to for the movies...there is a bowling alley, but we don't bowl..So we play a lot of board games when the kids come or watch videos..But I wouldn't give living where I live for anything....

We still have the movies but lord the price $5.00 a person and the food is outrageous too they sell it to hi. they would have more business it they slashed the price in half for the movie and the pop,popcorn etc...So it's a rare treat that we get to go . thanks.

I know the feeling of not having places to go we live on the outside of a small town and there isn't nothing to do we used to have games rooms bowling alley and skating ring and it was all tooken out because they didn't make enough and moved. So if you want to have fun you have to drive atleast 45 minutes to a hour and a half to get to somewhere that fun...I think the most our town sees is on Apple day in October..lol.. tahnks for the reply it's appreciated..

yeah i know it's something we don't get enough of lol maybe we should shedule time. If I had a vechicle ahhh the possilbilities....

thats good you understand your husband

Thats nice to have a tust on each other.

yes it is. thanks for responding.

yep, thanks for the reply.

Yes but it makes it more special when u get to .. thanks for the reply..

where would we be without fun? world be awful dull place.lol thanks for replying.

Yes thats when i get things done the most is when my husband is gone. And every mommy needs a break once in a while that is what keeps them good mommies that is what i have been told anyhow..My mom comes and gets me occassionally just to have adult conversations once in awhile lol...well,good luck.. thanks for your reply it is greatly appreciated..