Is your husband invading your privacy?
By filchi
@filchi (291)
Netherlands
February 21, 2007 4:15am CST
Does he has access to your mails? Even here on my lot? For me it doesnt matter as long as i am honest of what i am saying here, besides i only want to read other people opinions to know which one should i have to do, and this is a public forum where we can express ourselves supposed to be in private for me, but even this, he is reading my lot, though i am not affected. I am just being honest of myself saying and asking questions.
9 responses
@rapunsel (7)
• Netherlands
21 Feb 07
I wonder how you see looking at what you write here as an invasion of privacy? After all, and you stated this correctly, this is a public forum. I might be wrong but publicly discussing another person on a public forum as you seem to do here with you husband might be seen as an invasion of his privacy. Perhaps I'm getting technical, perhaps I'm wrong, comments anyone?
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
22 Feb 07
i say this is my privacy expressing how am i feeling toward him, i would say since this is a public forum i want to know and learn of the things, here, and i am not just saying that this the only thing he does, even my mails, when he doesnt have the intension of sharing his mails or passwords to me.so to me, this is the only privacy i can express myself and even this....
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
22 Feb 07
in addition to that, nobody knows who here, i did not even mention a name, you do not even know who i am really and who my husband is.yes this is a public forum but i still have the right to have my own privacy here to express what i am thinking and feeling...
@chocobaby (677)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
i don't mind my husband snooping at my emails and other accounts as long as he doesn't mind me doing the same to him. but so far, i have not done any snooping in his accounts or using his pass on something. it's just a matter of trust. well, i guess its too early to tell now cause we are just on our third year of marriage. maybe if i started to feel something different or if he seems hiding something from me and it begin to make suspicious of him, maybe snooping would be considered option. who knows? lol!
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
23 Feb 07
yes to me, it is fine, and i am very much open to him...he is the one not letting me know about him, his past, and he did something bad, i found it out but then still i did not insist to ask passwords of him as i know i will not get it anyway. but this my lot, he knows i am writing here, i just dont want him to read it as it might cause problem of the things i wanted to say and express...its just like being here is feeling to be free what i want to say...
@ladymoonstone143 (1507)
• United States
23 Feb 07
My husband knows my passwords and what am doing around on the internet because I tell him everything. I have several accounts and sometimes I let him check it if am busy but he forgot my passwords. We both trust each other wholeheardly. I put my trust in him 100% because he knows what force is he up against if he will not live up to that trust. A woman scorn is very very bad...=)
If he snoop around on your email, just let him. I mean there are no reasons to hide anything. He will get tired of it eventually. He will feel guilty sooner of doing that to you and he is not letting you know what is he up to.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
23 Feb 07
i do and very hounest to him he does check my mails, problem is he is the one not sharing his own...i am an honest person,you know us women dont you when we fall in love, i am sincere of my marriage to work,yes in my lot, i do not like him to read it as he might not going to like what i want to share here, which it happen he doesnt like some of it,that is why sometimes we need to have privacy to express ourselves, and to avoid conflict, because he has lots of secrets, mostof them are busted by me, with me he cannot find any secrets, he knows everything about me, because for me when you get married better to revail everythng to avoid problems in the future, and sharing is very important, to be open to one another.he knows i am writing here, but just dont want to read it as he might not like what i am going to say, but he still did and yes it did create bad feelings.
@globetrotter_27 (558)
• India
21 Feb 07
Honesty is the best policy ,,rest is matter of luck
TC with smile
@crisorc (8)
• Romania
21 Feb 07
Great I don't have acces to my wife emails.
It's not good... must be onest:)
@Mommamea (1215)
• United States
21 Feb 07
My husband and I have accounts together and this one he knows about and I never log out completely so he can access it at any time. I don't have anything to hide from him so It doesn't or wouldn't bother me if he did. I don't understand when most married couples do have private accounts of all sorts from each other. Why do people feel the need to hide things from one another when they get married? In our wedding vows we became one. He doesn't hide anything from me either. You never know what you may learn from the other about their opinions of some of the discussions. I would welcome the learning experience.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
21 Feb 07
LOL if my husband ever got busted by me for snooping I'd beat him bloody ;-) He doesnt have access to my accounts or my emails etc and even if he wanted them he wouldnt get them...they are MY accounts, I'm a grown woman and dont need anyone snooping in my biz...Mind you I dont hide things from him anyway but thats not the point..I'm not a chid that needs to be monitored ya know...
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
21 Feb 07
I agree with you. My husband not, he want sto know every detail. I am an honest woman too but sometimes we really just have privacy to express ourselves. I do not like it but he is a wizard he knows what i am doing. I do not even ask his own password nor the intension to know. But he had a bad taste of trust thats why...
