Yelling All Day

@Michele21 (3094)
United States
February 21, 2007 8:58pm CST
Do you ever have one of those days as a parent where you feel like all you have done is yell at your kids?? My son doesn't listen to me at all unless I am yelling so loud that the neighbors can hear. It drives me crazy..I try whispering but he doesn't care I worry that one day the cops will show up at my door because the neighbors are worried about us. Anyone else out there feel this way too?
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7 responses
• United States
22 Feb 07
I do all the time, My son is 2 and it seems like he never lisens to me. I feel like i can yell untill im blue in the face and not manage to get anything acomplished.
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@biwasaki (1745)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I know exactly how you feel. It's so frustrating to try and talk to your kids and have everything go in one ear and out the other. I was reading up on parenting on a website and it said that if your children are under five, it's much more effective to talk to them face to face rather than from across the room. When I need to get my daughters' attention I'll walk over to where they are, look them both in the eyes, and then tell them what I need to. It's been very effective so far and I've found that I am yelling less. I know its frustrating, but with a little time I'm sure you'll find a way that will work for your family. Good luck!!
@lillake (1633)
• United States
22 Feb 07
Oh yes! There are days when I go to bed hoarse from yelling all day. There are good days and bad days. I always make sure to apologize and explain to my children why I yelled and why it was not right, and what they can do to help me next time. By making it their job to help mama not yell they're more likely to stop what they were doing to make me yell.
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• United States
22 Feb 07
I always feel like this. I am so tired of yelling. My kids will listen, but it takes a load of yelling, threats to lose toys and stuff like that to get anything done right now.
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@royal52gens (5398)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Yep, been there, done that. You said you tried whispering. Try again. I found that if I wanted the children to really listen all I had to do was whisper all day long. I also told them I had no voice left after yesterday's yelling. Then no matter what, I whispered. I have been known to whisper for days. Do not give up. And do not lose your cool. P.S. This trick works with husband's that don't listen well also.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
I think all Moms tend to have a tendency to yell a lot. But I really find that totally ineffective as well. It's a waste of my time and energy..not to mention, voice! The best response I've had so far is to go to my child, get down to his level and look him in his eye and talk to him. Sometimes he knows what's coming and tries his best to avoid looking at me! Sigh...the things that kids do to push our buttons!
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
23 Feb 07
At times i will honestly say i did for almost 5 yrs, when to much is to much, but its not really my way for my kids. For me the best way is when it is to much, i will call my kid calmly and will ask if we can talk and that i wanted to talk to her, and she has to look at me in the eye.Then its better than to yell. Then i will tell her what i am feeling and that she can also tell me what she feels, then it is ok, but then here it goes again, because they are Kids....