Mylot friends list - are you picky about who is on it?

Well, I am about a month old here on this site, and there are over 800 people on my friends list. I can tell you what I did: * When I posted my 1st discussion, I quckly sent around 500 friends requests (might sound insane, but that's what I did!). The thought behind it was, out of those 500, at least 50 are going to look at my profile, and some of them might even reply on my debut discussion. And it worked! I got over 15 responses on it! And, I think my friend's list was one of the major reason for it (if not the only). * Till date, I have posted around 15 discussions, and all of them made it to top discussions, and got replies in double, and triple figures. Though, I am not sending any more friends request to users, but still, because I have such a big freind's list, it helps me in getting responses. It has been proven not once, not twice, but fifteen times in a row. So, I have all the reason to believe that friend's list does help. * Now, as far as setting alerts are consired, I have not set any alerts on any user. I choose the topics I like, that's it. Yes, if someone asks me to have a look at his discussion, I do give it a look, but I only reply to those discussions, which I feel, I can justfy. * And as far as some speacial freind are concerned, I think, things takes their own course. Even in a site which has over 70,00 members, I never found any problem finding 'my kind of people'. As, i said, things take their own course. * I wont advice you to delete any friend(s) from the list, unless, he/she is really giving you hard time. With kind of settings myLot has for friends, I dont think, one can properly organise his/her friend's list anyways! That is it from my side. Rest is up to you. All the best. Cheers!

I think I am picky about my friends, I like friends who post discussions I am interested in, friends who like and respond to my discussions, friends who have something in common. I went through my friends the other day and deleted several who haven't done anything in weeks, just easier for me to keep a few good friends than to have a bunch of pictures on my profile that I don't think are friends if you never hear from them - i.e. responding to discussions and such.

I think mylot friends should be just like real friends who share common interests or at least write something inelegant that we can read an relate to.. some people want hundreds of friends so that there will be always "some" of these friends responding, but if you have hundreds of friends there's no way to respond to everyone's discussions even if they were interesting.. I don't look on it in an opportunistic way, if I can't respond to many friends then I shouldn't have many, I choose only those I can relate to and I delete those who post trash discussions and also those who are just happy about me responding to their discussions and they never do the same for me.. Don't feel guilty in deleting unwanted friends, it's not about "collecting" friends, it's about "interacting" with them, those who are not interested in interacting with you (or you are not interested in their discussions) should be deleted to open the way for more genuine friends.

If I know what they are discussing I try to answers ,if its something I don't know nothing about I don't post anything I usually read them to see what its about ,I don't have to many on my list , I not being mean by not answering ,I just don't have any thing to say about the topic , If you have some that don't answer at all I wouldn't keep them .

I have a bad habit of accepting everyone and not deleting anyone unless they do something I don't like, if I keep getting emails on their annoying posts then I just turn the alert off on the friend in question. I don't know why but I feel bad if I don't accept a request for friends and I feel by saying no I'm not giving them a chance and I like giving people a chance.

Personally I think you should delete them if they aren't answering your topics..

This is really an individual thing Sasselle but like many others at first I accepted everyone who asked as a friend but then found that some were not active or were not responding to any of my discussions. I did send PM's to some and those who replied indicating they wanted to stay as a friend, I left on my list to see what would happen. Those who did not respond, I deleted after a couple of weeks. Any who indicated they wanted to remain a friend but still did not respond to my discussions were deleted. I do have to say that I had been responding to discussions started by all my friends, so why keep someone on the list who does not reciprocate. Now I when I get a friend request, I check out their discussions as well as the responses they have made and base my decision on that. So, if they have only responded to a few discussions (none of which are mine) but have started heaps themself and I find nothing at all of interest to me, I deny them. Personally I do not think I need heaps of friends just for the sake of having them, if they are not responding to anything of mine. I might add that I do not starta lot of discussions, but rather only on things that I think are interesting. Possibly some of the people I reject are not happy about that, but I feel I am smart enough to discern whether someone has discussions that interest me or not. So every few weeks now I go through my list of friends and if I have discussions they haven't responded to but have still been active here on myLot, I will delete them. I do not expect all of my friends to respond to all of my discussions but I do like them to make an effort. :) As I said in the beginning, it is up to the individual but I am of the opinion that there is no point in keeping someone on my list of friends, if they never have any discussions that I am happy to respond to. Finally, I do not have the notifications turned on for all my friends, just a select few. The reason for this was that my inbox ended up so full of stuff from myLot I had no room for anything else. :) Good luck in making your decision, as it is not an easy one but once you have decided, stick with it.

No you are not and I did it to. Now I check their Profiles and that first before I accept them. If there is no Interrest in them for me then I will deny. So you are best to have a sort out and get rid of the ones that are not worth it. I know I sound harsh here and I do not mean to but I had People on that list that have not posted for months.

Oh Sasselle you aren't the only one dear, so don't worry. I'm sure all go through this 'bad friends on the list' phase. Initially I used to accept any friend request that came my way without thinking. Later I realized it wasn't a very good idea for the very same reasons you've stated. I then decided I will check the profile of the one who sends the request. If I found something interesting then I would accept it. To tell you frankly that didn't work either. A few weeks ago I sat down and really did some cleaning, I deleted the ones who are inactive, then the ones who weren't responding to my discussions. I don't expect my friends to respond to all the discussions I start, because it might not be of interest to some. But atleast they can respond to general discussions. Now that my list is cleaned I only have the friends who start quality worthwhile discussions. It did take me while to figure this out but it has been worth it. Every morning when I check my mailbox, I of course have mail notifications and I feel so good because I really don't have to search for discussions to respond to everyday, they are all there sitting in my inbox:) I have some very good friends. A few do start occasional 'dumb' discussions, I just turn them 'off' for a while..lol Now I've told you what I've done, do what suits you best:) Your so called friends don't deserve to be on your list if you ask me.

No I am not picky about who is on my friends list, but I do expect them to respond to some of my discussions and also some of them are sending out discussions with only 1-2 lines which I cannot respond to with an appropriate response. Otherwise yes I love responding to others. I do not feel that you should feel mean about it as they are not working as a team and I love to work as a team and meet some wonderful friends. Just delete them and join me and I will respond to your discussions and I hope that in turn you would respond to some of mine as well.

I'm not picky when it comes to adding people to my friend's list. sometimes i request people to be on my friends list, and usually i am the one that's being requested as a friend. I do however feel that if you are going to be on my friend's list then you should answer to a few of my discussions that i had posted. it doesnt' matter if they are past discussions. and when a week or two goes by and they haven't been replying to any of my discussions then they get deleted.

i have only been on this site over a month and i already have 24 friends on my list. all of them im happy too add, as they have all answered my topic which im gratful.plus i think its nice to have them on their,

I guess you should just delete them cause if not, they will only spam your e-mail with notifications of their new discussion. Just keep the ones who makes nice discussion. Its not really mean at all. You did'nt know them personally so they wont mind it at all.

As of now, not really cause I'm pretty new here and don't have any mylot friends yet :)

Well Im not a big stickler I except everyone I dont care if they answer my post or not. I just think its nice to accept people like you would normally with someone face to face. Although I know some people are a pain I still dont discrimanate.

nope im not picky at all about who's on my friends list. i approve everyone. i have notification on for all of my friends. i have over 600 friends and it's nice to discuss new topics with many friends. i have seen other discussions where people choose friends carefully so you're not the only one.

I think your idea about keeping them as friends but turning off the email updates sounds like a good idea . I have noticed different people to that don't seem to make any sense in what they are posting and have wondered if maybe English is not there first language . I just have the email option turned off .

This is sort of a delicate subject. But yes. You are right. Though I'm new to this, I realised that some people are here just to get paid, make a quick buck. Or so they think. And they are very transparent about it. I've made a post stating excatly the same about their description as you are mentioning it. And what bothers me the most is the stupidity of their thinking. Though I have read the guidelines I realised later on, how the earning actually really works. The key are the friends... And luckily I've made a few good ones along the way, to the point when I've realised not everyone is OK. So I'm rather judgemental about it. Though, if the person is not really obviously stupid like, I give a chance, rather than passing them on.

I am new to mylot, I have been here a week. I am kind of picky about who I add as friends. I check out their profiles and their discussions. If I think I would be interested in their discussions then I will approve them or request them as a friend. The only other stipulation to be my friend is that you must be female, this is my husband's rule not mine. So far I have found this works out for me. I can usually find good discussions that my friends have posted.

I'm new here and I don't have enough friends to organize. I don't think that I would delete them though. Not unless they were doing something wrong. I am a member of myspace.com also and I have a lot of friends their and I did it by just browsing through members and sending out a couple hundred requests. I am not sorry either I have really enjoyed my chats there. I plan to try it here too. Good luck with yours