Is it OK for parents to ask for financial support from their children?

Philippines
February 25, 2007 10:45pm CST
Some parents even they are very old, find ways to support themselves than asking money from their children. Is there a feeling of shame to do so? Better, the children will give even they are not asked.
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8 responses
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
I think there is nothing wrong with parents asking for support from their children specially if they are incapable of supporting themselves. As Filipino we have a very tight family bonding wherein eventhough we already have family of our own there are times that we still live with our parents under one roof. This is the same with my case, I am living with my mom because I am the last one to get married and even when I was still single i gave her financial support to show her how i appreciate what she has done for me. And until now that i already have family of my own i still gave her what i started giving her when I was single. this is what she spend for her medicine because she has diabetes, and this is my choice and my own decision. We might say that we dont have obligations to our parents it is their obligation to send us to school and to provide us with great future so it is up to you to give back what you think you owe them, It is your choice, it is your decision. but remember you will not be what you are and where you are if not for them, you will not even be in this world without them.
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
Thank you for your comment. Some parents do not have the courage to ask for financial support. Sometimes the Children have families of their own. I feel sad to see parents suffer and not receiving any support from their children.
@g_aileen09 (1354)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
For typical Filipino parents, we call it "prinsipyo". It is more than pride that make us hold on to our values and principles. It is with the belief that parents are obliged to take care of their children and not the other way around. But sometimes, when there's no one else to turn to, and the children are better-off than the parents, maybe, it is out of desperation in extreme financial need that parents ask for assistance from them, and I think it would still be all right. If children have the means to help their parents, would they still want the latter to go somewhere else "begging" for assistance?
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
Thank you for your comments. Sad to say even Filipinos failed to help their parents.
@lafavorito (2959)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
I don't see any problem when parents ask for financial support from their children if they are too old to have a job. Here in the philippines when a person turns 60 his career is basically over because no one wants to hire an old person. So if his/her pension is not enough it's ok to ask his/her children for some support after all what goes around comes around.
@mic123 (204)
• India
26 Feb 07
yes its okay.cause sometimes parents means of earnings have stopped as they are unable to work and when the children take over they feel secure that the children would support them.Every child have to send money home to their parents to show their support
• Canada
26 Feb 07
I make sure my mom has everthing she need. When my grandparents got older they set out how they wanted things done for them power of atterneies adn every thing so my parents did that too. As the eldest I am the executor so i make sure her bills are paid adn the is money for what ever she needs She likes this as the worry is gone about her forgetting things.
@sunny1984 (639)
• India
26 Feb 07
Yes! this is our resposibility to support them financially, And this is their right for asking money from their childeren if they are able to give,
• Canada
26 Feb 07
Parents shouldn't have to ask their children for support. If children are financially able to help out, they should just offer!!! That's how it is in my family. Same thing with children and parents. Some times parents support children, other times children support parents, that's just the way life is!!
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
26 Feb 07
I think parents take care of their children, and help with the grandchildren, and then when they are old, their children help them if they are in need. There's no shame either way.