If given the choice, how would you have your next baby?

United States
February 27, 2007 12:02pm CST
My first baby, I was induced because I was a week over due and then I had a c-section because my baby got stuck in the birth canal. My husband and I are definately having another child. Because I had a c-section for my first birth, I might not be able to have my baby vaginally for the next time, but if given the choice I think I would try it all different. I would have my baby without pain meds and vaginally. Maybe even in a birthing pool, if the hospital I'm at offers that. What about you?
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@Connie1013 (1098)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I was induced on my first 3 kids. Actually long story short, my third was a accidently induced. My forth was natural labor but I got a epidural and my tubes tied. If by blessing a 5th child was in my cards, I would go all natural. I wouldn't even have a relaxer or anything. The pool sounds great. Would have to think about choosing a different hospital if they offered it.
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@lillake (1634)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I agree that if a woman chooses to have pain medication that is ok, but I think that women should take the time to be educated about it so that they can make the best choice possible. The epidural does more than just numb the pain. It also lowers the mother's blood pressure, slows and sometimes stops labor causing a need for induction or an increase of inductionmedication, it can make the baby too sleep to nurse properly, and can much more. And before someone jumps on it, no it does not happen every time. But just because it did not happen to you does not mean that the medical reports are wrong. In the majority of cases the finding were that having an epidural can have some negative effects on the mother and baby. If the mother has researched it and still wants to then that is fine. But when a mother chooses just because everyone else does it, or just because she thinks birth will hurt too much, or only takes the word of her doctor and does no research on the matter at all then it is upsetting. Mothers should think about how things will affect them and their children rather than just doing whatever.
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• United States
27 Feb 07
Carrie, epidurals effect different women differently. I had an epidural with my first and I could feel every single contraction just as bad as before I got the epidural. However, it did totally numb me from the croch down. I could not feel my baby coming out at all, I did not feel a ring of fire.
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@lady_luv (46)
• United States
28 Feb 07
natural but then again I havent had a child- but if I would and could I would want it natural.
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@junior07 (973)
• India
28 Feb 07
i think this discussion is for gals,well wish u all the luck for ur second child,if u want that.
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
28 Feb 07
We are currently trying to get pregnant and I also have had c-sections in the past but I want to go v-back. My ob stated that as long as there isn't any complications it would be ok. I really don't want to have a c-section unless it is the last option. But I do want to be in a hospital just in case.
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• United States
27 Feb 07
My next baby will be born at home with a midwife. Both of my previous babies were born in hospitals. The first was 18 days "overdue" and the 2nd one was 2 weeks overdue. My dr wanted to induce me when I was a week overdue but I declined because I did not want the added risk of c-section. ALso I knew that if I were induced I would need an epidural because unnatural induce contractions are too painful for me to manage without one. I didn't want an epidural because then I wouldn't be able to push on all fours or kneeling (among other reasons). Pushing while on your back or sitting/semi-reclined closes the pelvis by 30% and greatly increases the chance of baby getting "stuck". Getting of your bottom and off your back opens the pevlis by 30% and I knew I would need that because since my babies are late, they are also big (9.5lbs and my last one had a 15 inch head, yikes!). But because I was able to feel my body and feel when it was time to push and get off my bottom I did not even tear at all when I pushed him out. There were some complications from what the hospital did to my baby and I'm not going to put my next baby at risk for that.
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• United States
28 Feb 07
Interesting post. wow 18 days. You are patient.
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• United States
28 Feb 07
I agree with you rachel! I had c-section with my son and I think I would try the birthing pool. I heard is painless and much better!
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@cuddiluk (1523)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
How I wish we have that choice. The latest technology may will help this to change in a way to make ease when delivering a baby.
@Mattali (15)
• Australia
28 Feb 07
My first baby was c-section after 22.5 hours, one induction and four epidurals. He was stuck and I was rushed to surgery. None of my four epidurals worked completly so I had to be knock out for the surgery. I was completly wrecked for the next 6 months while my body recovered. I have just had my second child (she is six months and my first is 2.5 years)and she was delivered elective c-section. Based on her size, my family and personal history, my fears of being physically unable to look after either of my children because of the possible strain put on my body with a natural labour we decided to have an elective c-section. Leading up to the surgery I felt guilty for taking "the easy way out" however in the end common sense prevailed and I quickly realised that nothing was more important than the health of my babys and myself. The c-section went smoothly and I found it an amazingly positive and fun experience in comparison with my first labour. All I can say is speak with your doctor, review your family history and go with your gut. You will know what is right for you and your baby. All the best to you and your family!
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@moonmagick (1458)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I would want to have it natural with no pain meds. My baby was 2 weeks early. They tried to induce because my blood pressure went crazy. The inducing didnt work, so they scheduled a c-section for the next morning. My water broke on the way to the c-section, but he was head up and clear up under my ribcage, so I still had to have a c-section. Basically the exact opposite of what was in my "birth plan" is what happened. Maybe next time. :)
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@paidreader (5151)
• United States
28 Feb 07
After two days of more on than off, false labor, I really wasn't prepared for the real thing. I was very glad they had educated us in the lamaz class I took. I had already told my doctor to have an epidural ready for me if it got really bad. Of course, you know it did. Three AM (and a holiday) is not the time to start asking though. :) I didn't get it til almost 5am. I'll admit it slowed the labor & I did have to have the pitosin drip later, but what a blessing it was to catch a few hours of sleep before she was born at 9:17am! I didn't get much sleep over the next 21 years either! I seriously doubt I could do it again at my age, but if I did, GIVE ME AN EPI any day! lol
@cjthedog64 (1553)
• United States
28 Feb 07
We're not having a second one, but if I did, I'd be better prepared to labor at home for a while longer than last time. I'd also be welcoming the epidural when it came time. I wanted to have DS naturally, but found that I just could not tolerate the pain. I think a shower/hot tub would be a help for me too.
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@lisado (1228)
• United States
28 Feb 07
My first son was born via c-section. I had been induced and still had failure to progress so they did a c-section. Come to find out that even if I had dilated all of the way he wouldn't have fit. His head was to big! lol Our second son was a scheduled c-section, which is what I wanted. We are talking about having baby #3 and it will also be scheduled c-section, if it happens. I've had so many abdominal surgeries that I actually heal from them pretty fast and can get around the same day.
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@birthlady (5613)
• United States
8 Mar 07
An ideal birth plan may help you decide what kind of birthing you want the next time around, since you're thinking ahead, take a look at my website! Auntie Natal 911 ~ Ideal Birth Plan http://www.auntienatal911.com/ideal_birth_plan.htm My children were born at home (planned homebirths).
@coolcatzz (1587)
• Canada
5 Mar 07
Same as my last two. Water broke and we went to the hospital. Waited for awhile and made it through the contractions and then I had a epidural. Few hours later they were born and that was that.