Predictable or Unpredictable That Is The Question

My partner is very predictable. I think this is a good thing. I think security is more important than the excitement of a partner that bring changes all the time. It would however be a good thing if the predictability gave in to unpredictability once in a while. ahead of my partner? It is true that his predictability gives me a head start when we argue. I know exactly what to do to bring forth a certain reaction.

Only if you mean well then having predictable partner is a plus, for your partner that is. It may not be for you, since you might not be able to do what you want to do since you know your partner won't like it. I would prefer him 90% predictable, the rest is not. It's devastating sometimes but where is the fun if you get what you know you will get all the time?

I don't know about predictable pal but hubby and I have been together so long. We know what each other are thinking most of the time , I know what things he likes as pressies , I know what he likes to eat , I know what he likes to read , He does nice things for me all the time , people would say we are like an old pair of slippers , I would say we love each other so much we are as one , hope that answers your question pal xx

well is there a midpoint? My partener he's predictable in some thing but half the time I have no idea what he's thinking. In a good way it's good because it's kinda like a guessing game, but it can get kinda annoying specially when you are been super serious about something.

I like a little of both Wolfie. Which are you? "grin" I like surprises like "lets go to the beach. today" Now?? Yes NOW!! OK, lets go. or "Surprise!!" I bought you a dozen red roses". That kind of unpredictability is great!! But also a person who works everyday and makes a living and is stable.

for me, i think that would be an advantage. just like what you've said, you can be ahead of him. surprises and spontaneity is needed of course, but occassionally and should not come always. it is better for me, if you can always predict what your partner will do so you can always give him the right reactions for his actions.

I think I would like my partner to be a bit of both. There is no fun when he is very predictable coz I love surprises but at the same time too much is too bad!lol I dunno if I would be able to handle a lot of unpredictability. Right now my hubby is actually a bit of both. Surprises me when I least expect it and a few things I know he will do even before he does it.

I have to be difficult here. I like a nice mixture of both. I like him to be prdictable in the sense that I know he takes his obligations seriously (professional, personal, and financial). He has to be reliable in those areas, because I'm not up to babysitting a grown man. He has to have a fairly predictable sense of time and punctuality. I won't tolerate having definite plans and then he doesn't show up for hours,without calling, because something unexpected came up. I do, however, enjoy a bit of the unpredictable also. I like last minute trips, even if it's just an overnight at the casino. Going out on the spur of the moment is fun, or just calling friends to stop over to play games and have a few drinks. Of course I like surprise gifts and little notes left unpredictably for no reason, also (not just when he's in trouble). Too much predictability in life gets boring, I think. We have so many responsibilities that we need to take advantage of the times when we can be spontaneous and have fun.

Nice surprises are great. I think you should really know someone well before you ever make them a partner. Its better not to be hit out of left feild with any bad surprises.Good unprediectablitly is wonderful but I think its good to be confident in your partner when it comes to the mainstays.

I tend to prefer a balance of both. I wish that he was predictavle in the things that I want him to be, and unpredictable in the things that I want, lol, but it does not always work out that way. I believe that if he were unpredicatble too much, in things that I did not expect at all, that would be difficult to live with, and the same goes with always being predictable; I would get sooooo bored so quickly. So, a little here and there of both, would be nice, for me.

i feel i wud look for someone who is unpredictable and always gives me new new surprises wid lots of ups n downs in life.If life is not challengin then wats the point living it..

My partner is very predictable which gives me the security I need, but he's also a little bit spontaneous which adds spice and variety to things and keeps them interesting. I don't go for the unpredictable kind because I like to know to some extent where I stand - with unpredictable types, you never know. On the other hand, those that are totally predictable would seem boring after a little while because their routine is always the same. I like a mix of both. It keeps things safe and secure, yet exciting too.

I prefer something medium. In both cases it is great cases it has minuses and pluses so I prefer it to be someone medium. I love when my girl can surprise me with something new and I also love when I knwo what follows so it is the best.

I would have loved my partner to be predictable in what matters in everyday life, but may be unpredictable in an unknown situation. True when someone is too predictable spontaneity is lost. But the scepter of unpredictability in everyday life can keep one too much on tenterhooks. If one's life is very busy with a variety of activities that could keep you on your toes a predictable partner is a boon. For life can already dish out so much you do want an anchor somewhere. An unpredictably behaving partner will be too much of a trouble in troubled times. Well, as for my behavior I am very predictable. There could be situations I could go into a spin, once in a while but by and large I consider myself predictable.

I have to say my husband is a little of both- which is good- there are days where I will do something for him and he walks in the room just looking at me like how did you know I was gonna come in here to do that and then there are days where i just can't figure him out. I prefer it this way- it's not too boring but not to shocking either lol

my husband is predicable in that i know he'll be home on time and that i can rely on him which is nice! But thens there's the unpredictable when he says get your gear on were going out lol i like both its like i get the surprises but have a hubby who's not down the pub with his mates while i'm stuck at home. He's says i'm very unpredicable he came home yesterday with me hovering to a "Bat Out Of Hell" and thought it was hilarious i hate cleaning he's the tidy one so i suppose he was shocked to see me enjoying a clean up!

I definately wouldn't want my partner to be completely predictable. If you're with somebody for a really long time I think it would be a total snoozefest.

i like a mixture of both, myself. i like to knwo where i stand with them...meaning if the ylove me and whatnot...however, i like sponinuity. i don't want to be able to predict his every move. i like a suprise. i just want to knwo where i stand.

What's good with being predictable is you generally won't have much worries, you can expect your partner to behave in such a way that you won't have to worry, where he/she will go or what he/she will do.. But surprises is what makes relationships fun. So what we all need is just a balance of both, enough unpredicatability to surprise but not too much to shock.

As for me my husband is both predictable and yet spontaneous as well , and I like that because I always know what he likes and wants , which makes it easy to keep him happy and at the sametime he is spontaneous as well because he will do things out of no where that were unexspected which is great because thats what me and the kids like " suprise " ... Being to predictable can get boring and being spontaneous all the time can be a bad thing because their is no security there but I like both qualities in my husband therefor I get both security & suprise ...