do you believe in online friendships?

@naadia (830)
India
March 3, 2007 11:26am CST
actually i dont believe in online friends.because there are many limitation for a girl!i have joined many community sites like orkut.i have many friends in orkut.but none of them are stranger.all are either my friends and family or old classmates! but here in mylot i got more than 200 friends!i accept all friend request here because i think it is safe to accept here.unlike orkut it will not give any details to other or mail ids!all of my friends in mylot are starngers! i got many messages daily.some are those regular guys.they just message me to get my id.but here is some really good and talented people too. so... do you have any online friends!or even share your details with them?
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• India
3 Mar 07
i am also a girl and i understands that there are limitations for a girl but i think its good having online friends i got 4 or 5 of my good friends through net they are so caring the most important thing for which a human being is searching is a nice natured person and if u are getting it onlin how can u avoid them the best advantage which i got last days tht i had to prepare a report on pepsi and i dont have the information i told this to one of my net frnd and he helped me a lot as my contacts are increasing my social circle is increasing its not rite to accept all of them first chat wid them and if u find tht they are good ten add them in ur frnd list
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@naadia (830)
• India
3 Mar 07
i agree with you.a friend of mine here in mylot help me to create an avatar, another one give me a poem....i know here is many nice people.but i think there is a limit.we cant go beyond that limit !isn't it?sometime i feel jealous to boys!they dont have to care about this!
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• United States
4 Mar 07
Even I never used to beleive in online frenships specially wid men... But, I found a few verry good frens, online itself, n I feel, u happen to get closer to those on net coz u can b urself in front of dem n people u meet face to face - u tend to be presentable, fabricated in front of dem... Also, i m a very introvert girl, so, I don't feel that comfortable wid people on phone n while meeting them personally... I think this xplains it all.
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• India
4 Mar 07
yaa i do believe in friendship anyone interedted to make friendship can contact me at my personal mail id - devajit_labh@yahoo.com waiting for response from the prospective friends
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@ironstruck (2299)
• Canada
4 Mar 07
I don't know yet how the system on mylot works. I can see where someone wants to be a friend and I accept everyone, but I have no idea how to ask people if they would like to be a friend. Have not figured that out yet.
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• Italy
4 Mar 07
I think is possible do this aboutthe parsonal our pages
@Darkwing (21588)
3 Mar 07
Yes, I believe in online friends. I've made some very good and interesting friends here and in other programmes, such as Pogo Games. Some of my online friends, I've had for 6 years, and I've got to know them very well. A few, I've met and they are everything they seemed online. You do have to be very careful though in your selection of friends, for there are a few out there who pretend to be something they're not, even to the extent of using other people's pics to portray themselves as better looking. I can't understand the mentality in this, and actually abhor it. My friends, however, are very carefully selected and I know I can trust them at all times. I wouldn't make friends with anybody I was unsure of or whom I thought was purporting to be somebody else. I just need trust in my relationships, so I'm careful. Brightest Blessings.
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@naadia (830)
• India
3 Mar 07
i know some boys "just for my id".what i have to do with them.i have more than 200 friends here but none are my real friends.i know i have to take time to trust someone.i am now deleted some friends from my list too.
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@Darkwing (21588)
4 Mar 07
Yes, it's hard work getting to know 200 people properly, I would think.
@ethanmama (1746)
• Philippines
3 Mar 07
I believe in online friendships because I have found some friends online. I met them through an egroup when we were all planning for our wedding. This was the common ground which fostered our friendship. Now, more than 2 years after our weddings, we still keep in touch and go out for dinner whenever we find the time. However, I also believe that you have to be careful about finding friends online. It's really hard to tell about people's intentions especially when they are protected by anonymity.
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@naadia (830)
• India
3 Mar 07
well,but for a girl it cant possible to make stranger friends!i mean online friends.are you a girl?
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@ethanmama (1746)
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
I am a girl. Most of my online friends are girls too :). Like I said, I've met them through an egroup about planning for our weddings. That was the common ground which brought us together. Later, when we got together, we've found a lot of other similar interests.
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• United States
3 Mar 07
I do believe in online friends.
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@naadia (830)
• India
3 Mar 07
wow...you made online friendship to marriage...i dont ever heard about that.it is unbelievable for me.and congrats for marriage life!
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@avonrep1 (1862)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I met my husband online through an IM when we met we couldn't get enough of each other. We just celebrated our 5th year anniversary. He makes me happy and I believe I make him happy too, at least he tells me I do, but I feel it too. He shows me he loves me and that he is happy.
• United States
9 Mar 07
I do because I am a home maker and get lonely while my hubby is at work. I chat with people via email. I get a lot of help from my online friends, so they are good to have.
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@naadia (830)
• India
9 Mar 07
i know there are good people!but all are not trusted...sometimes it is very difficult to find the good ones!
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• Canada
5 Mar 07
I think the trend to meet some persons online is reaching new heights...as u ve written urself nadia that u have around 200 frens,all cant be trusted... I only have 3 friends here...maybe because i use mylot less often than other people but it would be nice to speak some things with a total stranger rather than to a known person...
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@naadia (830)
• India
9 Mar 07
yes i cant trust 200 friends here...but i can accept all friends request from here since it is safer than orkut! i got many responses that telling they find their life partners from internet...is it unbelievable hai na!
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• Bangladesh
5 Mar 07
I personally didn't get many online friends who really think highly of online friendship yet I expect and invite many to be my friends. Of course, not every one will be worthy of friendship but 'searches can start a light'. I belielve in friendship without any border till the communications are of some meaning and gives the enjoyment needed from friendly conversation.
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@naadia (830)
• India
9 Mar 07
i know.... me too belielve in friendship without any border but i am asking for online friendship!will you share your details with strangers!
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• India
4 Mar 07
well i do believe in online friendhip.... I understand, the world today is not very fit for belief or trust but then at the same time I think, the world is actually survivign till date, becasue some or the other where this trust still exists....of people in people....had this mutual trust vanished, definitely, the world too would have vanished sooner or later....,. So i guess u gotta believe some unknown ppl, at so many turns of ur life....so what do I actually belive is that you can definitely make newer friends ,,,, and for sure, your being a girl is definitely not gonna make it any hindered...now when u take the friendship ahead, make sure certain things.... is the person u in contact with genuine...what is the time since you've been in association with him? HAve you actually been able to figure him out...what kinda person he is....and would u be able to stand with him,.... if majority of the questions here nd similar other questions give u a favoruable answer....definitely it is not gonna matter much!!! and u wud be happier to make new frnds for sure
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@naadia (830)
• India
4 Mar 07
wow...this is a good reply...i will try those questions...thanks for response!
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4 Mar 07
i do believe in online friendship only if it remains to b as an online frienship ,if anybody asks for my cell no.or my address(this is my advice to u all from my past expeiences)refuse him/her ,as u cant say how the person in nature or what is the mentality of the person ,so online friendship is good ...but to a limit otherwise it can create a problem to u
@naadia (830)
• India
4 Mar 07
i totally agree with you...i dont have any past experience but still i recommend not to give your personnel details to anyone! but some people replied me that they got their partner through internet!quiet impossible...hai na!
@chavezrmc (5914)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
yes, even if we don't share much details i believe friendship still can exist in an online environment. Sharing ideas, giving comments, suggestions, talking about problems, joys and everything about life is the start of friendship. We may not be able to give all details but this friendship will continue to grow, depends on how we are treating each other.
@naadia (830)
• India
4 Mar 07
i agree with that sharing ideas that is i am doing here...but i dont think it is easy to get a good online friends since people here are not real sometime.they just acting !
@xionous (440)
• Belgium
4 Mar 07
okay i believe there are another different definition of online friendship. which is not something like hi5 or urkut friends or even mylot friends. im a member of hi5 since its birth and have around 50+ friends. but very few of them are you can say my friends. these online communities are like: every budy rushing up and having a profile setup for them selves...searching for girls or girls are searching for boys but nobody is talking to each other besides the friends you already know in your real life. however mylot is kinda same and i really dont believe friends from here. to my definition of friend is someone who i know for at least 3 months or for a few weeks may be, but a friend is someone who i really know. i met around 30+ friends online and all of them were good enough. i met them online chat rooms following by loads of emails, tons of online conversations, tons of times hanging out with each other. and finally very good friends. i still have 5 friends abroad who are my best net friends...they are my friends for around 4+ years now and still i talk to them every time we come online. besides not seeing them real life we have everything friends can have. we share each other's pictures . all i dream of ill someday go and have a visit to them and spend some time with the friends i have never seen before in real life. one of them is from your country. she was born in london but her grandpa lives in kerala and every year she visits them. she is the most wonderful romantic girl i ever met. the only thing she feels sorry for is she cant speak hindi. she taught me meny stuffs like love and friendship, trust, english, slang lol. and i taught her how to fix the computer.once she had a problem and i asked her to tell me about the hard disk, ram, processor of her computer...and do you know what did she reply me? she said i think my computer is ram! lolz... we still laugh a lot wen we remember it. she had a crush on a boy of her class and she felt so depressed about not being with him while she told me about her crush she was crying and i couldnt help it but i had to listen to her...and i was wondering if i could do anything for her... accidentally i met the boy on msn chat room the following day and i suddenly figured out he also has a crush on my friend! i arranged a date for them and after their date she told me they had nothing else to talk about beside talking about me! lol. isnt it sweet? i really wish to see her for at least once in my life...
@naadia (830)
• India
4 Mar 07
very long reply but still i enjoyed reading it...it is really nice...wow..you made really some cool friendship...so where are you from?
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@neon2000 (2761)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
I don't believe in online relationships as well. They are still strangers to each other. They don't share many things in personal that makes the relationship work well.
@xionous (440)
• Belgium
4 Mar 07
i dont agree with you. if only you could have a look at my life and my online friends you could easily feel broken. best online friends never stops sharing personal stuffs. friendship is something else..you could easily have a friend if you got a lot of stuffs comon within. why distance and not seeing each other have to do anything with a real friendship? besides i have best friends online who i talk to a regular basis, we saw each others pic, never had a chance to meet them real life but still nobody can say we r not like real life best friends. friendship shouldnt defined as virtual or real life friends
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@umai369 (48)
• Malaysia
4 Mar 07
i am as skeptical as u did naadia. i never been introduced to meet new friends thru online, until when i was in university where i start to find 1. since then my online friends keep on growing. then, i discover something that i never believe before. i can trust them!!! so how trust can be developed back then? for me, u can understand someone by the way they talking to you. u somehow can identify their sincerity (of cos not all) thru consistent style of conversation. be my amaze, i met my wife thru online olso!!but of cos after rigid & long time knowing her cheers
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@naadia (830)
• India
4 Mar 07
i got more than 5 response telling that they find their partner through internet.which is quite interesting and unbelievable for me!i dont heard anything like this before.may be it is because i am from india!in india it is not common...no i dont heard anything like that in india!
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@simran1430 (1793)
• India
4 Mar 07
i have heard of this article in Seventeen about this girl who lives in New Jersey or something like that and she saw this guy on myspace and thought he looked cute and she talked to him and they started to talk more and more. problem was he lived across the atlantic oceans somewhere in the middle east.....they ended up liking eac hother and seeing each other because she went across the ocean without telling her parents now they want to get married.(weird.) so i guess you can be friends with people online
@naadia (830)
• India
4 Mar 07
thanks for that information.but i appreciate that girl.and her trust to her boyfriend because there are many cheaters in online some dont even exists!
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• India
3 Mar 07
Somehow the thought of not knowing someone and sharing personal talk doesnot apeal to me at all. I have professional online acquaintances, for example I am a part of a professional group relating to my area of studies and we exchange solutions to problems at work, but I wouldnt call them friends. I believe in pre-existent friendships that can be nourished online but not in Online friendships literally.
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@naadia (830)
• India
4 Mar 07
i agree with that.may be some online friends help for studies or clearing some doubts.i have found this mylot has many talented people.i like some disussion..they are simply brilliant! but what about sharing personal details especiaaly for girls!
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@FrancyDafne (2048)
• Italy
3 Mar 07
I don't know orkut, and so I can't say anything about it, but as myLot community concerns, I can speak only well about it. I have some friends here, above all strange ones, so I can improve my bad English. It would be interesting to understand what do you mean with the verb "believe". This is a virtual community, but our thoughts, our feelings, our sentiments are real, so, what not to believe in online friends?
@naadia (830)
• India
4 Mar 07
i agree online people too have feelings,sentiments but some people here are fake.some just pretend to be good....i am taliking about that guys..i cant filter out who is good or who is bad since this is a "virtual world" as you said...everyone here are not exact one as they in their real life!
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@tamanash (952)
• India
3 Mar 07
i think for boys its ok to share their personal details and to make online friends but for girls there are some problems.orkut is not at all safe for girls specially you shouldnot post your pictures there,infact donot post your pictures in any site.there is no harm to talk with anybody online as long as he/she dint want to know your personal details.mylot is completely safe to make friends as it dint ask for personal details.
@naadia (830)
• India
3 Mar 07
i uploaded my picture once in orkut.but not anymore some friends told me it is not safe.now me and all my friends remove their pictures from orkut.i know only orkut,hi5 and mylot!
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• Canada
3 Mar 07
i have met ppl online (not in person) and they are really good ppl, really easy to tawk to, i dont give out my id to ne one unless i feel confertable givin it out, i havnt give it to ne one on mylot, i love it on here, but not enuf to give out my id!
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@naadia (830)
• India
3 Mar 07
yes i got many good people here!some are really nice!but i dont want to give any id now because i dont think it is a good decision to give id. also here are some people just want to know my id...i want to delete them from my friends list!
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• Portugal
5 Mar 07
I do believe in online friendships, here I can't say that I've friends but I know a lot of people that mean a lot to me, here on internet. They help me and sometimes we're always talking about personal stuff, sometimes not. We just don't need to. Of course that some of them are more my friends than others.