who would you chose? be w/ the one who loves you or the person you love?
By kleo_23
@kleo_23 (104)
Philippines
March 6, 2007 8:10pm CST
aside from other factors to consider, there was one point in my life when i had to choose to marry the person i love and the other person is the one i love... in the end, i chose the one's who love me. i realized, loving a person can be learned in the long run. what's the point of marrying the person you love, if you're not so sure if he's love for you can last a lifetime? what if he loves someone else more than me?
3 responses
@Makena1968 (682)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I'm an older lady, and it seems that in most my relationships the guy has always cared about me more than I did about him, or maybe it was caring in different ways, I"m not sure. But I think I'd chose the person who loved me more than I loved them, as love is so attractive in itself, that I know I'd be able to reciprocate sooner or later. Women love different than men do, too. Maybe it's possible for two people to love completely each other their whole lives...or does that just happen in the movies?
@qouniq (1966)
• Malaysia
7 Mar 07
I would go for a person who love me because with this i can be sure that the person will be with me forever as long as i can suit my self. Love can be happen anytime and the more you know someone who love you, the more you will find your self is secure and slowly your feeling will change. For me my life secure is most important, as the one which we love not always a good choice for us.
@kleo_23 (104)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
i agree. i made a mistake one in having bf-gf relationship with the one i love than the one's who,love me and whom i am more comfortable with like a brother to me. i had alot of heartache for 3 years in these kind of relationship. it finally ended but the other person is still w/ me until now as a friend as a godfather to my children.
@IRENEVALLEJO2001 (53)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
That's it girl, it pays to be selfish at some point of our life. To marry someone who loves you is an assurance of a continued happy life. No more you love someone, the more power you give that person to hurt you. Giving that power at least to someone whom you are assured that you are loved beyond measure, the hurting part is somehow eliminated :)
