Do you think a person should be close friends with ex inlaws?

I think that if you had a good relationship with them then the divorce or breakup is no reason to all of a sudden stop the relationship. I love one of my mom-in-laws and both my dad-in-laws. Before someone gets confused hubby's parents are both divorced and remarried. My 2yr old also has an uncle that is only like 9 or 10. Her oldest is 34 or around there.

I personally don't see nothing strange in that. If people continue to be good friends in spite of their relatives' relationships with their exex, why not? But I remember how my mother told me that she was very much offended when she got to know that my fathers' relatives remained friends with his first wife (my mother is the second wife) many years after my father and his first wife's divorced. That divorce was rather a dirty thing because my dad's first wife gossiped about their relationships. That's why my mother was offended - she felt sorry for my dad in fact, she said he didn't deserve such relatives.

You divorce the spouse, not his family! I think it's great, especially for the kids, if everyone can get along. My ex-MIL is 1500 miles away and we don't keep in touch but I'd like to think we would get along. My husband and I are friends with his first wife's family, which is nice, we can even tolerate his ex. She comes to the grandkids birthday parties at our house! He had some hard feelings against her for a long time but once the grandkids came along I guess it gave us all a common bond.

I don't see anything wrong with adults being friends with whomever they please. Some are still aunts and uncles anyway. As long as they all act in a decent manner then it should be a good thing in their lives. Especially if there are children involved.

well I would rather like to congratulate you.... that from my point of view is really something very unusual... And very sensitive tooo.... and it shows that u r a hearty person... u ended up one relation but in no sense it shud make out this sense that you gotta terminate all relations....right... So u still tAlk to your ex - husband.... what kinda relation do u maintain with him?

I do not see anything wrong with it as long as your not in the middle of their divorce or split up

I don't see anything wrong with this. When you marry, you become part of an extended family, and many times form bonds with in-laws that are as close as the ones you have with your own family. Sometimes the divorce is amicable and a mutually agreed upon circumstance, whereas it leaves no ill feelings with the couple and their families. Even if the marriage ends on a bad note, many times the in-laws are able to see passed the issues in the marriage and still maintain the relationship they built, especially if their are grandkids involved. In your husbands case, I am guessing their is no ill feelings that manifested from the divorce, but life has gone on and even though he doesn't see his ex-wife's brother often or speaks with him regularly, he would still like to think that they did and do share a bond of friendship--maybe there are good memories and good conversations that have bonded them so the quantity of communications doesn't define the relationship and the quality of the communications does. Is it also possible that your husband was friend with the ex-wife's brother before he became a couple with the sister? Maybe they had a pre-friendship that existed before he married the brother's sister.

There's nothing wrong with being friends as long as its amicable. I still talk with my sister-in-law and considered her kids my nieces and nephews though I've been divorced from her brother since 1988. I was their aunt for 15 years of my marriage and they still call me Aunt and their kids called me Great-Aunt. Just because you divorce the spouse doesnt mean people have to sever good relatons, no matter how long the marriage.

there is definitely nothing wrong on being close to inlaws, be it former or recent since when you get married you will be a part of your spouse family. even if you are already divrced by now its still good that you can get along with your inlaws, and for me there's no such thingas ex-inlaws...they will always be your inlaws.

i don't really thin it is that strange. Sometimes peple can look past their differences if they truly enjoy(ed) each other.

I think it has to have to do with how they broke up if they were honest adn it was a mutal thing and they realised that things were bad then i belive it is a normal part of any relationship. Thsoe type are very rare unlikemost others where one does nto have the guts to tell the truth adn end it liek an adult. To me i sounds like your husband had one of those and he has nto hidden it from you. I think you are lucky to find a guy like that.

theres nothing wrong being closed with your in laws or with the relatives of your ex husband.actually its really good for your kids.they will be much happy if you still get along with their fathers relative.and even the two of you.besides when you divorced your husband it doesnt mean that you also want to forget his family.the problem was only betwen the two of you and his family is not included. of course you`re wishing to have new friends itsokay but it doesnt mean that you`re going to forget your old friends.it would be much better if your current husband and your ex could get along well.

Why not? It has nothing to do with your divorce. Friends should be accumulated and keep forever. We do not pick friends they come to us because they like who we are and it does not affect them even if you have finally ended your relationship with a member of their family. Some couples who divorced still remain friends maybe because they understand that even if they are no longer compatible they still care that much for each other. Some of the extended family feel that way too, they can't help staying friends with the ex's because they learn to love them too.

My relationship w/ my husband is in crisis right now.In my case im having hard time to do what i really what since his family treats me so well and love me as i've love them.For me it is very hard to leave my in laws because of the years we've shared that i treasure most. If in case we get separated i would say i'd stiil be close w/ my ex inlaws,but if the case is they are bad to me during our marriage of coarse i would be glad to stay away from them and just keep them as a part of my past.

Its just fine, after all it's your ex that you get divorced and not them to be affected. Just ignore the one who doesn't understand you in divorcing your brother if he can't help.

there's nothing wrong with being friends with them. if you built a genuine friendship then your connections of the past shouldnt affect you. you're great coz you're still friends with them!

Yes a person can be close friend with ex inlaws. There may be no problem because you mingled with the family and there is no cause to break them because you took divorce from your husband. If inlaws are the main cause for break up you may breakup with them too.

friend ship is the ark of life.no need of being close friend with ex inlaws ,closeness with ex inlaws will bring him somany problems,he will be depressed because of her memories and dont accept him to be frendly with ex in laws

When we get a divorce from someone who was once a big part of our lives, we divorce the person not the family. You can't blame the entire family for something that went wrong between two people. Families are permanent units based on love or blood. And those people who becomes our in-laws through the union of two people based on love remain as much a part of the person's family after a divorce as they were during the marriage. In-law relations are often so ridiculed in our society and of such poor quality, the fact that you still regard your in-laws as friends and keep them in your lives is exemplary of how things should be in a perfect world! Bless you for that!

I think its okay. Just because your no longer married to the guy, doesnt mean you cant be friends with their family. sure, it can be a little akward, if your hanging out with them and he's there, but what can you do? your divorcing him, not his family.