How do you tell someone to stop talking?

@reaperz (1266)
United States
March 8, 2007 8:36am CST
Its really weird. I am talking to this one girl, and she just keeps on talking and talking and talking. She doesn't know how to stop! But, as a gentlemen, I don't want to hurt her feelings by telling her to shut up. So I sit there listening to her, and I swear that I almost fell asleep! How do you tell a person to stop talking in a polite way that won't hurt their feelings?
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@decimus785 (1419)
• Aruba
8 Mar 07
Miss you can take a break,a girl like you oon't need to use such a beautiful voice that much.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
8 Mar 07
I would just have to tell them, excuse me but I am losing my train of thought when I do not have time to speak or think while you continually speak. I would just say, I don't mean to be rude, but I cannot concentrate on anything you are saying if you continuosly speak without giving me the time to respond to you or think about what you have just said. I would tell them that you don't want them to absolutely shut up, but a little silence in between the conversation would be very nice so you can gather some thoughts on what was just said from them.
@Phlamingho (7825)
• Denmark
8 Mar 07
Try kissing her ;-)
• Al Mansurah, Egypt
8 Mar 07
i can tell him/her OK i must go now , byeee
@JuliaPan (564)
• Canada
8 Mar 07
This has always been my problem! I'm too polite to tell a person to stop talking if he's talking too much! But lately I've advanced in training myself to stop someone who's doing something I don't like. Firstly, I would change the subject, or I would offer to do something else to stop the flow of words, or I would simply try to escape. I remember I had a boss some years ago who would never stop talking! He bothered me with my work and didn't even notice it. He would talk and talk and talk... without even asking if the topics were interesting for me. I'm sorry that I kept silence and pretended that I was listening to him. But I had to, because it was my first place of work in a new country. I think people who are too shy and polite to stop an ever-talking people should train firmness and shouldn't be afraid to show that they also have the right to do what they want! In fact, many people like that are just vampires who suck the other people's energy.
@TinWolf (184)
• United States
8 Mar 07
Smiles, good Q. With no offense meant to anyone, the female gender isn't on trial here I hope. On a less serious note you could feign falling asleep, even if standing, and snore,,,OR evem more dramatic, you might fake a spontaneous coma, falling to the floor. When we as a species are expressing and projecting it's very often that we think what we have to say is valid. A good example of communications boredom is a couple at a meal table chatting about each others day, with no real interest in the others issues or experiences. There may be no real, correct answer, as whatever we do might be perceived wrongly.