Do you teach your children the right words for body parts or nicknames?

@kbkbooks (7028)
Canada
March 9, 2007 10:28pm CST
I have always been of the belief it is right to teach your children the proper names of their body parts. I never tried to make them use nicknames or slang because I think that promotes the idea that things like this are shameful. I taught them proper terms and ideas and was open with them. I think our society would be alot healthier if parents were able to do this as the normal way of teaching their children the facts they need to know. Our life functions should not be shrouded in cuteness or shame. Mature teaching breeds mature response.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
10 Mar 07
Sorry to hijack your discussion but didn't know how else to ask this...Do you post on a different paid forum under a different name? This exact discussion (word for word) got posted there just a little while ago. I didn't want to report it unless I knew for sure it wasn't you. Another one from the same poster looked familiar too but I couldn't find it again here when I looked.
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
I suspect someone cut and pasted my original discussion. I didn't post it anywhere else. grr.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
11 Mar 07
Ok, just wanted to check. If this person is still over there, I'll go ahead and report them. It's against their guidelines to copy and paste too. The way they do pay he/she got more out of this discussion than you possibly.
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
Thanks, that's ok, nothing can be done about it. I appreciate your diligence though.
• Canada
10 Mar 07
I have always called the body part by its proper name right from the beginning. I didn't want to confuse them with nicnames. My sister choose to call it by nic names and her daughter still calls a body part a cookie...lol..although it may sound cute when they were young, it dont now, because her daughter is almost 14 years old.
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• United States
10 Mar 07
I have never ever heard of anything but a cookie being called a cookie. Anyone what part is it?
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
Same question...what is a cookie?
• United States
22 Apr 07
Yes I use the proper terms with my son. I regret to say I didn't do so with my daughters when they were tots. To that end I dealt with lots of giggles when I started using the correct terms. Yet you can ask my not yet 3 yo where his P*enis and he will point to is.
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
23 Apr 07
It's good to hear from someone who knows both sides. Congrats with your three yo.
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@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
19 Mar 07
i hope to teach my kids the proper names for parts. But I realize they will learn the nicknames and bad words for them from school, television, who knows where. They'll pick it up from other kids. But I'm going to use proper English with my children.
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
19 Mar 07
I think learning the slang is partly necessary so they can understand other people and situations.
@joanana (770)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I don't have children, but should I someday do I would do exactly as my own mother did for me. Each body part gets called by it's proper name. I think that by coming up with nicknames or not mentioning these things at all that a parent pushes their embarassment and lack of comfort onto the child and teaches them to be ashamed of their bodies when they should be proud and comfortable.
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
That's right. If you teach things by covering them up you automatically assign shame to them.
@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
I think it's right to teach children the right terms for body parts. A lot of people will teach their children nicknames like you said, and i don't think that's appropriate, because when they do find out the real names, they will think of why mommy or daddy didn't call it that way, and they will wonder even more about those certain body parts, wonder if it's taboo, and so on.
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
Thanks for your participation, jewel. I agree.
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
Me also i make sure that everything that i teaches to my two little daugthers are the right one's. Don't ever use baby talks. Babies now-a-days are intelligent. They can already understand right away. So just always talk to them the proper and right way.
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
I never even talked baby words to my children or babble when they were infants. That is they way I talk to my dogs but not to human beings. My sister in law talks baby talk to the grandchildren and you know she did it with her children and they still talk baby talk in some things.
@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
Personally, when my chld grows up I will indeed teach her the proper names for the body parts at least she will not get confused and this will improve her self awareness and body concept. Yes i completely agree, however it has been in our culture or tradition or environment for as long as we can remember...so something like this will be kind of hard remove from the society system, specially of we don't do anything about this.
@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
Great answer. I agree with you too.
@djbtol (5497)
• United States
11 Mar 07
The direct approach seems like a good idea. Some words may need some further explanation.
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
I don't think they need further explanation if used in context only and not as curse words or outside their biological subject matter.
@flpoolbum (2959)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I guess you have a point, but I can't help but remembering years ago, when I went to visit my 4 year old nephew his friend was telling me that boys have a pen-s and women have a v-gina. I think that was a little bit too early, myself. (Heck, I couldn't even post this without making some changes, and we are adults.) Any thoughts?
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
The reason you can't post this without censoring it is because some people just don't understand the difference between legitimate discussion and filth minded smut writing. Of course, though, I just look at myLot for the pictures. LMAO.
@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
My son doesn´t talk much yet, but we have already started to teach him the right names for body parts. He has to learn them in two languages, though, so it might take some time!
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
Don't forget the prime time for learning two languages is actually about 4 to 6 years old. But if you work with him daily in both languages just on a regular usage basis he will ease into it quite easily.
• United States
11 Mar 07
Why would a nickname be considered more socially acceptable than the real name? It's referring to the same body parts!
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
Ask the censors of mylot. It's beyond me.
• United States
10 Mar 07
I feel it is important to teach our children correctly about their body. It is our responsiblity, If we don't it opens the opportunity for someone else to. Someone that has different agenda for our children and their bodies. Safe Hugs Patty www.LavenderPower.org
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
Wow, thanks for the great site. Good information.
• United States
10 Mar 07
I think its ok to use nicknames with younger kids. Older children should definitely be taught the proper terms for their body.
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
Learning starts when they are young.
• United States
10 Mar 07
My parents taught my siblings and me the right names for everything. As I got older and began hearing slang for body parts it actually originally confused me. Whenever I have children I will teach them the corect names for body parts.
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
Good luck to you with your future!
@kavi112 (232)
• India
10 Mar 07
i certainly agree wth you.. the children should know their body parts in perfect english..and that there is nothing to be shy or embarrassed about it..after its our body .. we carry it all along..
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
Can't get rid of it!!
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@MrNiceGuy (4147)
• United States
10 Mar 07
There is a simple reason people do this, and thats because kids don't know appropriateness and its easier to handle your child talking about their "cookie" or "po po" than it is to walk through a grocery store with your child yelling anatomical terms. And its not like kids dont learn the anatomical names through their education or at a more appropriate time anyways..
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
Can someone please tell me what is a cookie??
@avonrep1 (1862)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I teach them proper names, but they also know the nicknames people call their private parts. I think it is important for children to know these things, so if someone touches them there then they know how to pronounce what happen. My children knew their body parts by the time they were two. Yeah my son was two would say and thats my pen*s. When I asked him to tell me different places of his body, He start at his head and work his was down to his toes. Just as my girls did also. Naming all their body parts till they had them down. If anyways ever touchs them wrong, they will be able to help the DA's office because they know the right terms for their body parts. It is irresponsible not to teach them the proper names.
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
Definitely. I agree with what you have said. In this day of rampant abuse, children need to be aware.
@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
10 Mar 07
Yes, I teach the correct names for body parts. Why do some feel compelled to use a cute name or nickname for some body parts and not others? Do you ever use a cute little nickname for a child's knee? No! I feel that the nicknames are because of the parent's embarrassement and being uncomfortable with sexuality! There is nothing to be embarassed about when discussing the body parts! They are just that, parts! One doesn't have to discuss what they are used for, just name them! By creating a mystique, we encourage chidlren to wonder and experiment do all they can to figure out what we are hiding!!! I have worked child and adolescent mental health for years, and the professionals are in agreement that truth is best...and use of correct terminology!
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
Some names aren't cute, just gross.
• United States
10 Mar 07
So right you are. I was raised with such stupid names and embarrasement, that it hung me up to this day. I raised mine to use the right words, no matter how much it was uncomfortable. I'm giving you a + rating for a fine posting.
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
Thanks margie, I appreciate it.