Are you disappointed? You spend time looking for a quality discussion.
By cloudwatcher
@cloudwatcher (6861)
Australia
March 10, 2007 4:18am CST
Then you spend more time giving a good, quality response.
When you return - and return - and return - you find the one who posted the discussion has not commented on ANY responses. Did he even bother to return to read them? Why did he post the discussion in the first place?
MyLotians have previously suggested that myLot should have a dual stream whereby discussions could be identified. We should be able to identify those who are looking for a good discussion as opposed to those who seem to post for no other reason than to earn a couple of cents.
Maybe two "start a discussion" boxes could be provided, with different markings? Maybe a special mark of some sort for those who enjoy a good discussion?
Do you get disappointed when the poster does not comment on ANY responses to his discussion?
Do you wonder WHY he posted it in the first place?
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10 responses
@tammyr (5945)
• Etowah, Tennessee
25 Apr 07
It is discouraging and although I realize they may not have time to reply to everyone, I would like to see one comment that says they are reading them and rating them. I have skipped relying because out of 3 pages or even 2 they have not been back at all. ??I can see on some topics even, but why ask for advise with your boyfriend/brother/neighbor, if you don't want it!
I requested you as a friend, Then I read about your download problem. I do not start many threads, but would like to see some of yours in my friends started list. I fully under stand if you do not accept though.
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@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
This discussion was posted at a time when things were very "down" for a number of us who had lost some very good friends here who had posted really, really good discussions. Things have improved quite a bit with new friends and more good discussions, but it is always frustrating to come across a really "meaty" discussion, respond with thought and feeling - and then return, and return, and return, only to find the poster has not returned to comment on ANY responses and possibly not even to read and rate them.
I accepted your request as soon as I saw it, because I recognised you name from other discussions. Thank you. I look forward to meeting you often in more discussions.
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
27 Apr 07
I had the same thing with a new friend a while back. I pm'd him, suggesting very nicely that he should at least read and rate responses and comment on some. He posted good discussions, but never replied to any. Eventually I deleted him, after pm'ing him first to explain why.
@tammyr (5945)
• Etowah, Tennessee
26 Apr 07
Thank you for accepting.
I answered a few yesterday from a new friend that I may drop. Some of the threads were months old, none had he responded back to and none had best response. I think maybe a nice note stating that the beat response should be given, and if they still do not pick them or comment on any, I think I will drop them from my list. I will respond if the best is picked, but responding when you know that no one is gonna get it makes me feel like they REALLY do not care if they ever see the post again.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
28 Apr 07
Well, I am sure there are many here who might consider me one of those people, as I probably was one some time back. Now I do go in and check all of my discussions when I have responses and respond back to these. Then I go in and even take the time to check out the discussions they have started, and respond back to one of theirs if their is something there responding too.
I do agree with their needs to be a way to know who will respond to the New Discussions that they have started, and if they just start New discussions in the hopes of making a couple extra cents.
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
28 Apr 07
There are a number who do the same thing and can be relied on to at least read and rate all the responses, and comment on at least some. While we tend to stick with them, we do often see good discussions that we'd like to become exactly that: a discussion, and not just a post with no further communication. I also check out discussions by the poster when I see a good response. Thank you for sharing.
@imadriscoll (2228)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Yes this is a big frustration for me. I've noticed though that these same people tend to choose someone who's given a one line answer as best response. That really shows me that they don't care about quality content and makes me wonder if they just picked a friend to give it to. It's disappointing, but I just bring these types of discussions up with my husband and we discuss them amongst ourselves.
I'm not sure I understand your plan about two different discussion markings ...
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@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
17 Mar 07
I'm not too sure myself.
I just wonder if discussions could have a symbol for "quick" discussions and a different symbol for "deep" discussions, though these aren't the best descriptions for them. I don't know how it could be done. Maybe a symbol would work, or maybe categories in the left panel.
@Darkwing (21583)
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27 Apr 07
Yes, Cloud, I too have experienced this. I think some people are so intent on posting a great number of discussions, that they don't find the time to come back. That, to my mind is indicative of Q and A and doesn't relate to discussion in any form. I feel quite dejected when this happens.
However, there are a few on here, who return pretty quickly to acknowledge your response and make a discussion of their topic. These are the ones I look for in my friends discussions. Your ideas for format are good. I think they would have a good affect on the procedure of searching out discussions.
I've posted a good one for you to get your teeth into. lol. It relates to one of our earlier discussions on my beliefs and explains a little to readers.
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1033168.aspx
I would be pleased to see your thoughts on this. :-)
Brightest Blessings, my dear friend.
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@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
28 Apr 07
Yes Darkwing, we tend to stick with our friends who we know will post good discussions, but I find it annoying when we see really good "discussions" which turn out to an airing of views without discussion.
I'll have a look at the link. Thanks.
@Darkwing (21583)
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21 Mar 07
Oh yes, I've noticed this many a time. Not only that, when you respond to these discussions you've so tenderly hunted down, up pops a request for you to add them as a friend!!! You've never seen them before, they're on one point, they've posted only the one discussion you've just responded to, no responses of their own, and they never come back to the one you've just hunted down! Ok, I give them the benefit of the doubt and leave them in my Friends "Waiting Room" for four weeks, but no discussions and no responses to mine, means denial, guys... with a capital D! If they can't be bothered to support and participate then my friends list is closed to them. They're probably spammers anyway.
Sorry, Cloud... I got carried away there. lol. Brightest Blessings my dear friend.
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
I think we possibly get carried away with the same things. I've said it before: I do wish there was a way to differentiate between types of posters here. It might work if a new category could be included in the "discussions" in the left panel: something like "discussions for serious debaters" or "deep discussions" or ?????
Thanks Darkwing. I've been too busy to spend more than a few minutes here every couple of days, but I also think a lot of interest has gone with the departure of friends.
@wmaharper (2315)
• United States
18 Mar 07
Cloudwatcher, Yes it is very frustrating. Especially if I took special interest in the topic and am waiting to see how everything turned out, and I return to the topic to see that there are no responses to anyone's comments. There are a couple of people who have done this that are on my friends lists, and I've just decided to no longer reply to their discussion. One in particular, always posts great posts, but she never replies and never gives out a best response either, which isn't really that important, just frustrating I suppose. At least I know with you that you'll at least read my reply. (:
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@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
19 Mar 07
I'm afraid I have to be a little ruthless with my friends list. Because I am on a monthly download limit, I have to do my best to minimise the number of pages I open, or I'll be cut back to 40-64kbps. I like to reply to as many of my friend's discussions as I can, and to have to flip through many pages of discussions I'm not interested in, is wasting my precious download.
I have deleted a couple of GOOD friends (explaining to them why I did it) because I'm not interested in endless recipes and home helps. I still try to respond to their good discussions. The thing is, I'm not going to keep people on my friends list, who never return to their own discussions. You are much kinder than I am.
Thanks for your response. For those of us who enjoy a friendly and courteous debate, it is frustrating when people don't reply.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
10 Mar 07
Yes Cloud I do and like you I wonder why the Person has even started the Discussion if this Person is not going to return. I get notified by E-Mail when People have responded so I guess everyone does so why not go there and respond and appreciate that this Person has responded to you.
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
10 Mar 07
Gabs I had to turn off my notifications because of the download limit I'm on. I was getting so many emails, so of course the download was bigger.
I go through the discussions my friends started and discussions I've responded to. I keep a list of the ones I'm particularly interested in and want to follow through. It is just so disappointing when really good discussions come to nothing because the poster doesn't return.
Hope you are settled in properly by now with no need for climbing up on things, no more bumping into cupboards and no more fights with big dogs!
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
I've been having a hard-time right now, and I've been skipping to and fro on every discussions. I see alot of discussions here are are not that interesting, and I don't waste my time on answering their posts. I also encountered some discussions that when started, was just left behind by the threadhost, and I try to list their names for me to avoid and never again go on their posts. I know it's kinda rude for others, but I am here for a good exchange of ideas and not just to earn money.
I think that person, whoever they are, is just looking for more earnings and doesn't seem to care whoever or whatever responses they get on their posts. Some are just concerned on flooding their friends' list of started discussion, and most of them I already deleted also on my list. It's a relief for me, because I receive almost 'two' friend's requests everytime I remove one on my list..
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
12 Mar 07
I know exactly what you mean raijin.
I think if we steer clear of responding to those who never return to their own discussions, we do well. It is easy to do because many of them don't post good discussions anyway, but I've encountered a couple who post really good, interesting discussions, and yet do not return. That is frustrating.
Thanks for responding.
@maildumpster (3815)
• United States
21 Mar 07
It does drive me crazy when the OP doesn't respond. I think the same thing "why did they post this?" Leads me to think it was just for the pennies. Sad really.
Those people will eventually get recognized by the regulars and ignored.
I don't often spend too much time looking through. I try to use most of my time here to reply to people who have replied to my discussions AND to reply to my friends discussions. Now that can get annoying whem my friends don't post their own discussions but only reply to others. How can I help them earn if they don't post?
