I Hate MY NEIGHBOR!!!

United States
March 10, 2007 10:44pm CST
Normally I am an easy going, "lets work it out" kind o' gal. Right now, I feel more disgust and hatred than I have felt in my entire life! Believe it or not, that is saying a lot, as I have been through the worst of the worst in my life. This woman, that ironically lives beneath me (as in; heaven and hell, 'course with her residing under me, there is no way I can consider where I live to be "Heaven") has got the biggest horns I've ever encountered. For the first time in my life I wish to cause harm to another. Not death, but harm. Her manipulation, and costly antics to my personal property have pushed all my "you stupid twitterpating female dog" buttons. What do I do?
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21 responses
• United States
11 Mar 07
My advise to you is not to give her the satisfaction of getting a rise out of you. Also, ignoring and pretending people don't exist isn't as hard as you think. Stress, hatred, and feuding can really wear you down. Whatever triggered these feelings in you will end up doing more harm to you than her. I believe what goes around comes around. So if she did something bad to you then its just a matter of time before something goes wrong for her. I don't think you should cause any harm to anybody. Again, what goes around comes around! Be happy, smile, and laugh. That is my answer even though that is probably what you don't want to hear. Hope it all works out!
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@mahayla (192)
• United States
11 Mar 07
i;m curious what exactly she did? i guess i'm nosy lol
• United States
13 Mar 07
Well, let's see ... She is of the personality type (I assume) of "controling". One night she came up and literally kicked my front door. I simply told her, "I don't care what your problem is, if you have something to say to me, complaint or otherwise, then you come up and knock on my door in a civilized manner!" Ever since, my vehicle tires were flattened twice (in the same week). She has attempted to run over my dog. And she continues to give me, my children and my husband the finger... Among other things. GRrrrrrrr! I appreciate all the feeback from everyone ... Thanks.
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
Have you reported her to the police yet? i feel bad for you coz i used to hate our neighbor too but our case is not that bad as yours. it seems as if this lady is someone you couldnt compromise with.
• United States
13 Mar 07
Exactly! No Compromising with her. She's a hypocrite, to boot. She wants my family to walk on eggshells so her husband can sleep during the day, and in the meantime, she is downstairs doing laundry, hammering, and her mini pincer is yapping all day long. What gives? I wish we could move, and it's not for financial reasons that we cannot. There is just no available housing in this area right now due to the gold mines booming right now. Hopefully Soon, VERY SOON!
• India
11 Mar 07
i can sense up ur pain,... and I would even tell u that u r not the only one with the so called....NEIGHBOUR PROBLEM... I too had been suffering with this problem an year or two back....when my new next doors turned in and within a day the lady tried to be over frank with us and actually tried to intervene with our personal mattres.... but we understood the thing and got to know that such problems are actully timely.... I mean they are jhust time based and need time to be resolved...there may be two ways ina ll ---either u just scream at her once or twice for whatever she says or does....or give her time....and explanations of the things indirectly and at every moment... i know it owuld be hard but it will definitely work out....
@LindaLou (483)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
Record each and every incident in a journal with times, dates, places, witnesses, who was involved and what happened, included what may have preceded it, in case you ever need it for legal purposes. You may want to take pictures or set up a security camera to prove that she is damaging your property if possible. Try to ignore her as much as humanly possible and don't give her that satisfaction of getting a rise out of you. She probably doesn't have a life or enough to fill her time and has to bother with her neighbours to add drama to her life.
• United States
12 Mar 07
depending on what's going on have u called the police? if u need to get them involved do so. If u need a restraining order do that. Make sure u and yours r protected.
@kurtbiewald (2625)
• United States
12 Mar 07
ignore her if it doesn't work then move out
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
11 Mar 07
i'm sorry to hear that you are having a problem with your neighbour... but we really can't avoid it as we live in a society and we just have to learn to be tolerant and considerate with other people... i also have an annoying neighbour (whom i don't know the person) who keep on using my rubbish bin to throw their "stuffs" (even nasty one) despite of the big number written on the bin that it belongs to me... sometimes, my bin even gone missing and i find out that it had been wheeled to another block... it happens to me couple of times and i still can't find the culprit until now... but i can't do anything and i just have to bear with it...
@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
11 Mar 07
Well I know what you mean, I live in an Apartment complex and let me tell you, I have had my fair share of nosey neighbors, I don't have a problem going respectfully to their door and ask them to keep it down. If it's during the day and I'm up and it's a bit noisey it doesn't bother me but later on in the evening when I'm trying to go to bed...I'm HEATED...If that doesn't work I go straight to the leasing office and they are strict with the noise policy even vehicles with loud music...I do like that about the community..
@ILANEDRI (1921)
• Israel
11 Mar 07
Neighbers can be really annoying, and unlucky you, you have that kind of neighber. There is no much things that you can do, but for my opinion the most useful thing is to call to the mayor office, or to the people who taking care of neighbers problems, and let them know about your annoying neighber.
• India
11 Mar 07
so do i..i also HATE my neighbour
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I don't know exacly what they have done to your personal property but if it is bad you need to call the police. I have good neighbors but across the street is another story. They like to play music as loud as they can in the middle of the night until I started calling the police. now it has stopped.
@Impervious (1147)
• United States
11 Mar 07
Oh my dear I feel for you I think we have all dealt with that at one point in our lives. And while alot of people are going to tell you to take the high road and be a better person. That's all well and good. BUT dum,dum,dum Getting even is much more fun. First a couple of rules ( yea, yea I know ) anyway rule # 1. It is only wrong or illeagel if you get caught. 2. Never use the same prank twice on the same person ( as funny as it may be ) 3. All acts should be performed in public areas if possible. Now on to the suggestions: If you have a membership to a sams club or osco or some other bulk store, Buy a couple of rolls of shrink wrap and ever so carefully yet very very thouroughly wrap her car. Oh and my personal favorite filling the mailbox with expanda foam. Good Luck and Happy mischief
• India
11 Mar 07
yaa. i too hate my neighbour. its becoz they are really very harrsing kind of people dont know how to be with them.ooops that lady who always quarrel for water with us its so tiring to be with them.and she is totally mad only dont have common sense at all to talk with people. but my family members are so much easy going people we wont care for her. i hate her a lot she create so much of trouble in the colony.
@Ciuffo (69)
• Italy
11 Mar 07
I hate my neighbor too...
@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
11 Mar 07
If you two can not sit down and talk to each other and work things out, then I think the best thing to do if possible is to move somewhere else where you do not have to deal with her and her attitude and problems. I would rather do that then stay there and get upset and be stressed out worrying about what the other person is going to say or do next. That sounds like a very unpleasant situation and hope you can get the problem with her resolved without having to move.
• United States
11 Mar 07
Ouch hard one. I know where your coming from. I once lived in an apartment complex and had neighbors that lived below us. We had only one child at that time and she was all of 1 1/2 years. Yes we had company during the day but my husband worked early mornings so it was never late into the night. Our neighbors however worked the night shift. We always went by the rules of quiet time after 10 p.m. but these neighbors came up and asked us if we could keep it down and keep our child (remember she was only 1 1/2 from running across the floor during the day because it was hard for them to sleep. At first I was as thoughtful as I could be even going as far as taking my daughter to the park or out of the house quite a bit between hours of 10 a.m. and 3 p.m. but that was still not enough for them every week they would catch me in the hall or even come knocking at my door asking if maybe I could do my laundry after 3 p.m. because the sound of the dryer woke her husband out of his much needed sleep and then again asking if maybe I could keep the volume of my T.V. down (which was barely kept loud enough for me to hear in the first place). The last straw was when they complained to the managment that I had too many visitors during the day. At this point I started to get upset and no longer wanted to try and make life comfortable for them. I was starting to feel like I could even move around during the day in my own house. I myself complained to management with no avail because I later found out that one of my neighbors was her neice. So I quit being quiet during the day started having company again when ever I wanted and washing my laundry during the day. I never did anything out of the ordinary of normal living. I decided it was their choice to work night shifts and have a bottom floor apartment and why should I have to change my life for that. I was bitter and never spoke when passing in the hall with them again. A few weeks later I realized I was being watched very closely by managment but felt no worries because I never did anything that was wrong. At the same time I was feeling uneasy because I had a friend of mine coming to visit soon that had two young active boys. I knew that it would be louder than normal during the day by anyones standards but hey quiet time was after 10 p.m. so who cared right? Wrong. After their visit I started being watched with everything I did. I came home from the grocery store with a box of laundry detergent and as I was trying to balance the grocery bag, my daughter and the box, the box fell and spilt onto the floor. I went into the house and put my daughter in her crib put away the groceries and grabbed the vacuum to clean up the mess. As I opened the door there was the land-lady with her finger pointing in my face. How did this happen? She asked not even looking at the spilled detergent. I started to explain but she started yelling for me to clean it up. Obviously I had the vacuum right there and told her I was just getting on it. She mumbled a few words and walked away. I cleaned up the mess and went back into the apartment. At this time it was 10:05 p.m. The next day we received a notice that we were being evicted due to leaving messes in the public hall way and vacuming within the hall after quiet hours. This story just goes to show that when people are awful and impossible to please it is best just to try and ignore them and keep as much distance between them and you as possible and ALWAYS find out if they have an in with management... I found out later that our downstairs neighbors moved into our upstairs apartment the day we moved out. This is what they had wanted all along. The crazy part is I would not have minded having the lower apartment in fact I would have prefered it and if asked we could have switched. Some people are just impossible! Best wishes and best of luck...
• United States
11 Mar 07
What exaclt has your neighbor done to you? i don't think anyone can really give you advice without knowing what exactly has happened.
11 Mar 07
There is not much you can do other then move. I know that is not always an option. I have a really bad neighbor too. She would get mad at her family members and throw their things over the wall into my back yard (clothes, video tapes, VCR's, Cable boxes the list goes on) and the police would do nothing when I called, sometime they would not even show up. When my kids go old enough to play in the year I decieded that I have to move, because if she hit one of my kids I would be the one going to jail. Let the next owner deal with her. We all have enough stress in our lives. If you can move do it.
• India
11 Mar 07
tonya i hate my neighbours too lets not say hate but dislike they borrow every possible thing from my house at times i pretend not to hear dem wen their at my door ringing the bell but i let it not bother me coz theyre my first help wen im in need
@danilene (41)
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
well...burn her..!lol!we have a neighbor that is sooo irritating, she accused my autistic brother of peeping on her while she's taking a bath in the middle of the night with her bathroom window open. This window is 8 ft high and my poor brother is only 5 ft.tall. I can't imagine my brother drooling over her. She's like an old hag. People like them should be skinned, hanged and burned alive.hahaha...im evil!lol!