Controling Parents
By SheraD3
@SheraD3 (207)
United States
March 11, 2007 3:31pm CST
If someone still lives at home with their parents, either because they want to or because they have no choice....at what age do you think parents should start letting their kids make their own choices and start minding their own business? I have a friend who is 23 years old and still lives at home....I have no problem with living at home and being close with your parents. I still live at home also....but this guy recently asked out a girl (mutual friend of our) and his mother told him he couldnt go out with her. So he didn't....Is that rediculous or what? I've been trying to tell him to take control of his own life since he is old enough to do what he wants. What do you think?
3 responses
@GardenGerty (169477)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I had adult children living with me for quite awhile, and it was not a problem for either of us. I have a feeling that this guy would have trouble cutting the apron strings even if he did live on his own. The mark of success in parenting is to have raised an adult, not a grown up kid, if you know what I mean. My kids actually had quite a bit of freedom from about fourteen on, for what it is worth. They got more freedoms as they got older, by about 19 they made all of their own decisions. I did not allow certain things in my house, but away from house, in dating and other friendships, and jobs, and college, highschool graduation is time to turn loose!
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
11 Mar 07
After my children have finished school they are more than welcome to live in my home as long as they want. As long as they do nothing that upsets my household they can do what ever they want. I know that kids will make mistakes and as parents it's our job to pick them back up dust them off and make sure thier alright. It is not out job to live thier lives.
@SheraD3 (207)
• United States
12 Mar 07
Thats how my parents are...they tell me i can stay there as long as i want. Infact my parents will give me land to build a house on so that i can stay close by them when i move out. And while im in their house I have to follow their rule and ways of doing thing, but I have no problem with that because at 22 their ways of doing things arent that much different from my own. and im very close with them. But they give me the privacy and space I need. they let me do what I want when i want and only give advice in serious issue. They dont try to live my life for me... and im trying to tell my friend that he needs to get respect and space from his parents if he ever wants to be happy. because at 23 years old he should be able to have a GF or get married and start a family of his own if he wants....not be a Mommys boy for the rest of his life. I think he should respect his mom but then again she should respect him also.....and if she doesnt, then he should demand that respect.
@mommyaiai (295)
• United States
11 Mar 07
It depends in what country you are,but in the Philippines you can stay or live in your parents home as long as you want but going out with somebody and your 23 years old i think you should not let your parents control your life.Maybe his parents are disagree with that woman that is they tell him not to go out with her.Anyway,that depends on the situation.My parents is also like that,if they don't like the guy they will not allow me to go out but that's before coz i'm married right now.
@SheraD3 (207)
• United States
12 Mar 07
yes I agree with you....what country a person lives in would play a major role. Here in the USA usually by 18 people are making their own decision....like for me, I am allow to do what I want even though I live at home...there are certian thing my parents want me to do like call them if I go outta town to let them know I arrived ok. I respect that..and if im gonna be home late they like to know. If im going to go out with someone, it is my choice completely, however if they see a problem with that person they definatly let me know, and I always try to respect that. This guy I am talking about though I think has let it go further then just respecting his parents oppinions...he lets them control every aspect and I think they should give him a little more freedom of choice because of his age.
