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Hi Grandpa Bob! Nice to see you with growing number day by day. Well, I have a little number of friends and hence I have little notifications as well. But I would like to tell that all these sort of BIggg Biggg notifications are meant that you have more firends and those having the potential to start a new one. Yes, off course you have the right to respond those having something appealing to you, not necessarily all even of mine. But would request you to kindly have a look of all those discussions either being responded by you or not! Because friends have more right than others. Thanks

i think that your friend is quite er, selfish?but anyways watever your friend maybe its still your choice to respond or not to respond.

I just turn notify off for most friends. I only turn notify on for a select few that do good topics.

You know, this happens to me a lot too. I just don't know how 10 people can think of ten diuscussions in one hour, or one day. The most I have started, in a a 24 hour period, would be 3. Have I done 4? I don't think so. Just don't respond Bob. I don't, it's impossible. I guess your friend will understand if you can only respond to one or two. I sometimes can't respind to all my friends disccussions, as it's a topic I haven't anything to say about... that must sound dumb, but I am trying to avoid one line responses. Don't let it bother you at all.

Well i try not to get any friends because well most of the time their discussions aren't of my interests... I do not want to be telling them about it when i barely know about the subject myself..

HI grandpa bob!, i get that a lot too- im kinda thinkin of removing my notifier off now for certain added friends of mine, don't worry, your not included.. hahaha... Its just seldom that i get to response to your topics too, not that i don't want to, but sometimes, i really just don't know what to say and sometimes, i can't relate. Hope you forgive me though... so sorry about that, but i do try to reply at least to 1 or more topics from the same friend as much as i can. Sometimes, i kinda get annoyed because some of the discussions that are being opened are... i dont know.. just not so worth discussing? im sorry- not yours though- but some from my friends list. Its usually the 1 liner discussion sorta thing like "how long have you been in your current relationship... me 2 yrs..." that sort of thing.. and i just think its kinda pointless... and its kinda annoying because the next discussion will be entitled "where did you go on your first date.. we went to a club" and all coming from the same user. So i think what i should do is just to turn the notifier off for that friend, because it takes a lot of space in my email- i always wake up to find 207 unread EMAIL messages and like 10% of the letters is the "your friend ****** started a discussion on mylot" and it is a long list indeed... like common! and some of the topics have even been discussed before..i dont knw, maybe she's just unaware of that... but my goodness- i couldnt even think of more that 5 topics in a day! i guess im just not that talented.. hahaha.. eniwei.. that's just gonna be my solution- turn the notifier off for that particular user- and i will just manually visit the site and check on "discussions my friends started" and look for some of her topics that i can answer...

haha Grandpa Bob, you do worry so much! I would only reply to the ones that interested me regardless of which friend they were from, I sometimes don't read jokes and hardly ever do political or religious discussions, sometimes it depends on how the first few lines are worded. does it really make a difference woh started them? people who are your friends do not expect you to answer everything, I know I certainly dont. lol.

You are right. It is better to respond to the discussions from the general pool (discussions with zero responses) rather than responding to the friend's topics. There is no reciprocation from the friends.

I respond to all the ones I get! I love to do so and enjoy the banter and the information. I have to admit, I will go in spurts and post a lot of discussions and then for a week do none. I guess it just depends on how I feel.

it's good to see lots of responses against the discussions which u started but it's not possible to give ur response to all of them,i will give response to that much which i can give,to rest i will give response on some other day.

It doesn't really matter to me Grandpa Bob. I have a friend like that too and I respond to as many as I can without neglecting my other friends too. I will answer maybe 5 then go to other friends discussions and then come back later to answer the rest if I have time. I noticed that even if I don't post many discussions I still earn. The day that I have the highest earnings was the day that I only posted about less than five discussions and I responded to a lot of discussions, friends or not. The point that I respond to discussions is that I have something to say and the topic actually do interest me to a certain degree. So it matters not if a friend post many discussions or not and I'll answer as many as I could.

Hi grandpa Bob!(",) First, let me thank you for the comment you've sent. I noticed it just now because I'm not usually checking my profile most of the time. Anyway, it's really irritating on my part as well. Friends who starts too much discussions in one day can be really irritating, that's why to be fair to others I'll just go to my friends list to check on their discussion and answer at most 2 of their new discussions. I think, they will understand if you'll answer only a few. What's important is that you've answered. Have a great day!

I have few friends to, When I get notified I usually just go to see "discussions friends posted", coz email is not a friend..lol... I dont start a whole lot of discussions, and when I do I try and make them meaningful and interesting or have something thats of interest to me...sometimes I will find a discussion just like mine and just read the replies to them and then I am satisfied. Last night I went to bed with a big ole blue star with a 10, and this morning I have a red nine again. It bothered me at first, coz i know it has to do with the ratings, and I didnt post a discussion yesterday so thats probably why. you dont need to answer everyones discussion, friend or not. I wont take it personal...ok?..hehe..happy posting bob.

First of all, turn off the notification for this friend. You can still keep track of their postings but it won't crowd up your email. Most of all, remember, mylot is an option - not a job. You do not HAVE to answer anything. Only those subjects which interest and inspire you. Personally, I tend to respond more than I start discussions but it is a necessary balance to have members who can think of meaningful questions off the top of their heads. Um, we are talking "meaningful" questions, aren't we? lol. Besides, if their questions are not interesting and popular, it is my understanding that they won't be rewarded with money, anyhow. Mylot will even remove questions that they deem frivolous or nonsensical. BUT even if they are rewarded for starting numerous discussions, trust me, they won't be busting the bank with mylot earnings! Hey, live and let live, post and let post.

I have some friends like that too Grandpa, and to tell you frankly I wonder how they do it. Every other mail notification is one from them..lol! I personally respond to only those that interest me, and today I'm surprised to find very less discussions that I want to respond to..either I'm being too picky or I'm just plain feeling uninterested..lol There is no rule that you need to respond to all the discussions, so I don't care if they mind.

There has to be a limit to the amount of so called friends on your list. There is no point in putting up a discussion and not geing able to respond to the comments that are posted in helping your discussion being a good thread of interactive help and agreements. I think that the first ten comments on any discussion gives a good picture of what that discussion is all about and puts enough quaulity into the matter. Most of your best responses will come from the first ten or twenty that are posted so that will give you time in responding to your other discussions on a similar basis. There has to be a limit as there will never be unough time to answer all your emails and post good discussions at the same time.

ive seen in one day ive had about 62 discussion to responed to and most was from the same person asking one line questines like what do you think of this this person or that person.to me thats not a discussion so i bypass it,or if i have ones that i cant relatate to oe dont understand i dont answer them

Grandpa Bob, I like getting them all, that way I take my time and answer the ones that I can realte to. For me the more the better, that is how we can bring in our earnings. I know some emails coming in are excessive but it beats going to look for the questions. I think it makes it one less step to do.

i have some friends who r capable of posting about 10-15 posts within 20 mins!;) on my part i have just turned off their notifications as not to clutter my inbox with junks(junks because usually they start really pointless discussions) but still i have kept on one such person's notifiers as usually she doesn't post nonsense discussions and she posts "only" 10 posts within 30mins:)i reply to 1-3 usually because i can't see why i m obliged to reply to all of them if i have got nothing or very little to say on those posts! but i make sure to read all of them and if i find that i can contribute something to all of the posts then i sometimes do that too! i think u should just go the way u r going but if it's really annoying u then u have got only one option turn off his notifier and check his new posts afterwards on his profiles or under discussions started by my friends(by my experience-a very lengthy option)!;) oops i forgot there's another option also left that is of deleting him from ur friend list(i m not going to suggest that Grandpa Bob!;))

Yes, grandpa...I know what you mean. I haven't finished posting my response to this friend and already she had posted another 5 new ones. I can't keep catching up on everyone's threads. I like to make room for all my friends. Instead of spending 3 hours here, I found myself pounding on my keyboard for 6 hours or more. I do not mind if the discussions are relevant but there will be discussion asking you about a certain thing and you can only respond YES or NO. Now that's kind of annoying. Phew...I better check on some others here. My email kept notifying me of new discussions again. All the best, grandpa.