Hiring a Private Investigator??

I wanted to answer this post but to be fair to you I won't because you said exactely the same thing I would have said. Hope you don't mind if I just add an additional comment. If this was the case I would also ask that he leave and I continue living in the house because he can still work, I can't and he would need to assume some responsibility for such an indecent act.

Ok, let's clarify a little here. Your mate's activities are unusual but not necessarily involving unfaithfullness. Think outside the box. Under what circumstances would you investigate your mate either on your own or with help?

But the question is: Would YOU hire.....? I already know how I would handle the situation. I am curious as to how others would handle a difficult situation.

Okay I'll play!LOL IF I caught him in a lie about something more then what time he woke up or, who he said was going to be voted off our favorite show, THEN I would investigate that further my self. If I was fighting for custody of,say a grandchild, and needed proof of things that I am not able to get, then I might have to hire a private investigator. In about any case to get back ground that I can't get. When I was fighting for supervised visits for my daughter I got lucky and was told about an incident he was involved with, in another county on the first weekend he had his visit. My mother and I both made calls and got the Ranger that worked the incident to come to court. I had a legal aide lawyer but we did the investigation.

See there are situations that we might hire an investigator. Cheating is not the only time that we would want or need additional information before making any serious decisions. Once I had a boyfriend and while I was at work, things were going on. Now normally, I would not know about it. When I came home each day, things were out of place or felt wrong. I checked with some neighbors/friends and expressed my thoughts. They watched and then came back and told me he was not out job hunting. He was having parties all day. One day I came home early and he barely had time to clear the house out the back door as I was coming in the front door. I almost caught him. Once I knew what was going on, our relationship did not last much longer. I could not trust him as he would sit at breakfast telling me lies every day.

What if the unusual behavior is because he is doing something in secret so he can surprise you later?? You know in your heart that infidelity is not the issue at all. Large amounts of money seem to be missing and he is working more hours than usual but six months later, he presents you with a very nice piece of jewelry. If you had left, you would not have received the gift. What types of situations would you hire an investigator?