tattoo with an ex-boyfriend's name...

tattoed on my chest! - butterfly tattoo
Philippines
March 16, 2007 4:56pm CST
What would you do if you have a tattoo somewhere on your chest with your ex-boyfriend's name on it? Would you have it erased or leave it as is 'till your new partner finds out about it? OK. I have a friend who was pretty in loved with her ex-boyfriend. She loved her enough to have his name tattooed on her chest together with a colorful butterfly. But sad to say their relationship didn't work out well, and decided to call it quits...*sigh*Now, if you were in her case, would you have that tattoo erased or you will just leave it as is? What if your new partner sees that and would somehow feel insecure or even annoyed with that? Do share your thoughts... by the way, I have attached the photo of her tattoo, please take a look at it...:P
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@mrsbrian (1950)
• United States
16 Mar 07
well everyone you fall for has had a past life and what they did in that past life is in the past so i would hope that my new love would be mature enough to just get over it i have tatto of my very first love and its still there 35 years later. but i guess they could have the name removed if they wanted the butterfly is pretty tho.
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
thanks for your thoughts, mrsbrian..yeah, the butterfly is indeed lovely... :P
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• United States
17 Mar 07
Two years ago my wie (now my ex) and I got matching tattoos on our wrists: celtic knot wrist bands with each other's name woven into it. Of course, we are now divorced. My new g/f likes the tattoo but is not crazy about my ex's name being there (neither am I, she was a psychotic who abused our children) so I fully intend to get the name portion covered with more knotwork. Until then, I use it as my "What the hell was I thinking?" reminder. Not as in, what was I thinking when I got the tattoo but what was I thinking when I asked her to marry me? Everytime I feel like I am about to do something stupid, I look at that name on my wrist and it snaps me back to reality. I see nothing wrong with getting a loved one's name tattooed on you but b aware that stuffhappens, so make it a tattoo that can be easily covered by moreink.
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@tess1960 (2386)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I really liked mysticwriters response. His is a great idea. Just have more artwork put over it. A flower next to the butterfly would be pretty and would cover the name.
@healer (1782)
• India
16 Mar 07
If i was in her place i will erase it as it will remind me of him everytime i see those tattoos, and it will also be better to have a say to our future partner that it was my old boy friends name and i erased as he hurt me in the end and i want to start a new life. She made a mistake from the begining as she should have not tattoo it, we need to think twice before we do such things in life. Nobody knows what our tomorrow hold so, ladies lets be wiser.
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• Philippines
16 Mar 07
thanks for your wonderful thoughts, healer...
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@healer (1782)
• India
22 Apr 07
Thanks a lot for marking this as the best response, i really appreciate this. Thanks and good luck for your future
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
16 Mar 07
well i would never do a tatoo with my partners name on my body why do i need it..i am sure he will know i love him without doing it..but i guss this is not the main issue.. so i would say i would try to erase it, and even try to leave it on my body. this is a story that belongs to the past. and i would not want to hold on to the past love story' ecause i believe that if this is the situation it is very hard to really meet and truly love sombody new. and i do not think the new partner should be in a situation you discovered. not of finding out and not of being in a problematic situation in which he feels uncomfortable. it is like being in some sensitive situation....and shouting out your last partners name..isn't it?
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
true, it could really give some feeling of insecurities to her new partner... how sad...
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• United States
16 Mar 07
I would personally either have it lasered off or if possible covered up with something, like maybe another butterfly, I know if I was dating a guy (I am married now) I wouldn't want to be staring at some other girls name.
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• Philippines
16 Mar 07
true, it somehow gives a not so good feeling to your new partner seeing your ex's name somewhere on your body.
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@Michele21 (3094)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I think I would have it erased or whatever!! That is so terrible, I know if my husband had some other womans name tattooed on him I wouldn't like it one little bit! I have thought about getting something with his name on it or whatever but I don't think I could take the pain!!
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• Portugal
16 Mar 07
She should have thought that before doing the tattoo. Like you have in your profile "No winter last forever". But I think she should let it stay. It's going to be very difficult to her to erase it and will probably damage even more her skin.
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@tess1960 (2386)
• United States
18 Mar 07
That is a very good response. Why have a scar to remember the hurt he caused. A pretty flower next to the butterfly would cover the name and show she has blossomed into a new woman. Then only she would know the name was once there. She could share the info in the future or not, up to her.
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@hottie0728 (1732)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I would definitely erase it! There's no sense of leaving it on my skin when were not together anymore. I think it would be unfair for my new bf too since he's not the I'm with not my ex...I would never do it in reality since I'm allergic to ink.
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• Philippines
17 Mar 07
if you only knew how to take out tattoos here in our country... i might not probably say that... hehehe
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@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I have often thought about what people would do in that situation. The golfer Lee Trevino had a tat of his ex on his forearm. He always wore a bandaid over it. I wouldn't have a tattoo any way but if I did have that problem I'd have to cover it some how or get rid of it. 3 of my kids have tats and I keep asking them what is going to happen if they get tired of them.
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@mr_ilham (1611)
• Indonesia
28 Mar 07
i am sorry i am man and i don't like tattoo thank you
@tanjila (548)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Well, I probably would leave it just because at one point it did hold important significance to me. Even if the meaning is lost now, one can never forget. A new partner should be able to cope with that if they really care about you. But on the other hand, it's better to just move on and forget so getting rid of it would be more practical.
• United States
27 Mar 07
I still have my exes name tatooed on my back. You can barely see it anymore because i paid 300 for lazer removal. If you think getting a tatoo hurts, you should try getting it removed.
@anonymili (3138)
27 Mar 07
I'd tell her to get rid of it and not bother with a new one. How can you ever tell you're gonna be with someone forever that you'd want a permanent reminder like that? Personally I think tattooes are unsightly and I know too many people who had them done when they were younger and repented later. It costs far more to get a tattoo removed that it does to get one put on. There are better ways to show your love for your partner than to get their name branded on your forever and no love is guaranteed forever these days anyway. I don't know how old your friend is but most people I know who have tattooes begin to feel embarrassed by them as they get older and settle down. Having kids is one thing, imagine your 16 year old kid coming home with a tattoo, how could you tell them it's not a good idea when you have one yourself? Sorry if I sound really priggish about this but I'm talking about it from a practical point of view :)
@rjdreyes (157)
• Japan
27 Mar 07
yeah i do erased the tatoo on my chest (named by my ex-gf), if for some reason i had it. Because it will reminds me of her everytime and can't think to moved on. I would also erased for that, my future girlfriend will never be disappointed. and i will also share my thoughts about my past that, i had a tatoo named by my ex-gf to my future girlfriend.
@melody1011 (1663)
• India
27 Mar 07
I would definetely get the name erased. It would save a lot of tension and time to get it done before she started seeing anyone else cuase later on, it might be too late. Why is she keeping it anyway?? is she still hung up on this guy?? Personally i believe that you should never tatoo your body with anyone's else's name, besides your own. People change, relationships change, so its always better to be safe rather than sorry
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
i never liked tattoo...so for me think twice before putting any mark in your body coz there's no turning back...it's expensive to erase tattoos...
• United States
21 Mar 07
That's one thing I would not do is leave an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife's name on my arm. Kasi pangit nga ganyan atsaka permanent for life.
@Dolcerina (3378)
• Hungary
18 Mar 07
Well, there are two solutions. Either she find a same named boyfriend, or she goes back the saloon, and aks some kind of modification. Probably it would not be simple. I have to say that tatoo was a very silly idea. I would never make made a tatoo with a boy's name. But if I were so stupid, I am sure I would make it erased if it can not be modified somehow. For example, I would not like to see another woman's name on my boyfriend!
@Marie2473 (8517)
• Sweden
18 Mar 07
It would take alot for me to tatto a boys name on my body, I donĀ“t think i ever would. IF i did it I would probably have another tattoo done over it if we broke up. Maybe make the "butterfly" bigger. (If i had a butterfly next to the name)
• Netherlands
18 Mar 07
It is a beautiful tattoo by the way. Well, in the beginning of a new relationship I don't think it will make such a big deal. But soon as they are getting serious, better tell her new boyfriend about it and ask his opinion whether she should just let it stay or erase the whole tattoo or maybe just the sergio name. You'll never know what her new boyfriend might thinking. Good luck !!
@GardenGerty (125639)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I think I would have the name worked into a part of a design, or erased. You need to think twice about having names and such put on permanently. Very few relationships are permanent anymore.