How often do you tell your kids you are proud of them?
By mummymo
@mummymo (23706)
March 16, 2007 6:23pm CST
You know the feeling your child is getting a special award at school, they have achieved a huge success, they have shown how kind they are with other children: your heart beats that little bit faster, tear in the eye and a lump in your throat! Its a lovely feeling but what about all the little things they do, putting away ingredients when you're cooking, saying please and thank yousitting patiently while you look for your keys or even helping to look for them!!! Do you tell your children that you are proud of them? How often? I believe in rules and dicipline(not physical!) I won't accept cheek, and my children are expected to do chores but I do tell them every day how proud I am of them - even if it is the littlest of things that they have done! We all tell our children that we love them but telling them we are proud of them builds their self-esteem and confidence! If you don't do it why not try and see the difference it makes for yourself - what have you got to lose? What do you think?
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@psoriasisflaker (16)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I try to tell my babies at least twice a day . I think it builds confidence in them an lets them know I love them and that I recognize their accomplishments. I am very proud of all my children and love telling them so every day.
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@Melody1 (967)
• India
17 Mar 07
I tell my elder one quite often .But lately my younger one has also started giving me reasons to tell her how proud i am of her.I feel very strong and secured by the fact that both my daughters are very intelligent,loving,strong and confident.
I feel i'm one of the most fortunate mother on earth and for that I thank god from the bottom of my heart.
@ayushthedevil (3147)
• India
17 Mar 07
well me am just a kid but have to make sure that my parents end up reading this
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
16 Mar 07
No I tell my Kids all the time that I am proud of them and I am
They are the best to me and my Sons Partner to. They have grown up into wonderful Adults and they are my World. I am so proud of what they have achieved and still are achieving.
Yes they have their Moments everyone does but they are my pride and Joy
And tell me in this Day and Age who would care for their sick Mum and put up with what they have had to for a while after being Diagnosed, not a lot but mine did and they never complained. Then they got help from Friends that I met on here as I had other People to cry to and it relieved them but they where wonderful and still are.
Yes I am very proud of my Kids,
@raydene (9871)
• United States
17 Mar 07
My kids like everybodies have gone through good and bad phases and I've tried to ride them out with stressing the good stuff and talking honest talk.I do tell them great job or I'm so amazed that you could do or you never stop amazing me or you were sent to jazz my life up.And I buy the donkey!lol
Cheers
R
@weemam (13372)
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17 Mar 07
I think you are right my friend , and not only when they are children , My boys are 44 , 41 and 26 and I still tell them I love them and I am proud of them , It still gives me a lump in my throat when my boys give me a wee cuddle or do even the simplest we thing for me , don't stop Mo , even when they are much bigger than you xxx God bless
@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
• United States
17 Mar 07
Ihave alwasy told my son how proud of him i am,,It can he something as huge as finally learning something he has been struggling to do..to the small things like picking up his toys when he is done without me having to tell him to pick up..ever since he was born even when i didnthtink he understood me..like his first work,crawl,walk,i always showed him and told him how proud i was.i eevn do this little dance and song sometimes...like hes 4yrs old now and hes reading like a pro..he read ME a book last night instead of me reading to him..and i was so proud,,i must have hugged him for alost 10 mins lol..and the sight of his little face glowing with pride..just makes me feel so much more happier..:)
@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I used to tell my stepson I was proud of him all the time. Then he started doing all kinds of stuff that I just wasn't proud of. Things that involved bailing out of jail. He has been behaving much better the last few years, but is still a slacker. I try very hard to find something he does every week to tell him I appreciate. If he brings the garbage cans in from the curb, I thank him. He just doesn't do anything to be proud of anymore. I am just thankful he isn't in prison.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I told my child that all her growing up years because then it was true.
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@jchampany (1130)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I think you are right. I tell my kids as often as possible. This got me to thinking though. I usually say that they are a good boy or good girl. Maybe I should use the words "I am proud of you for doing....". I think I will work on that and try to tell them a little more often.
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@maildumpster (3815)
• United States
17 Mar 07
We tell our kids we love them every day. We also tell them each time they make us proud that they have done so. We didn't hear it much growing up and we know how it affected us so we try not to do that to our kids.
(funny thing is my almost 3 year old with severe delays now claps for himself if he thinks he should get praise ... too funny really)
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@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I tell them all the time. I tell him sometimes for no reason at all. I think you must. He is an awesome kid, and he should be told that. When he does something he isnt supposed to we tell them, so we should also tell them when they do something right.
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@ironstruck (2298)
• Canada
17 Mar 07
I always told my son that when he live with me.
It is very important that you build the self esteem of your children and being a single parent it was even more important, because there are more issues involved.
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
17 Mar 07
Everyday! I agree 100% with you- Children need the self-esteem boost. Self-esteem and self-confidence are the 2 best things we can give our children (Along with love)-- Kids get these by praise, love, caring, spending time with them, etc.
I tell my daughter everyday when I'm proud of her- It can be for something as little as getting up showering, an getting ready before I have to say-- come one the car is leaving! : ) I say Pooh (nickname) I'm so proud of how wuickly you got around today. Of course I also tell her I'm proud for the BIG things she does also-
Kids need this!
Great discussion!!!
@shaz6611 (951)
• Australia
17 Mar 07
I tell my guys all the time. I think it is very important for children's self confidence to know that their parents are proud of them. It gives them a reason to keep on doing what they are doing. I just started a new job last week and I don't get home until 6.30pm, this means that dinner is now much later than we are used to. I came home one night and my daughter had cooked dinner and was about to serve it when I walked in.....well the tears started to well up, I just gave her a big hug and told her how proud I am of her and how lucky I am to have her. The load of washing that I had hung out in the morning had also been brought in, folded and put away....that had been done by both my children. It makes me so proud that my children would do these things without me asking.
@ladyrainfx (366)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
I have a year and a half old son every single moment is fun with him and most of his actions brings a lot of pride. I don't just tell him i'm proud of him, I also give him a warm hug from time to time. As often and as much as you could saying those words to your child wouldn't do any harm, so go on keep them coming.
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@CheSabCabMD (619)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
My daughter is only a year old, but I tell her all the time how beautiful and wonderful she is. At one, when kids are in a stage where they are in the process of discovering new things about themselves and their surroundings, I praise my daughter for every little thing she learns. I'd go clap my hands with her and tell her how good and intelligent she is..
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@panicatthe (13)
• Canada
17 Mar 07
true true. parents should pay more attention to kids...
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