Step Parents

I think it depends on the family but IMO the kids regardless of age shouldnt have to see the step-parent as equal to the bio-parent BUT they should respect the step-parent and the extended step-family really...I'm a stepmother (though we dont speak to his daughter) and my husband is my childrens step-father....they respect him as they do me (maybe a little less simply for their own protection which both my husband and i understand) and they listen when he tells them to do something etc BUT I am offically the PARENT....what I say in the end is final and thats that...

They don't have to accept them as their parents, but they should, at least, respect and obey them as if they were.

Children have to respect their step parents,depend on what they ask you to do,you should obey them,But don't let them take advantage of you. And fathers and mothers should prevent from letting their partner take advantge of their children.

It is a normal reaction of kids to be uneasy towards step parents. Some of which tend to over react to the whole scenario of having a new member of the family. Children should try their best to accept their step parents because they are there not to replace someone but to be a new confidante, friend and possibly another person whom you can consider a parent too. If children cannot accept their step parents as their new mom or dad, the least they can do is accept him/her as a human being and treat them with the proper respect that they deserve.

I raised my step son from the time he was 12 until grown. I didn't expect him to look at me as his mother, I am not his mother. He has a mother. What I expected was respect, which I believe obedience falls under. I didn't expect any more or less from him than my own children. They all had to follow the rules. I don't believe in playing favorites, and wanted him to feel a part of the family. Since he refers to my children and his sisters and brother, I think it was successful in that aspect. Of course, when it came to discipline, my husband disciplined his son, and I disciplined my own. I think that was only right. If I had a major problem with my step son that I could not resolve then I would talk to his father. Of course, it wasn't always easy. My step son had a lot of issues, he felt abandoned by his real mother, so I needed to let him know all the time that he was welcome in my home and that we weren't going to abandon him.

I agree they come in ou lives and think they own us, and when you go to tell your mother/father they just ignore you