Perfect age for marriage????

@avs189 (1030)
India
March 21, 2007 12:38am CST
What according to you is the perfect age for marriage ...is it that women should be married at younger age of 23 or 24 so that they could easily take care of their children while they are young and have greater strength anf agility ...or do u think they should be married when they cross age of 30..i am stressing more importance on good upbringing of children rather than sevral other factors since i feel when they are young they have greater capability of managing the children and bringing up in good healthful manner..What u think according to u and ur reasons for the time of marriage???
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@lbbaby (489)
• China
21 Mar 07
As for me, I think 26 and 27is better.Because we finish college until at least 22, and we should work for 2 or 3 years to collect money and take care of our parents. We need time to do preparetion for marriage,because I think marriage represents to responsibility. We should take it seriously.
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• China
22 Mar 07
??????,Nowadays in China ,The generation of born in 80 age,It's really difficult for to afford marriage and purchase a house of our own.I my life plan,I intend to get marriage at 29. As a undergraduate student,in general,the salary level i sjust only at 2K,but have to pay high house rent.high daily disbursement,so sometimes,we even can't make ends meet.But to my indignation,in China, the corruption phenomenon is very serious,and the national official not only get very high salary,but also defalcate.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
i think that there's no perfect age for marriage. If you're climbing your way to the top of the corporate ladder or getting your law/medical degree, for example, it would be better to postpone having children later. Health depends on a person's diet, exercise regimen, and genes. You can be 24 but unhealthy because you party out every night, or you can be 40 and fit because you take care of yourself. The ability to care for children depends on one's capacity to love unconditionally and the ability to manifest that love.
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@DeaXyza (577)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Perfect age for marraige is when you are ready to get married. The age is unimportant in a marraige it is the attitude and the responsibility that you bring to the marraige that is more important. What you want to ask I guess is right age for motherhood... right. There no such thing either; Women are living healthy longer these days so again age does not matter. I have met several women who have had children at 23 and were clueless about how to handle children and I also know many who have had children after 30 and are being fabulous mothers! so my take is having healthy children has nothing to do with marraigeable age. But the parent's own take on parenthood is what makes good parents.
@avs189 (1030)
• India
21 Mar 07
Very good point u made abt being ready for marriage inwards from the mind ..whati feel is that one should be ready enough for the marriage both mentally and financially ..in terms of health moms at earlier age are better able to raise their kids since they have the strength and abiltiy to do so rather than kids at later stage..
@greengal (4286)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I think the good age for a girl to get married is around 23-24 and for a guy 26-28. And also I think there should be atleast 2 yrs difference between the two, I dunno why but I feel that is right. And as for having kids, girls should have them before they are 30 and men should become fathers before 32-34, because they have the fatherly patience only at that time, later in life it becomes tough to take care of a kid. I know this is the norm, but it is hardly followed. People have kids when they are in their late forties too, I don't know how they will manage!
• Romania
21 Mar 07
yes
@avs189 (1030)
• India
21 Mar 07
Yes somehow i feel that mid 25 is correct age provided there is financial stability enough for both couples to be married and settled down with their family members...what i say is that financial stability also plays a cruical part..
@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
That age bracket is suitable to be married and you are right, we can take good care of our children when we are a mother on that age and as they grew up we are still young to guide them. I have nothing against marrying at age 30 but if you can marry early than that age to the person that you think god's gift to you the better.
@avs189 (1030)
• India
21 Mar 07
Yea what i wantto stress is that getting married should be taken into consideration regarding the fact that one should be matured well enough along with the physical strenght to able to maintain and nourish the kids...
@lemoca (3)
• United States
21 Mar 07
30 and older is too old to me. You have less energy for the kids. Besides, if you are going to be a career woman, you will find it hard to juggle both. I don't think a woman should have to do both,ever, personally. 23 is a good age, but I married at 20 before I got out of college and before I got pregnant. I don't know when I could have done it sooner, but I am now 31 and wishing I had done it more(I only have 1 child) and I have little of a career to show for all these years. I think raising your child is the most important and being able to support your husband and learn and grow with your family while still young.
@avs189 (1030)
• India
21 Mar 07
Yea it depends upon the individual and his type of personality ..some of us are great enough to have kids at early age ..for some of them it works while for some of them their carrier matters for them rather than family and other important matters..so what ifeel personally getting married should be given a prior thought as compared to how you are supposed to bring up your children and other family issues involved with it...
• United States
21 Mar 07
I think the perfect age for marriage is whenever you are grown-up enough to handle the pressures and stress of being married. You should have sown all your oats and be mature enough to be able to be honest and dedicated to someone through thick and thin. People are marrying older now or getting remarried later in life and starting new families, I don't believe that age plays a factor in how you raise your children, its about the discipline and the value you teach your children.
@avs189 (1030)
• India
21 Mar 07
I think handling of the stress is most important thing which should be done at greater cause and has great role to play in evrybody's life rather than meandering and chewing the fact that one is not financially stable and well being about the individual mentally and physically...
• Singapore
21 Mar 07
There is no *perfect* age. But if you must have one, it would be the age when you are emotionally mature enough and financially stable. Some people reach it early, some late, some never.
@avs189 (1030)
• India
21 Mar 07
Yea really good point u made of financial stabiltiy ..thats somewhat more important i guess other than maturity and stability i feel ..many of marriages are split apart and broken due to this reasons...
@ma_lorena (178)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
i think the marrying age for a woman is 24-25 and for the man is 27-28. i think that are the best age. you can take care of your child while you are young at the same time you have already experienced being single for a long time.
@avs189 (1030)
• India
21 Mar 07
This can be considred as somewhat mediocre and ideal age for marriage since reponsibility needs to be handled well enough for marriage ...if one is not ready for marriage one should not be forced to do so...
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
I think there is no perfect age for a person to get married. as long as both partners are matured and responsible enough to handle a family and are stable to build a family. Of course, there should be openness, honesty, trust, loyalty,faithfulness, thoughtfulness and respect.
@avs189 (1030)
• India
21 Mar 07
Yea i agree with u the most important aspect of the relnship is stability and capabiltiy to handle things well within their own limits and interests..thats what i feel should be the best and correct measure for adopting and taking decision forward towards marriage...
@saheli (79)
• India
21 Mar 07
Perfect age for marriage? I think there is no maximum age for marriage, and minimun is 18 for girl and 21 for boys(in india). jokes apart. According to me, a girl should not marry at the age of 23, she should marry arround 30, atleast after 25. I am a mother of a son and I know the resposiblity of taking care a child, its a big, 24 hour job. i got married when i was 26, and delivered a baby at 27. so enjoy your life fully before being a mother, Motherhood is a big reponsibiliy. Good upbringing only can be done when you yourself are mature enough and ready to take the responsibiliy.
@avs189 (1030)
• India
21 Mar 07
I agree with u that maturity is important aspect in the relationship ..unless and untill the boy and girl learns the responsibility of being together and bringing up a kid and other family matters...i think marriage is out of the window..what matters is the sense of responsibility and maturity enough to understand the willingness of relationship...
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
when a person becomes an adult, that's the right age of marrying. consider also the financial capability if both can handle a family. many jump into marriages and found themselves not ready for it. some are result of unwanted pregnancy that's why they enter familyhood at young age where they were financially unstable.
• United States
22 Mar 07
I think any age past I am saying in your 20's. I think TOO young is late teens to early 20's. I think personally 22 on up. Why? After 21 you start to grow up and learn more about you. I dont know if I am ready to marry, sure havent met the guy yet. And I am 27 (28 end of year). I'd say if I marry by 30 and have kids sure I will be fine. I think too young you dont know yourself. I think it increases your chance of getting divorce. Which isnt good. So dont marry too young. And those who marry cause the girl got pregnant DONT always end good either. I thought different about this years ago. I was sure I'd be married by 25. Now I know I wont be anytime soon so thats how it goes.
@Rohitrox (38)
• India
22 Mar 07
i think that it is ideal between 20-25 yrs as women r yung n take care of the household in a bettr way they hav got that zeal n energy in them n can do great in taking care of faamily members especially of chldren
@tugushk (51)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
when both of us are already stable. :)
@jhartana (1085)
• Australia
22 Mar 07
Man should get married at the mature age of 27 years at least. By then the man should've got very good paying job and good financial stability. The woman should get married at least 24 years of age. I think those ages fit really well for them to get married. I married when I was 29 and my wife was 27 years old. We just want to get married as we're matching each other.
• India
22 Mar 07
According to me the perfect marriage age for women is arround 25,because at that time they will be more matured,supportive and also takes more care on family and child.
@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
22 Mar 07
There is no perfect age, everyone is different. I married at 18 and it worked out fine for me, But my 19 year old neice is no where near ready for marriage, and isn't looking to be ready until after collage, and has her career set. She says when she turns 25 she'll concider looking for Mr. Right. What works for one person, isn't necessarily right for the next. I was 18 when we married, but 26 when I had my first child, and 29 with my second/last. I'm happy I waited to have kids, as far as the patience factor on my husband. If your question is "should we wait until we are a little order to have children?" I would have to say yes.
@kclaret59 (587)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
there is no such thing as the perfect age for marriage. it all depends on how prepared you are to deal with it.
• United States
22 Mar 07
It depends on the couple and how they act and behave. If they are both young and immature they should obviously not get married at a young age. If they are older and immature - the same. I think my perfect age is 27.