DO you LOVE your PARENTS?????

@karvin87 (1034)
India
March 21, 2007 11:21am CST
I know this is a very obvious question...but recently i found many people who had some or other problems with their parents. that sounds a bit absurd for me though but looking life from a broder prospective ,one can have problems with their parents and i personally feel all probs should be sorted as soon as possible. For me, i donot hold any grudges for my parents and hope to make them smile always..:-) wat about U? do u hold grudges? wat is it that bothers you about them??
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I know what you mean, there are many users here who have some issue or the other with parents. I love my parents a lot and have no problems with them at all. I have been living away from them for the past year and a half and I miss them a lot. Can't wait to visit them soon. I know I can never be mad at my parents, I wouldn't live through it!
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@azpro11 (136)
• India
22 Mar 07
There is always generation gap between parents and childern.But we should understand eachothers feelings.when i used to live with my parents ,we used to have some or other discussions but it doesn't mean that i don't love them. Now when i m not with them , i miss n rem. all those things they used to teach me . i love them n miss them a lot.
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• Singapore
21 Mar 07
Naturally. I love them very much. How can you stay angry at them for long?
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@karvin87 (1034)
• India
22 Mar 07
perfect! who would stay angry with them for long! i lyk tht! it makes so much sense...
@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
22 Mar 07
i do love my parents not only because they love me, but also because their love and whatever they did for me has been with out a wish of return from my side. their sincere efforts to bring me up, to educate me and to bring me to the level i am on is something i can't even think to pay them back.
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@samrat16 (2442)
• India
22 Mar 07
Well, I can say that I love my parents alot. I am closer to my dad than my mom though. I don't love her any less, just for some reason, I can talk to my dad about everything but with my mom she is so judgemental, so I tend not to talk to her about things as much. I never really had a good relationship with her. She has problems (mentally) and I guess I just don't relate to her as much as my dad. My dad even has problems talking to her. Everyone does, so I know it's not me. I can sit and talk to my dad for hours on the phone, but I just can't think of anything to talk to mom about. I know it sounds bad, but that's how things are with her. Like I said, I still love her because she's my mother. I just don't get along with her as well as my dad.
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@gbolly54 (661)
• Nigeria
22 Mar 07
Your question is not out of place at all. Not all children love their parents, or probably not all parents deserve their children's love. However, notwithstanding any situation that dictates to the contrary, children must love their parents for them to be one with God. Than God I love my parents, and they love me, too. I have no cause not to love them, since they both show me genuine love. To me, the reciprocal love was taken for granted, believing that there was no other way to it. It was when I heard of how some parents neglected or abandoned their children or the way some children left their parents to their fate at old age, that I started wondering how wrong I had been.
@gbolly54 (661)
• Nigeria
22 Mar 07
Sorry, the "Than God" at line 4 of No. 63 above is to be deleted. Thanks.
@karvin87 (1034)
• India
23 Mar 07
hey parents are like god.. i agree with that...parents help u when u need it the most, they hold a place more sacred than god in my heart.
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I despise my adoptive parents...there is no two ways about it...they've caused me nothing but trauma, sorrow and pain my entire life to this very day...Its not grude by any means...they've earned it and then some really...What bothers me about them? the fact that they were and are abusive would be a good place to start.
@karvin87 (1034)
• India
22 Mar 07
hey i feel sorry for you often in life we have to guide ourself and lead our life... it is always better to come out of grevences and start a new life with a positive attitude.
• Pakistan
22 Mar 07
I know that it's easier to say that you should have a positive attitude than to actually stay all calm and saint like in such a situation. All I'd say is that you should try ignoring their abuse and try to think of anything nice that they've ever done for you. I mean there has to be something good about them. And if you cant think of anything at all... then just try not to think about hem at all.
@navtech (1776)
• India
22 Mar 07
Loving the real father and mother is must. But in a certain situation and circumstances children when they grow up they do not know how their parents struggled much to bring them up. At those times parents vent out their feeling of frustration and failure to children which children considering that their parents do not love them. This feeling getting installed in their soul and brain which when they grow up continuous remain in their subconcious which slowly develops their disliking towards their parents. My opinion is that NEVER HATE YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER. THEY ARE THE FIRST GOD SEEN BY EVERY CHILD BORN ON THE EARTH. GOD IS SECONDARY. WITHOUT MOTHER'S HELP, NO CHILD WOULD HAVE BEEN BROUGHT UP PROPERLY. MOTHER, O GREAT MOTHER I LOVE YOU ALL MY LIFE FOR BRINGING ME ME AND PROTECTED ME WHEN I WAS CHILD, FROM ALL THE EVILS AND TAUGHT ME GOOD THINGS OF THE EARTH. THEREFORE AT ANY GIVEN SITUATION YOU SHOULD NOT HATE YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER.
@karvin87 (1034)
• India
23 Mar 07
amen:
• Austria
22 Mar 07
I don't love mine either. I never felt love coming from them. They didn't support me or comfort me or hug me or tell me they love me.... They did put me down a lot, told me everything I did was a waste of time or money, and generally made me feel bad about myself. So no I don't love them at all. And I'm okay with that.
• Austria
22 Mar 07
It's not that I hold a grudge. I felt for decades that I must love them, felt really bad for not loving them, then I just accepted that I don't and that really I don't have to. I'm much happier that way. If they were strangers and treated me the way they did I certainly wouldn't love that stranger, somehow parents get to abuse their kids and it's expected that the child loves the parents regardless.
@shila07 (514)
• Bhutan
22 Mar 07
I hate the prople who hate their parents, i dont like th people who are not good to their parents. For me i love my parents more than my life. They are every thing to me.They rae the one who showed me the outside world. Today iam earning and working in a good hospital in a good post is just becuase of my parents, without which i would not be in this stage. SO they are my eyes too. I cant imagine of doing wrong to them. i treat so nice to my mother in law too, becuase she is my husband's mom( single parent). Seems you are aslo a good child of your parent. I donot hold grudges, because, i think they do for our good.
• Austria
22 Mar 07
How can you hate people who hate their parents????? You were lucky to have good parents, not all of us were so lucky and it is very hard to grow up without a parent's love and it leaves a big void in your soul. It is very painful when the 2 people who are supposed to love you and support you don't, and you in turn end up not loving yourself because of what your parents did. So please refrain from judging those who don't love their parents, you don't know anything about us. Besides we judge ourselves, that's more than plenty.
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@cjthedog64 (1553)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I love my parents. I'm not very close with either of them and we have very different views on lots of issues, but I do love them and enjoy spending tiem with them. I don't remember them being super involved with me growing up so that's probably why we're not very close now. We also live 4 hours away and don't see each other often. I like that because they're kind of odd :) but I hope that it changes so they can have a good relationship with DS(15months).
• China
22 Mar 07
yes ,agree you discussions.
@ydnac22 (804)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
yes i love them very much! :)
@cherriemae (3374)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
Yes, i do love my parents because they love me too. My parents is the wonderful people in this world. They give their love, care, patients, support to me. They make me comfort when i need a friend if i do have problems. But this time, i wanted to make them happy because they already old and need to have a good attention from their children. I do love them so much..
• India
22 Mar 07
The question you posted is making me shock, who doesn't love their parents yaar, i love my parents very much and i am glad to have parents like them. I have came across many problems like misunderstanding and generations gap.but i try to adjust with their suggestions.
• United States
22 Mar 07
Unfortunately not all parents are loving and nurturing. My mother wasn't. While she was never openly abusive or anything I always knew she 'rejected' me. I just didn't know why. It took my until I was nearly 50 to even start to understand this. Recently my mother had surgery, in talking with my brother on the phone I said I loved her. Later I told him that I had not intended to lie to him but that I had. I don't love my mother, I love the idea of motherhood.
@mpshiva6 (65)
• India
22 Mar 07
I think the problem mainly arises out of a difference in the view points of parents and children. Both should understand and respect each other's views. But it should be the children who should be more tolerant purely because of their age and their ability to adjust better than older people. I feel that this problem exists in most families. But I dont think this can be taken holding a grudge. That usually is a rare case where the reason is more than just a difference of views. These usually occur when there are some difference of opinion between the siblings and the parents support one. The others could easily hold a grudge against the parents. But I think it is a great sin to hold grudege against one's parents who are the sole reason for you and me to be alive in this world.
• United States
22 Mar 07
When I was younger I didn't know any better but as an adult I am finding it harder and harder to love them but I know they do the best they can with what they have.
• Malaysia
22 Mar 07
My dad passed away 7 years ago. I've been only with my mom since then, and although sometimes she do scold - but I still love her.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
I love my parents. They brought me up to be who I am right now. I owe them a lot. Even if I had a lot of squabbles with them I know they only meant well. I would never trade them for the world. I learned how to love and be loved because of the example they have set.
@kate44 (100)
22 Mar 07
I used to depise my parents and thought they were very selfish, my dad moved away when i was 10 or 11 to live in another country as my mum was having an affair with a man 10 years younger then her, there i was with suddenly no dad and my mum was too busy to spend any time with me or my brother and sister, i had a terrible time after that with my 'new stepdad' but now 15 years on things are much better as she is no longer with him and i get to see my dad often and speak with him weekly. I think as you get older its eaier to build better relationships with your parents.
@Jef914 (11)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
I love them even if I don't understand them sometimes.Especially my father.I know that he loves me as his daughter but it makes me confuse sometimes that whenever he get angry with me.He can't stop to say bad words..And it really cause me so much pain.And after an hour as if nothing happened.I'm already at the right age.But my father seems to be like that.And the least I can do is to leave it like that.Cause I know that even if my father act like that whenever he got angry he still love us..Cause he wants to do everything he can do just to give us a good wealth.