Is it too soon to have another baby?

United States
March 28, 2007 8:25pm CST
I have a little girl thats 2, I would love to have another baby now. Am I stupid?
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@qouniq (1966)
• Malaysia
29 Mar 07
i don't think you are stupid in fact for me this is the right time for you to start having a new one. 2 years is old enough to have a younger sister/brother under her. If your girl now is 2 then when you get deliver for your second she will be coming 3 and she is old enough to be a sister. I think this is should be find. As what i am planning in my pregnancy, i will try to have a second baby after the elder have reach 2 1/2 year so by the time i get my deliver my elder will be 3. This is same goes to the other child too. Too big gap sometimes ok but as for me, i don't want to get pregnant when my age reach 45 years old.
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@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
29 Mar 07
Yes you are 100%correct,i agree with you and i too have the same ideas as you.
• India
29 Mar 07
Yes u are not at all stupid .. its the best time for u to start for your second child ..both kids will grow up together and u will save up a lot of hassle of raising the kids separately .. whenage gap is less kids grow faster together and we as mums can get free earlier in life .. so just go ahead .. take care of urself ..
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@qouniq (1966)
• Malaysia
29 Mar 07
hey guys, its great to know that we have a same thought here...
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• Philippines
30 May 07
Of course, you are not stupid? There is nothing wrong with wanting a baby. My son is two years old, too, and I am pregnant with another. A gap of two years is already enough to want to be pregnant again.
@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
29 Mar 07
no way, it's good to have ur kids close in age, my second oldest and my third are 2 yrs. apart.
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@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
31 Mar 07
You have to way the pros and cons of having another baby, you have to do what is right for you, if you are ready and you can finacially afford to have another one, that what is stopping you. i say why not.
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@glenry86 (211)
• Australia
29 Mar 07
nah perfect time to have another baby. i recon if you and your partner can afford it and have the time, go for it.
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@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
1 Apr 07
Of course not, i think it's a pretty good thing, i've got a 10 month old now & would like to try for a 2nd baby soon - so they are about 2 years apart! If you want a gap of up to 3 years, then go for it!
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@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
29 Mar 07
No you are 100%correct,iagree with you as it the right time to have another as the time gap between them will allow them to understand eatchother and their will no differences among them. Asyou deliver the 2nd one by the time the 1st reaches the age where the kids learn starting ours,others,mine etc. You are correct not a stupid go further.
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@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
29 Mar 07
No you are not a stupid your idea of having a 2nd kid now is the right time. What i think is that having delivering the kids below 30yrs of age of females is very good for health and even the child born will be healty without any complications and the gap between the child to child should be less as they grow with the same feelings without any differences between them.
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• United States
29 Mar 07
I think it will be a perfect time for you to have another baby. By the time you have your second baby, your oldest one will be 3. So they are closer in age. That is what am going thru right now. My daughter will turn 3 in May and I will give birth in July. She is looking forward to (she said) to be a big sister and she will help me (I hope..lol) with the new baby. I think she will be old enough to understand of the situation and am positive they will have a closer relationship.
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@astromama (1221)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I think if you want another baby, then it's time to have another baby. I wanted a baby for 2 years before I felt I was in the right situation to actually 'go for it'... I'm due in a few weeks, and being this pregnant I can't imagine wanting to be pregnant again, lol! So, if and when I do desire to become pregnant again, then it's time. I think you intuitively know...
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• United States
29 Mar 07
I do not think that you are stupid. I think that each person is different and if you and your family believe that it is the right time to try to get pregnant than go for it. I have a 5 month old and I am not doing anything to prevent from getting pregnant. I love children and would love a large family. Good luck to your family if you decide to have a child soon. I hope you are able to concieve.
• United States
29 Mar 07
Not at all. My son was a bit over 2 when i got pregnant, His 3rd birthday will be exactly a month before im due with this baby. Its perfect for us, he has been potty trained, sleeps through the night and isnt 100% attached to me anymore, although he is very depended on me. Which is fine. He is also old enough and mature enough to comprehend there is a baby in my tummy and that its his baby brudder, and the baby will come out. Ive taken alot of time to prep him for the baby, we have learned how to change diapers ( on his dolls) and we watch videos and look at pictures of babies being born, of babies eating and sleeping. He is also accustomed to a baby that my mother often watches, so we know how he will react to a baby. I think its great to have kids this distance apart. They will be a few years apart in school, but not too bad, still close enough to be friends, without getting in each others ways.
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• United States
29 Mar 07
no,you are not. i think this is the right time for having a baby.and when the new baby comes,your's daghter will turn 3 years,that's the perfect age gap. so start planning,good luck
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
no, you're not. we're planning to have another baby soon and my daughter is only 13 mos old! i would like to give birth while still young so that i could still take care of my grandchildren in the future!
@msqtech (15074)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Not at all we all want to have our progency
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@czaroma (136)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
Thinking of having a baby does not make you stupid. If you know that you could already handle another baby, then go for it. It would mean another responsibility. I also had a baby when my little girl just turned 2 years ago. It is a very challenging experience for me. I have to take care of my baby and at the same time, give attention to my little girl.
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@caesarin (1089)
• Indonesia
30 May 07
No if you think you're ready.
@stacy624 (2776)
• Canada
30 May 07
First off regardless of your choice you are not stupid. You have a daughter thats 2 I think now is the perfect time if you wanted to have another baby. I did in a harder way which was to have 7 children all in a row, I wouldn't change it but also not recommend it. 2 years spent plus 9 months more is plenty of time to have that one to one ....I wish you all the best in what ever decision you choose Best wishes Stacy
@PunkyMcPunk (1477)
• Canada
29 Mar 07
It actually is better to have your children closer together. That way they will have playmates. My parents had 4 of us kids. My sister is 8 years older, my brother is 5 years older, then me and my younger brother is 5 years younger. I gerw up not really knowing them because they were either too young or I was too young to hang out and play with. It was lonely especially because I lived in teh country. I would suggest that you have your children close together for their sakes and also who really would like to ahve a 6 year old to run ehre and there for baseball and soccer practise while changing diapers on your other child?
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• United States
29 Mar 07
I don't think you are stupid at all. I had my last 2 children a little over 2 years apart. They are the perfect playmates for each other. Close enough in age to play together but far enough apart to make it not such a burden. I do have to say I wish we would have waited to have the last one until the other one was potty trained. But it all worked out in the end. They are the best of friends, I hope they will stay that way as they grow up.