Will you choose partners that are somewhat like your parents?

@catcai (1056)
Philippines
March 30, 2007 9:15am CST
I hope you guys don't find this post incestuous- i just wanted to know who among would like to have or not have realtionships with people who has the same qualities as your parents. For women, do you tend to choose to have relationships with men who are like your father or you're the type that avoids men who are just like your father? care to share why? For men, do you tend to choose to have relationships with women who are like your mother or you tend to avoid women who are just like you mothers? and why? Personally for me, I do look for my fathers quality in some men- i would like to date someone who's funny, caring, sensitive, sweet and very responsible- just like my dad was.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I chose my partner for my husband because he is a very good-hearted man. He loves me and my daughter both very much. I fell in love with him after we became friends. He always treated me fairly good and he has alot of characteristics that my dad had. I lost my dad when I was 12 and I still miss him to this day. My husband likes to do alot of the things that my dad used to do. I used to do alot of things with my dad and once again in my life, I have someone to do those things with again. My dad was always shy and backward though, but my husband is just the opposite but I think it is a really good things for us.
@catcai (1056)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
I think it's great too that you and your husband complement each other, I hope there's still hope for me to have that kind of realtionship someday! =)
@roque20 (518)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
i choose partners who are like my father because my father is honest, hardworking, protective and loving father. i want also my partner to be like him.Because as i can see that they are happy with my mother and id like to be like them happy.
@tishabest (602)
• Belgium
30 Mar 07
Funny question and in fact my hubby is very much like my mother, they are even both Virgos LOL, very goodhearted, fun to be with, reliable, loving and so much more. However, I wasn't looking for someone "like" my mom just turns out that those kinds of people attract me.
@cjthedog64 (1552)
• United States
30 Mar 07
My DH is really not that much like my parents. Not that I rebelled or anything, but I'm not a lot like my parents either. ;) My parents have good qualities, but different beliefs than I do. DH is a good man, with a good heart and a strong personality. That's what attracted me to him, and that's what's kept us together for 10 years so far.
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@catcai (1056)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
Wow, my congratulations to you! I wish you the best in your relationship with DH and more years to come!
@mannu123 (144)
• India
30 Mar 07
My hubby has some qualities of my DAD. he is very protective and i feel good about it as i at times get to behave like a child..LOL. I would have been the same happy if he would not have resembled my father in this matter ..becas he has some very good qualities of his own which gives me the pleasure to behave rather grown up .
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• United States
30 Mar 07
To me I think whether you try to avoid it or not it's bound to happen in some way. They may not be exactly like your parentals but they may carry somewhat of the same characteristics. Like for me when I got with my husband I wasn't trying to match him up with my father but as soon as we got married. I started to notice that they were similar in so many ways. Like they were both laid back and loved there family and are protectors and I know when we have kids my husband will love them and protect them like my father was with us. They both liked working out at the gym and are always the life of the party even when they don't try. I actually found it humorous but think it's natural cause when you think of it. They raised you all them years you are bound to have some there traits and want to see some of it in your significant other. I know that me and my mother in law are like as well. As far as going through some of the same stuff, and liking to cook and it's just natural.
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@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
31 Mar 07
um well, i dont really look for a guy that has same interests as my parents or act like my parents, but usually thats the type of person interests me and gets my attentions, since it really is basically what really makes me interested in them. because i been living on a farm with parents and if i was to get a guy from the city that had no interest in a farm well i wouldnt really be interested that guy. if any of that made sense lol
@jen20619 (1300)
• Ireland
31 Mar 07
I think it is common to choose a partner that reminds you of a parent.In my case I never realy got on with my father so I wont be looking for a mate thats like him.But it is a very common thing to do.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
I love my mother, but no. I don't consider her when I'm choosing the woman I love. Physical attraction is what starts it for me, then I try to get to know the girl. If I like her then I'll pursue her. My mom really has nothing to do with it.
@eshuniki (132)
• India
31 Mar 07
Yes i would hav loved to hav a husband like my dad,cause he is good-hearted,caring.My husband is some what like him but not entirely like my dad.
@kakaqiqi (21)
• China
31 Mar 07
Mmm,I deem I should introduct my father befor I answer your question! My Dad is a good man ,he was dote on our(me,my sister,brother and my mom )very much!He is great in my heart.For me,I worship him as a hero! because above reason,I deem I want to choos partners who are somewhat like my parents.And I think I would not treat him as the same as my Dad,in that one is my pratner and the other is my Dad.It's different of them even if they are similar! That's my opinion,and I'd like to listen about yours!May I?
• Pakistan
31 Mar 07
well if they are exactly same then its ok because if i love my parents habbits than definately i will love hers too
• India
31 Mar 07
for me my mother is the best women i have ever seen in my life so i would definately like to meet the second best women in the world after my mother. so i do want to meet or date a women having my mother like quality because my mother is simply the best in all good manner.
@y4175317 (204)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 07
it's still about Mia thomplis
@missybal (4490)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Sometimes my husband reminds me of my dad. I didn't really think about it before we got married, but my mother sure pointed it out. I just hope that I am nothing like my husband's mother. He doesn't think so thank god.
@Talha22 (384)
• Pakistan
31 Mar 07
well i would like to get the same mom but not the father my mom is the best and i want her as my mom everytime but my father ideal is some of other type.
@lynninky (491)
• United States
31 Mar 07
the only thing my husband does that my dad did is joke around all the time. after 7 years i hope that is it.i am starting to believe that my mother was a saint for putting up with him.. lol
@denden (802)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
There are some qualities from my parents that i would like my partners to have also. Such as being loving, caring, have a sense of humor and responsible.
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
In some aspects, i like to have a partner that is somewhat like my parents.. My father is a very caring one, he dont like to spank us when we do bad things.. But also there are attitudes of my father that i also dont like.. I wanted to have partner who is like my father, a caring, funny sometimes (lol), responsible, caring..And of course my father is so loving..He loves my mother so much, that he doesn't look to other girls.. He is faithful and that's one trait i like to my father..
• United States
31 Mar 07
When i was young I always used to pray that i'd find someone as caring and loving as my dad, someone that would treat me like he treated my mom.