Woe is Me Discussions.

Do you mean that some discussions started are all about personal problems, or, that many responses are about personal problems? Or both? I am finding that a lot of disussions started are about personal problems. Although I do reply to some of them, it's getting to the stage where I just find it too difficult. Espcially when some discussions are about major marriage problems. I don't think I have ever started a discussion about personaal problems; as it's just something I don't find suitable, for me anyway, on My Lot.

whiteheather, You have over 4,000 posts. Can it be that you are becoming hardened to the problems and feelings of the diversified group here in mylot? I would rather know the reson behind a response than just get a plain single line respone. Some people are desrcibed as "a man of few words", some are described as "she rambles on and on". My grandfather rambled on, but, he always got to the point, and it always made sense. A "man of few words" is usually considered mysterious. I can see how a mysterious answer would prompt more discussuion to get the responder to get to the point or to unsderstand the responders answer. however, I will gladly take any response I can get to any discussion. I agree with what a few of the other responses to this discussion said. You do not have to read every response and you do not have to rate every response. A bit of advice, I would suggest you take a break from mylot for a week. You seem to be getting a bit testy! Oh and please excuse me for rambling on, I get it from my grandpappy! If this was just an "idea" for a discussion..... Good one!

Do you mean that sometimes it is all you can do to keep from screaming "See a mental health professional! You really have a problem." There are certain posters that make me feel that way, but I bite my tongue, and answer what I can, but delete the bulk of the posts. I am very thankful I have the life I have.

People are going to say what they're going to say and we can't stop them. All we can do is ignore them.

am quilty of that I try to answer the discussion then tell something t o make a point. I am hoping it adds to help out the discussion and hope I dont go off track fro what was posted if I do I am sorry for that

it depends on what woe is me is meant. if they repeat it all the times, i just ignore it. but sometimes its needed to explain why they gave this answer to this discussion. what i see, here are lots of ver lonely persons who need to talk, so i wont mind to listen and maybe support them. life is short, so we should not judge to much. but i understand how you mean it

well I can't see anyone here trying to help anyone with a problem and they don't have enough information on the problem..some people take it to the extreme, but I don't have a problem with it..I would need to know a little about the situation before I could handle the problem..

have'nt you heard that "misery loves company".probably all those who were sharing thier miseries were just expounding on this saying.that said i guess we can all get a bit overwhelmed by hearing all about "woe betide me". the best thing to do in such cases is to ignore it rther than respond!

Well, we are dealing with all kinds of people, different ages, genders, cultures and such. I like to try to stick to the question, but, on occassion I may mention something of my own to make a point. I have rated all your posts +++ today again. You are so original it is enlightning.

If you ask for information on a specific problem, then the replies should be relevant to that problem, however some people do try to extrapolate the answer to include things which are about their own problems as well, and as long as they have included relevant details then that is obviously part of the discussion. Its when their reply is totally irrelevant that the problems occur, should you rate them with a - or ! or just not rate them at all. It is sometimes necessary to be not too judgemental when looking at replies to you own discussions.

Yes, I've seen that all over the place. I just figure that person has a need to share. I don't feel bothered by it..but if it's unrelated well then I don't know why they bother...lol

Yeah I get those responses. the ones where they didn't take anytime to read what I wrote, they just copy and pasted something they thought was related. So I tell them. I tell them: thank you for your response but it has nothing to do with what I wrote. If you would like to take the time to actually read my discussion, then feel free to come back and respond in a proper fashion. Until then quit wasting my time. Of course these are the people that never come back to something they responded to. But hey, I still get paid for my response as well!

I'm sure I'm guilty of this at some point somewhere along the line lol. Often times I try to make a point and stay on track at the same time, but I'm sure I've wandered off now and again. If I have I apologize :o)

don't you think people are partially here because of the fact they CAN talk about their own issues. I mean, seems like a lot of people don't get it of their chest in real life, so they do it here, which is fine by me, if it annoys me I just don't read it :)

They really don't bother me because I figure if they're posting issues here then it means they feel comfortable with the annonymity of it and need to get it off their chests. If I'm not in the mood for depressing stuff, I avoid those discussions. If I'm feeling brilliant at the moment like I can solve the world's issues, I go for it! LOL

Honestly I haven't run into this too often- I respond far more than I post new discussions. I actually like it when people relate to my question with something about themselves. But I can see if it happens all the time- Especially if they aren't answering the question. Perhaps you can just not rate that person.

I think I get what you're saying whiteheather. I try not to post anythign extra than the necessary response to those types of discussions, because really if a MyLotter wanted a history on my families aversion to bananas they'd start a discussion on family allergies or something. I do have to admit that I am guilty of posting my oersonal experiences though when a discussion seems to be seeking advice on a personal situation, and I can ramble on. But it I do it so the person starting the discussion knows what my experience is, where I am coming from and that other people have been there too. Good discussion whiteheather, it really made me think about how I respond to things! :)

Are you saying that the "extra" information is absolutely irrelevant to the question? Might it not be leading to the question? Or the info is necessary to explain the question clearly? Otherwise, I can only guess that she is too easily distracted but unable to be coherent. :P

I am sorry to all of you for having to endure my response to whiteheather. I feel stupid right now!

I understand what you are saying and I see it so much. It is sort of like resding a magazine and someone flips the pages when you aren't looking...:} Maybe these people are just trying to make a quality respose to something we don't know about yet. It makes me wonder if mylot pays for these irrelevant posts.