A Mother's Expectation
By Cathzsmile
@Cathzsmile (171)
Philippines
April 10, 2007 4:03am CST
How long should a mother expect from her children? If her children were starting to have their own family? If the children were getting into an early adulthood stage? Should a mother keep her children as like baby that needs to much attention from her?
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@noriko (1254)
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10 Apr 07
a mother will always be a mother no matter what age her children are, but she must be at the back drive. letting her kids be the person they want to be. but always be there if they need someone to talk to and needs some advice. we must not be over acting or over powering on decisions that our kids are doing because if our own mothers will be overprotective to us we will not enjoy it too.
@Cathzsmile (171)
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
Sometimes, we forgot to say thank you and I love you to our parents. Most especially to our mother who takes good care of the family and to her own children. They are known to be over protective to their children because they always want to have all the best for them. Why don't we try to understand them? Let us try to treat them not just only a mother figure at home but as a different person or individual, as a friend, as a teacher and as a good protector of the family. When was the last time that you tell your mother a simple sweet words like "I love you and thank you"? Have you hug her lately to show how much you care?
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@gapeach65 (805)
• United States
10 Apr 07
I know it's hard, but a mother needs to let go of her children to allow them to grow into adults. My mother didn't expect much from us once we were grown and had families of our own. If she called me and knew that my husband or children had come home, she would end the phone call, and she always wanted us to put our families first. My ex Husband's mother still is not like that, she expects her children to drop everything to fit her into their plans. That's ok, but only to a point. An example is for Easter, I had planned to have dinner at 2 PM, and I let my children know this in early March, their Grandmother called on Saturday and said she wanted hem to come over at 2 on Sunday, they of course told her that they already had plans (my 18 year old had just gotten back in town from Spring break and my daughter was out of town for the week, but still says she would have come here, because I had invited them first). I think that you should always be available to your children, but if they're grown, you should let it be on their terms. I always remember part of a wedding song where it says "a man shall leave his mother and a woman leave he home...and the two shall be as one". My first husband never quite got that, he always put his mom before his family, because she expected him too.
@Cathzsmile (171)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
I think I can relate to you because my late father was been a good son to my grandmother and to his younger brothers. Unfortunately, he became a little bit of irresponsible to his own children and to his wife. I think a mother should know how to put their limitations most especially when her son/daughter has its own family. I don't say that mother should ignore her own fruit of life but atleast to watch over and to guide them in making a new life with a new member of the family.
• United States
10 Apr 07
No. i don't think you need to continue too baby your kids after they reach a certain age. then they become spoiled and don't want to get out into the world. they wont be able to stand on their own. I am struggling with this probably my self at the moment.
