Have you ever felt like crying in public and went with the feeling?
By gapeach65
@gapeach65 (805)
United States
April 13, 2007 8:36am CST
I had a situation yesterday, my mother-in-law had to go for some pre op test for surgery next week. It just so happened that the tests were being done in the hospital where my mother spent the last month of her life and where she died, a little more that 7 weeks ago. I was ok while she and I were in the waiting room and talking, then they took her back in for the tests. I was sitting there, in a waiting room full of people and the feeling hit, I couldn't get it out of my head that mom passed away there so recently. I felt my eyes well up with tears, but refuses to let them fall. I have a real problem with crying in front of people, much less in from of a room full of strangers. There were quite a few older people around me, and I just didn't want any on them asking what was wrong. I called my husband and told him that it was hard to be sitting there. He was reassuring as always, but the feeling wouldn't pass this time. He told me to just go with the feeling and let it out, I wouldn't because I knew if I if I started, I wouldn't be able to stop. I was so thankful when my mother-in-law came back out. I hurried out in front of her to pull the car around to pick her up, and I felt a little better when I felt the rush of cool air on my face. I didn't want to talk to her about it, so I welcomed the few moments alone. Has anyone else ever felt the urge to cry in public, and did you go with the feeling or resist it?
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@patgalca (18181)
• Orangeville, Ontario
13 Apr 07
When I go for my walk my mind sometimes wanders. I think about my Dad who passed away last year, think about receiving the phone call. I could be walking outside or I could be at the indoor walking track with 20 other people. If I have to cry, I let it to. Heck, I have even found myself crying in church. A friend sitting in front of me heard me sniffing. After mass she asked me if I was alright, did I have a cold. I told her I was just realizing that coming up was the first Christmas without my Dad. I bawled all the way out of the church with her with her arm around me.
It's hard to hold back tears. Heck, it's darn right impossible. And it's not healthy to keep them in. I just hate it when I get very upset and I cry so hard my chest hurts. I don't think THAT is healthy.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
13 Apr 07
My hardest time is when I'm working in the garden, my mind wanders and I think of my grandparents who I was very close to and have both passed - they both loved gardening and I'm sure that's were I got it from.
I also have a difficult time in church, one particular song always reminds me of my father but often a sermon will just touch me so deeply I start sniffling. I am blessed there is a couple I usually sit nearby and she always has kleenx in her purse and both are very 'parently' towards me and will comfort as needed.
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@MGjhaud (23251)
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
yes. i could remember one time i was in jeepney and i felt like my tears would really come out,i turned my head back to people riding with me. its a bit awkward but i felt better then. there was also one time when i came in school
, my classmates was sitting at the lobby chatting so when they saw me they chatted some things about whatever then when they noticed i was responding like there's some problem going on with me they asked and i admitted that i really a problem but i didn't say anything about it. so when i left them going upstairs, i felt that im on the verge of tears so i didn't went straight to my classroom but instead,i went in to the school chapel.there i cried.
@sanjaypatel250174 (250)
• India
14 Apr 07
I can undesatnd what you feel.Its quite human to cry.If i have to cry,then i do cry.......
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
16 Apr 07
There are so many times I felt like crying when I am travelling alone in the bus. And at times, I did drop tears. There is once I not on the bus and was walking when I started to feel sad. I almost give a loud cry until I realised someone is watching me. I thought I was alone. lol.
It made me very conscious of myself from then onwards. I do not want to give anyone the impression that I am in trouble and think that I might do something silly and start following me around. Now, if I feel the need to sob, I sob quieting in bed, confined within the 4 walls of my own bedroom.
@karissaveloso (61)
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
Yes, I've had that feeling a couple of times. I super know how it is whenever you get to that moment when you feel like crying outside the comfort of your own home. It has always been hard for me to cry in front of so many people that's why I always control whenever tears start to well up my eyes.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I am a crier - I cry at the drop of a hate, it may be something personally connected to me or may be something not at all connected to me.
I think you have every reason to be emotional right now, you just lost someone very important in your life. Although I am sure you would be a bit embarrassed showing your emotions in front of a room full of strangers at the same time just think that in your case just about all of them would do the same thing... Let your feelings out it's to be expected and if people look funny then it's their problem not yours.
@andreaskye (390)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I do not hesitate to cry when I feel like it.
I used to be less that way until i decided to be unashamed of my feelings, good or bad.
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